Post # 1
Hello Bee’s. Not sure if there are many of you that might be in my situation but i thought i would try this anyways and see if anyone could relate! 🙂
Firstly i am 19 weeks pregnant. (hurray) first baby! My husband works 2 weeks away from home and then has 2 weeks off at home. Our baby is due december 28th. DH will be taking 3 weeks off when the baby shows up, then he will be going to work for one week and back home for 3 weeks. So out of 7 weeks he will be off work / on vacation pay for 6/7 weeks!! So thankful for that!! xo
my worry is what happens when he goes back to work on his regular 2 weeks working 2 weeks home? Baby will be 2 months old at that point. How do you manage long distance relationships with a newborn. I am nervous that i will be SO exhasted while he’s away.
Single momma’s do it all the time, they are strong amazing women who raise those babies with no help and they make it work. Which gives me hope that i will be able to handle it too!
My sweet husband that he is, is worried that i will be too stressed and that he will have to leave a job he loves to come back into town to work. Which doesnt make sense as his job is amazing and it also pays x2 as much as he would make in town.
My question is: If you are in a long distant relationship / marriage. How to you juggle that with a newborn in the mix too? Any advice from other mommas wouldbe much appreciated. xo
Post # 4
Would you be able to live off his salary if he were to get a job closer to home? That seems like a long time for a father to be away from his child (and from you!). I could maybe understand if it was a temporary situation but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case.
Post # 5
@As_You_Wish: We could, but its the difference between a 55 k job and a 130 k job. If he were to work in town he would be on shift work at an industrial mine and he would only see his child on weekends. Due to the schedual of working in town. I would never say he should work back in town because frankly the dads who work up there say they have a better relationship with their children being able to be at home, in the house for 2 solid weeks at a time vs. only seeing their kids on weekends.
If you look at it in a 4 week sense, that means 14 days he spends working BUT 14 days at home bonding with his child 24/7. Where as if he worked in town he would work 20 days and only have 8 days at home. We’re both supportive of his work and it wont change after babys born.
I guess my question is: How do you transition from having him home and that routine you share together with the baby, and then having him gone and having your own routine but having to switch back when he is back in town?
I guess its a hard question as No one but long distance relationships would understand. ? I have family i can rely on while he is gone to come over and take the baby for a bit so i can shower ext. I guess i am just looking for personal experiences with people in situations similar to mine. 🙂
EDIT: also for some background info me and DH have been long distance doing this for 2 years out of our 7 year relationship so we’re good at the LDR thing. 🙂