Post # 1
Hello ladies! Long time lurker, but only just joining now that my fiance proposed to me on New Years Eve! My Dad proposed to my Mom on New Years Eve, which made it extra special. We are so excited and in love.
We are long distance, and have been so for about 3 years, due to work and school. It hasn’t been fun, to say the least. (The long distance part, the relationship in general has been great!) Because of this, we are hoping for a short engagement. Right now we are hoping for an April wedding. I have my heart set on a certain venue, so it depends on their availability. It’s my church, which is exorbitantly expensive for nonmembers to use for a wedding, so my hope is that the date will be free. If not, we will reevaluate.
Anyway! Any Bees that had engagements this short? (3-4 months or less) How did you cope? Any tips? Thanks so much everybody! I look forward to participating more fully in this awesome community! 🙂
P.S. Since he is long distance, we went ahead and snapped some engagement pictures while he is in town. I’ve attached a couple because I love them. 🙂
Post # 3
I just wanted to say congratulations and beautiful photos!!
Post # 4
I got engaged in November and wedding date is Feb 8.
Honestly, not stressful. Just get down to business. Biggest thing for me was getting invitatiosns out in a timely manner (which I did, but I fretted about it a bit). I think more times allows for more stress. Short timelines put you in a “make a decision and move on” mindset. I am also benefiting from the fact that I had strong feelings about what my wedding should “feel” like, but nothing else. I wanted people to feel like they came over to my house for brunch and to celebrate our relationship and our community. So for me – small wedding, local cafe venue, brunch…easy peasy. No dancing, no crazy decor. Just some really yummy coffee mimosas and bacon.
I would sit down and really think about what you want out of your wedding. Find those non-negotiables, let the rest go. Frankly, people in my life who had truly lovely weddings, when they hear my timeline and plan, are like “if we could go back and do it again, we would do it just like that….” That breaks my heart. Don’t skip the reflection part – truly think about what you want if there were no expectations. Then make that happen.
Post # 5
@dplusc2014: Congratulations! I have a short engagement but not quite as short as yours! Good luck!
Post # 6
we just got engaged on December 19th and will be getting married February 23rd! We decided to have a small destination wedding at an all inclusive resort in Tulum, Mexico. Almost no planning Involved at all!
good luck and congrats!!
Post # 7
Congratulations and welcome! 🙂
Post # 8
i had a just under 8 month engagement. i could have planned in 3-4. though 6 would have been the perfect amount of time. first 2 months were busy, and then i didn’t really do anything else until the final 2 months.
i was so organized that when the government was shutdown for 3 weeks (i’m a fed employee) just before my wedding, i had nothing to do. i wished i wasn’t so organized during those weeks.
the key is staying organized. make a list of what you need to accomplish, give yourself deadlines, and do them.
Post # 9
@dplusc2014: First of all, congratulations!
Second of all, I am a Bee who had a short engagement (got engaged 7/14, got married 11/8 – all in the same year). From my experience, the key is to be realistic. DH and I never wanted a huge traditional wedding, but we wanted to do SOMETHING. Hence we got married at City Hall and the next day had a reception at this gorgeous restaurant/lounge/bar that we frequent on date nights. We kept the guest list at a manageable 60ish people, and I would make sure to spend each weekend from engagement to reception doing something wedding-related. Like one weekend was cake, the next weekend was invites, the weekend after that was favors/centerpieces, you get the idea. We also weren’t afraid to ask for help with the little stuff (picking out a guest book, the welcome table framed picture of us, etc.). All in all, it CAN be done. 🙂
Post # 10
I was engaged on August 17 and we are getting married in 23 more days! It was a real whirlwind in September and October but things are pretty much wrapped up by the beginning of November.
For me finding a venue that is all in one was key as I didn’t want the stress of hunting down tons of vendors. I only needed my flowers, DJ and photographer on top of the venue.
Also I wasn’t willing to do much DIY due to the timelines, that was my choice as I didn’t want the stress. My bestfriend also had a short engagement and she was making ribbon roses up until 2 days before the wedding.
Just relax and have fun! It can be done!
Post # 11
Congratulations! We were in a really similar position – we were actually long-distance up until about 6 weeks before the wedding. We were engaged for 7 months, and it was no problem at all. I definitely think I could have planned the wedding in less time.
I’d say get the basics sorted as soon as you can – set a budget, choose a date (and send out STDs), book a venue. Maybe choose a dress too (that was one of the first things I did…) I don’t think anything else is really as urgent, you’ve got plenty of time.
Post # 12
I got engaged in September and my wedding is in March. I didn’t think 6 months was short but everyone always exclaims how soon it is? Anyway, I say you can definitely do it in your time frame. Like pps have said, just stay organized. Create a list of your ideas and essentials on a timeline, create another list of vendors to fulfill those essentials and build a spreadsheet for your budget. Then get to work checking things off the lists!