Post # 1
Hi All! I am newly engaged! All our friends and family seem to be very excited. Many have started asking questions about a date, etc.
He and I have been together nearly 4 years, and want to get married quickly. We don’t have money to spend on a wedding, so have been talking about eloping for quite some time (since before we were officially engaged). I am starting to feel bad now about eloping after seeing how excited everyone is.
If he and I elope, knowing his family, I think they will likely want to throw a big get together to celebrate. Anyone have some insight on this?
I am starting to feel reeeeeeally guilty about not including people but I know its what is best for us!
Post # 3
My friends had a family-only wedding in her Aunt’s garden on the coast. I saw the photos, it was beautiful and moving and exactly what they wanted. They had an afternoon tea there to celebrate
Then after their honeymoon they invited all of their friends (including me) to a posh Indian restaurant for a set price banquet to celebrate their marriage- no presents, just pay for your own banquet. It was perfect. As friends, we didn’t have to do our heads in thinking of a wedding present (they had already been living together for several years), they didn’t have to go to the cost and expense of a wedding dinner and everyone had a good time.
If you go against convention and do some variation of this, you may encounter some opposition from some close family and friends.
But here’s the rub- I am having a traditional wedding and I still get some odd comments and criticism over things I am doing.
Know that whatever you do, YOU CANNOT KEEP EVERYONE HAPPY. It is important to consider your parents’ wishes and those people you love but….
Be true to yourselves 🙂 Le this be your guide.