Post # 1
So bee’s I’m taking this from a thread I saw on the WTEWYE app in the boards…
A women was complaining about the fact that when she had her baby, her 2-3 yr old daughter was not allowed into the hospital room (on the mat ward) to be with them and it made me think. I’m personally just on my first pregnancy right now (so no other kids) but as much as it would SUCK not to be able to have your other kid(s) come see you in the hospital (or other immediate family for that matter like your or DH parents) but….I wouldnt WANT to expose my only a few hours old baby to the N-A-S-T-Y (and lately) dangerous flu virus’s that seem to be going around these days!
just to clarifty, this post is just a “theoredical what if situation”….
As far as I know (maybe Im wrong) but babies dont have very high immune systems when just born and us pregos are/will be vulnerable when we give birth. I’m due in February and it makes me nervous because here its smack in the middle of flu season. Last year there were some really bad strains so much that people were hospitalized from it.
I guess the point Im getting to is… I got into a convo with another prego and she said “well…. i’ll be letting my parents in no matter what even if they are sick…they are the grandparents”, and I thought to myself are you an idiot? lol I mean…. your willing to risk having your newborn get sick as well as yourself in the first weeks home? The baby will STILL BE THERE in a week or 2 or however long it takes them to get better??? The last thing I want to have to deal with at that time is a sick baby or a sick me!
not to mention you’d be allowing sick people onto a maternity ward with other newborns and mothers….. kind of irresponsible dont you think? (maybe the nurses turn people away if they notice? I have no idea) Especially if your in a shared room! Obviously when you go home from the hospital if you have another child and they are sick there’s nothing you can do other then be vigilant, but in terms of letting others visit including your own parents where you have control of the exposure…. will you be having a “ya not until your better/mostly better” policy? I know there’s only so much you can have control over… but this IS one of those things. I really hope my IL’s arnt sick because they will FREAK OUT lol.
What do you guys think?
Post # 2
If my family members were sick I would probably let them see the baby, but not hold him or her. If it was absolutely necessary for some reason I would request they wash their hands and wear a mask. And I’m assuming this is something like a cold, not the flu etc.
Post # 3
shanbp: I’ll have to say, we were very viligant about NO sick people around her. In fact, no one saw our daughter (except our moms) well until she was 2-3 months old. Our moms saw her the day after she was born, and didn’t see her until I went back to work and my husband and I wanted to deal with people again. But that’s what we chose, I know that’s extreme and it doesn’t work for everyone (but she was born in January) and we didn’t want to risk her getting very sick very quickly.
Post # 4
Westwood: ya if its something thats not too bad I’d say ok come over, but you can go holding and kissing the baby…. but if people are hacking all over the place and can barely talk because their throats are so soar and (everything the whole family caught last year) then I’d be like nope… not even comin over! …. you know like the bad enough “had to stay home from work sick”!
Post # 5
I would FREAK OUT too! sick people need to stay away from babies
Post # 6
i was pregnant earlier this year and would have been due in november (thanksgiving week) and i was planning on basically being a shut-in for the first 2 months.
my husband has 13 nieces and nephews and when one kid gets sick, it very quickly spreads to everyone else (thank god i have a pretty good immune system), so there’s no way i was going to expose my newborn to a bunch of germy people.
Post # 7
My DD was born in November of last year. I was adamant about not letting her near sick people. It’s just not worth it. I also feel like people who are sick should not make the selfish decision to visit a newborn.
Post # 8
I cant say I would exclude my parents or inlaws from seeing my new born baby… but it would be brief and at a distance- like through a window.
If it were anyone else (aunts/uncles/cousins/siblings etc. they would have to wait until they were better)
Post # 9
I was very vigilant about not letting any sick people around our son, born in January, and he still caught a virus and passed away. It is the worst thing that could ever happen, but I could not imagine the guilt I would feel if there was anything that I could have done to prevent it (ie letting sick family around him). I am super paranoid now, and won’t let anyone at all around our new baby due in March, but especially not anyone sick! How stupid!
