Post # 1
I just got engaged a couple weeks ago and I have started the preliminary searches and research that allows me to get ideas without making decisions. We still haven’t figured our our wedding date yet because we are waiting on my school schedule but if everything is cleared we are thinking of next summer.
Until recently I’ve been thinking about our wedding party. I come from a huge family and I have three sisters. I also have three best friends that i’ve known for years and on top of that my college best friends. I don’t really want a huge wedding party or a huge wedding for that matter but my immediate family is huge too! I have decided on all three of my best friends for childhood and one of my sisters but my college friends are important as well.
Anyone have any suggestions or has been in the same situation?
Post # 3
My sister had the same issue of having so many important people she wanted to include. She had a couple of them serve as candle lighters but they still got their hair down with us and got ready with us just like the bridesmaids. She also had some serve as readers (they also got their hair done and got ready with us) and some as guest book attendants.
Post # 4
So… okay. Here are my two cents.
I say, pick all of your sisters. They are family, and while your friends might be closer, you really might regret not having all your sisters in your party. (I have friends closer to me than my sister who is still in HS, but it just seemed right to have my sister over a friend).
Then either choose your BEST friend as Maid/Matron of Honor, or ask all 3 of your BF’s.
My favorite idea I have seen so far: Write a letter to all your closest friends and explain to them how special they are to you and that you want them to be honored on your day. Say that you wish you could have had so many people stand with you in your party (but the front of the church only holds so many!) and then say you would like them to wear your wedding color. Put their names on the program and if they are all wearing different shades of your main color, you will have amazing pics where you all fit in!
Check out this post on someone who did it… the letter she sends the girls is adorable. Just a thought! http://www.isntshelovely.org/2009/03/bridesmaids-without-title-or.html
Post # 5
Six bridesmaids really isn’t so huge these days. It’s pretty normal. I am having six! I know it’s so hard to choose among friends, but I don’t think it will go well for you to only pick one sister. Eesh. You should feel lucky that you have some many people to share in your day with you!
Post # 6
Have your three sisters and three long-time best friends as your bridesmaids. Then ask your college best friends to take on a special task such as doing a reading during the ceremony, being an usher, giving a toast, or doing something else that you or they think of.
I also like the idea of suggesting they wear a dress of their choosing in your colors, and placing their names in the program.
Post # 7
Thank you so much for your advice! I really like the idea of offering some of my friends alternative roles. I am still figuring it out but I know it will all work out in the end!