- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
I am new to the site and newly engaged. My engagement was a great suprise which I was all excited to announce to my family but before I could I have a death in the family so I decided to wait. I told people here and there but, didn’t make a big announcement or post it on FaceBook because it just didn’t seem appropriate. So there’s that. Then there is the fact that my BFF and I stop talking a while ago. I have no idea why. Maybe I said something that she didn’t like but, that’s nothing new to our friendship. We were very close – like sisters- and so we argued often but its been month since we talked and so not only could I not gush to my family about my engagement I didn’t have her either. So I’ve been supressing it but, it’s starting to really get to me. My pride won’t let me call her because I feel like I should just take that hint that our friendship is over and that she doesn’t care but, what if its just a simple misunderstanding. I don’t want to not have my friend around for my wedding – but I also don’t want to experience any more rejection by calling her and realizing that our friendship is in fact over.
I am not close with my family – in the sense that I already know that I’m having a destination wedding and that I’ll be shopping for a dress without my mom and there’s no way my dad is giving me away- he’s not even invited. So…. I really need a friend- I need somebody. I have no idea what to do. No one understands my family issues like her- I’m starting to feel like I should just go to the JOP and get it done so that my FI doesn’t have to sit around feeling sorry for me. This is his second wedding and so he doesn’t care about having showers and parties but he really wants it for me – but the sad truth is that it’s not something that I will have and it makes me sad. So should I just get over it and go get married and not call her. Or should I call since it is a monumental moment in my life and maybe she’d be upset that she missed it?
I really needed to get that off my chest – Whew! any response would be greatly appreciated.