Post # 10
shanbp: People (at any age) showing visible signs of illness (especially during flu season) were not allowed into the maternity ward at our hospital.
My baby was born mid-feb and I really didn’t worry too much about her getting sick. I wouldn’t let someone with a raging illness hold her or anything, but honestly I didn’t even require people to wash their hands before holding her and she was fine. I’m not sure if they did or not, I was too tired to notice. We were also out and about from day 5 or so. Only our parents and siblings saw her in the hospital and for the first 2-3 weeks home anyways. I don’t think any of those people would have come near her if they weren’t feeling well anyways.
Post # 11
shanbp: Babies are actually born with a certain level of immunity that they get from their mother. So, in general you don’t have to be hyper paranoid.
It is dangerous for newborns to get whooping cough or the flu. You can help prevent that by being up to date with your own immunizations and encouraging those around you to do the same.
I’m not saying that you should deliberately expose babies to known sick people, but they are tougher than you think.
We know that a newborn’s immune system is not nearly as effective as an adult’s or even an older child’s, and that it takes many months before a newborn can fight off infection as well as someone whose immune system is fully matured. Nonetheless, you may be pleasantly reassured to know that newborns are much better protected against (or immune to) potential illnesses and diseases than you might otherwise think. This is because during pregnancy, disease-fighting antibodies made in the mother’s immune system are able to make their way across the placenta and into her baby’s body. Fortunately, these antibodies stick around for several months and are able to give newborns an added level of protection from many routine illnesses during this important time when they are not as able to effectively make their own antibodies. However, all good things must come to an end, and infants gradually get less and less benefit from their mothers’ antibodies—that is, unless they are breastfed.
Post # 12
MrsWBS: +1 Same experience. Nobody that was sick was allowed in the maternity ward.
I had my son end of March, and nobody sick came in to hold our baby. I also wasn’t too worried about him getting sick either. I chanced it and took my son, at 2 days old, to see his great grandma in the nursing home. At a few weeks old (or maybe he was only a week, I don’t remember) he also went to the middle school that my husband teaches at so the kids could sing our son a special song. Maybe I took a few risks with my son, but everyone (including the kids) were very respectful not to touch him. Of course I wouldn’t have done that if the flu was going around or something, so I made sure it was safe.
Post # 13
Sick people are most contagious before they start showing symptoms. Newborns also receive a level of immunity from the mother via the placenta before birth: that’s why mothers can be vaccinated against several common illnesses whilst pregnant, because they pass on their immunity to their child via the placenta.
It’s also pretty hard to protect your kids from the common cold. What happens if a woman in labour has a cold? They can’t just isolate her.
Post # 14
LAZB: oh my god I am so sorry you had to go through that! I can’t imagine how painful that must have been. I don’t blame you in how you feel now I would be locking my doors :s
Rachel631: I know what you mean exactly there’s only so much you can do/control and yes what if the mother is sick or the husband… At that point there’s nothing you can do But it’s more about would you knowingly have people visiting/ put yourself and the baby in a position that you CAN control. IMO no one other then myself and DH actually NEEDS to see the baby immediatly, everyone else including or parents is a “want”. My parents actually don’t live in the province we do and will not be flying out for 2 weeks after the baby is born so we can have some privacy before we have houseguests….. If my own mom can wait 2 weeks to be near the baby so can my inlaws if need be ….. Everyone will survive lol
SparkleBee11: for sure if it was an at a distance thing/brief/through a window ….. I wouldn’t keep anyone from SEEiNG them just not in person holding etc…. I don’t think either of our parents would be able to handle being in the same room without being able to hold and kiss the baby…. FACETIME lol
Post # 15
No sick family members will be allowed to see our newborn (I’m also due in February), and we are probably not letting our three under 4 year old nieces see the baby for at least a few weeks after he’s born.