(Closed) newborn babies VENT… long

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: How old were your newborns when you started taking them out in public?
    within the first week : (27 votes)
    47 %
    1-2 weeks : (10 votes)
    17 %
    3-4 weeks : (10 votes)
    17 %
    more than 4 weeks : (11 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’ve always been told babies are born with better immune systems than we have. It’s her choice. It’s likely my baby will be travelling within the first 2 weeks. Not worried about it.

    Post # 4
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    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think of parenting as one of those “don’t say anything unless you’re asked for your opinion” topics.  I wouldn’t have said anything if I were you, but that’s just me. 

    Post # 5
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    6824 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It is a personal decision on the parent if they are to be taking their child out in public the first week of life and it reflects poorly on you for flipping out on her.

    For us personally we were told to limit contact with the public due to our muchkin was a premie.  Huge difference though from full term to preterm baby…

    We were in the hospital a month before muchkin came home, and to be honest within the first week of coming home, we did do a store run with just muchkin and I.  However I did not let the general public near him.

    It is not your place to say how she raises her child.

    Post # 6
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Well it seems like your friend is a multifaceted issue. Taking your baby out is one thing. Not taking a sick baby to a doctor is another. Drinking, driving while on medication is another thing.

    I realize you frustration! Unfortunately she will only become more indignant with your plights! If its really becoming dangerous you could call DCF. Sorry, I wish I had more advice!

    Post # 7
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    46129 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Like most issues between friends, both of you need to act a little more maturely.

     

    Post # 8
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    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    i agree with the PP that it is a personal decison. moms are entitled to make those decisions for their babies! But i’ll add my opinion – I probably won’t be taking my child out and about that early! but that’s just me!

     

    Post # 10
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    5978 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Holy drama. I would stay out of this. It’s not your place to tell someone else how to parent their child unless they ask for your advice. 

    Post # 11
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    3758 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    There are things that some parents do that I don’t agree with but unless it is something that is obviously lifethreatening it is best not to say anything because it is really isn’t anyones place to tell a parent how to raise thier children. And even if you may have a good point, any parent will likely just get upset when you tell them they are parenting wrong.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Yes, you are wrong for telling her off. To be honest, I don’t see what the problem is with taking a newborn out in public. My friend brought her newborn to universty classes & she turned out awesome: All they do is sleep anyway.

    I feel like this whole back & forth isn’t really the classiest. Maybe your ‘friend’ isn’t making the best decisions but badmouthing her on the internet is bringing you down to her level in my books.

    Post # 14
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    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    amanda923: Yea…so you are kinda really in the wrong here, sorry. 

    Post # 15
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    9631 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

     @amanda923:  

    OMG, I completely agree with you, I’m horrified by this story.  I didn’t take my baby boy out in public for over a month after he was born (which may have been a little extreme, I know, but that’s me, lol).  At least you know you tried to set your friend straight, and unless she outright abuses or neglects her child there isn’t a lot more you can do. 

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would have stayed out of it. Just like she said, it’s not really any of your business. Sure she should stay home with the baby for a couple weeks, but you have no right to actually tell her that. If you think it’s wrong, do the opposite w/ your kids (which you have). Baby’s are pretty tough and can handle more than what people give them credit for.

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