(Closed) Newcomer!!! Help with long distance planning!!! :(

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Congratulations, I hope he makes it official soon!

That said, I wouldn’t make any solid plans until he has officially popped the question. Once he does, the main thing I think you should think about is looking up the wedding regulations /laws in Sri Lanka, so that you can get an idea of what getting married there entails. Different countries have different legal routes and it is important that you don’t rush into planning and then find out later you can’t get married there without a certain piece of paper. Secondly start thinking of dates, especially looking at what the weather is like in Sri Lanka as this could really influence your choice and use trusty google to scope out some potential wedding venues so you can get an idea of what sort of place you want to get married in. I know there are some companies that organise weddings abroad for those who are nervous doing it themselves (here in the UK several high street travel agencies offer wedding holiday packages) so maybe if you are at a loss of where to start, discussing your options with one of these companies can give you some ideas.  

Post # 4
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with @Sibiohan:  Even if you are 99% sure he will propose the next time you see each other, on the off chance he doesn’t, you’ll be disappointed. And if you already started making plans without him, it may put some unwanted pressure on the situation. I was waiting for a long time, and our engagement happened pretty haphazardly. I think if you need to keep your hands busy with something for your wedding, the best place to start would be to find out the legal requirements for marrying in Sri Lanka. Good luck!

Post # 5
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I opened this thread thinking I could offer advice since we live in Maryland and our wedding is in Massachusetts.  But no, I got nothing for such a long distance!  I think maybe your best bet is to check out the advice from brides about planning destination weddings, since that’s kind of what you have going on here.  Some bees plan with far away FIs, especially military brides, so you might check those boards too if you would like advice about how to plan when you two are far apart.  I second PP in making sure to check on what kind of documentation you’ll need in Sri Lanka.  Just out of curiosity, why Sri Lanka?

Post # 7
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am planning a French wedding from the US and the biggest advice I can give you is to have somebody you can rely on who is already in Sri Lanka and can talk in person to the vendors and give you feed back. It can be a family member, a friend, a wedding planner… Somebody who is organized and whom you trust with making decisions fast. In my case, it was my mom and she was a life saver. I picked the vendors on internet and interviewed them by email, Skype or phone calls then leaved it up to my mom to make the final choice if needed (for example, I gave her 2 caterers I really liked and she is the one who went to the tasting, negociated with them and made the final decision).

I don’t know if you go to Sri Lanka regularly but I would recommand that either of you make the trip at least once (preferably about 6 months before the date) and have a wedding marathon meeting vendors, checking logistics, etc.

It is a pain and pretty stressful at time, but if you can delegate to an extend, you can do it. Lots of people told me I was crazy to plan a wedding from a distance but it is possible.

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