Newly engaged!!! Don't know where to start…

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m newly engaged, too, but I hopped right on the planning train for logistical reasons (overseas family needs a date ASAP). My brother’s also newly engaged, but they’re waiting to do their planning because his FI is up for promotion at work. So it’s really up to a number of factors what order you should do things in.

I would maybe start by picking up a magazine like Brides which has an “engagement timeline” to help you try to figure out what you should do when. It’s also good for some ideas and day-dreaming, although most weddings featured in the magazine are pretty pricey. (I actually started getting it for free years ago, before I’d even met my FI. No clue why they keep coming to my house when we’ve never subscribed…)

I’d say that your budget should probably come first, no matter what you do. That way you’re not spending $$$$$ on a $$$$ budget. We set a ballpark budget first, followed quickly by a date so that our overseas peeps could know what’s up. And then we did major venue research because our date is going to be a popular one, but again, that’s all up to what our needs are. Your needs might be completely different. Maybe you have a dream venue and need to make your date work with them.

If you don’t have any reason why you need to start planning right now, you can always just savor the moment!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Congrats!!! I’m a September bride too! 🙂 My biggest advice would be VENUE VENUE VENUE! I got engaged in October and thought I had plenty of time but there were pretty slim pickings for venue. I lucked out and got the one I was in love with but that is really the one thing you cannot delay. Then focus on catering and photographer. I haven’t gotten much further than that, but once I booked venue things started falling into place. 

Sit down and put together a preliminary guest list so that you have an idea of guest count and can look for venues that fit your needs. Of course, set a budget too so that you aren’t dumping money out and ending up with a bill you didn’t plan for. There are a lot of great wedding checklists out there so start looking those over. They will probably tell you you are behind on several things but don’t panic – they are meant as a guide!

ENJOY the excitement! Don’t let the planning stress you out, it’s a lot but it should be fun and special so don’t lose sight of that! 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MittenZ:  That’s exactly where I started! You may be a little shocked at how quickly things add up but as long as you stick to your guns and are willing to compromise, you will be fine! It sounds like you have the same kind of personality as me, I am really laid back and just want to get married! Haha Just remember that as you plan…I got a little overwhelmed at first so I took a step back to get my bearings and all was well

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MittenZ:  Sounds like you are on the right track. The best way to save money is to be flexible! I had a date I liked but was willing to go with what was available if I fell in love with a certain venue. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@MittenZ:  Talk budget….guest list estimate…and then look at venue’s that can hold that amount of people and book a date – things go so fast! FI and I wanted 10/4/14 but there was nothing open in October except the 25th, nothing open in September, and only two Saturday’s in the beginning of August (in which it is hot here and I don’t wanna sweat myself out of a dress)….and then November brings deer hunting and Thanksgiving, December is my birthday, Christmas and New Year’s. That’s how we chose our date – going with the last Saturday that was left in October 🙂 And we booked over a year in advance. Sooo yeah. I don’t know what your area is like though!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Congratulations!

Can I advise – pinterest….. It’s a great way to keep a hold off all the ideas and inspiration 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

Big congrats hun!!!!

Where to start? I didn’t plan a traditional wedding, it all overwhelmed me (mainly the cost and the family stuff).

But, I’ve heard from other brides not to pick out your bridesmaids right off the bat. Take some time to decide.

Figure out what your budget is.

Decide what YOU want. It can be so easy to get caught up in what everyone else wants, and remember, your big day is really about you. Don’t share many of your wedding details with folks, because the more you share, the more people have opportunity to hijack your wedding! It won’t be possible to please everyone. 

Pick A, B, and C lists of people you want to invite if you are having a smaller wedding.

Try and not stress out about the little things. It will be a great day, but not everything has to be perfect. I suggest trying to keep things simple.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The first thing you need to do is decide on a budget, at least a general idea. Then you need to think really closely about your guest list. From there you need to decide where you want to get married, and start researching venues that will fit your guest list. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@MittenZ:  Congratulations!

I don’t know how much good advice I can offer you since I’ve just started on my planning journey as well. But don’t let things overwhelm you or stress you out. Know at least what your budget is and what kind of wedding you want (church, simple JP ceremony, etc).

Most importantly, don’t forget to enjoy being engaged!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh my goodness, I can relate to how you feel! I’m currently stressing out about choosing the date and venue. After that, I feel like everything else will fall into place. Congratulations!!!

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Guest list! Decide how big you want it. Then you know what kind of venue you need, and if you need to make a budget you can base it off that. 

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