Newly Engaged! Other Bees with short engagements?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
22 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

I just wanted to say congratulations and beautiful photos!!


Post # 4
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

First, congrats!

I got engaged in November and wedding date is Feb 8.  

Honestly, not stressful.  Just get down to business.  Biggest thing for me was getting invitatiosns out in a timely manner (which I did, but I fretted about it a bit). I think more times allows for more stress. Short timelines put you in a “make a decision and move on” mindset.   I am also benefiting from the fact that I had strong feelings about what my wedding should “feel” like, but nothing else. I wanted people to feel like they came over to my house for brunch and to celebrate our relationship and our community. So for me – small wedding, local cafe venue, brunch…easy peasy.  No dancing, no crazy decor. Just some really yummy coffee mimosas and bacon.

I would sit down and really think about what you want out of your wedding. Find those non-negotiables, let the rest go.  Frankly, people in my life who had truly lovely weddings, when they hear my timeline and plan, are like “if we could go back and do it again, we would do it just like that….”  That breaks my heart.  Don’t skip the reflection part – truly think about what you want if there were no expectations. Then make that happen.  

Post # 5
737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@dplusc2014:  Congratulations!  I have a short engagement but not quite as short as yours!  Good luck!

Post # 6
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

we just got engaged on December 19th and will be getting married February 23rd! We decided to have a small destination wedding at an all inclusive resort in Tulum, Mexico. Almost no planning Involved at all!

good luck and congrats!!

Post # 7
1425 posts
Bumble bee

Congratulations and welcome! 🙂

Post # 8
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


i had a just under 8 month engagement. i could have planned in 3-4. though 6 would have been the perfect amount of time.  first 2 months were busy, and then i didn’t really do anything else until the final 2 months.

i was so organized that when the government was shutdown for 3 weeks (i’m a fed employee) just before my wedding, i had nothing to do.  i wished i wasn’t so organized during those weeks.

the key is staying organized.  make a list of what you need to accomplish, give yourself deadlines, and do them.


Post # 9
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@dplusc2014:  First of all, congratulations!

Second of all, I am a Bee who had a short engagement (got engaged 7/14, got married 11/8 – all in the same year). From my experience, the key is to be realistic. DH and I never wanted a huge traditional wedding, but we wanted to do SOMETHING. Hence we got married at City Hall and the next day had a reception at this gorgeous restaurant/lounge/bar that we frequent on date nights. We kept the guest list at a manageable 60ish people, and I would make sure to spend each weekend from engagement to reception doing something wedding-related. Like one weekend was cake, the next weekend was invites, the weekend after that was favors/centerpieces, you get the idea. We also weren’t afraid to ask for help with the little stuff (picking out a guest book, the welcome table framed picture of us, etc.). All in all, it CAN be done. 🙂

Post # 10
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@dplusc2014:  Congratulations!!!

I was engaged on August 17 and we are getting married in 23 more days! It was a real whirlwind in September and October but things are pretty much wrapped up by the beginning of November.

For me finding a venue that is all in one was key as I didn’t want the stress of hunting down tons of vendors. I only needed my flowers, DJ and photographer on top of the venue.

Also I wasn’t willing to do much DIY due to the timelines, that was my choice as I didn’t want the stress. My bestfriend also had a short engagement and she was making ribbon roses up until 2 days before the wedding.

Just relax and have fun! It can be done!

Post # 11
24 posts
  • Wedding: December 2013

Congratulations! We were in a really similar position – we were actually long-distance up until about 6 weeks before the wedding. We were engaged for 7 months, and it was no problem at all. I definitely think I could have planned the wedding in less time. 

I’d say get the basics sorted as soon as you can – set a budget, choose a date (and send out STDs), book a venue. Maybe choose a dress too (that was one of the first things I did…) I don’t think anything else is really as urgent, you’ve got plenty of time. 

Post # 12
1470 posts
Bumble bee


I got engaged in September and my wedding is in March. I didn’t think 6 months was short but everyone always exclaims how soon it is? Anyway, I say you can definitely do it in your time frame. Like pps have said, just stay organized. Create a list of your ideas and essentials on a timeline, create another list of vendors to fulfill those essentials and build a spreadsheet for your budget. Then get to work checking things off the lists! 

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