(Closed) Newly engaged – where does a girl begin?!?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

first of all – congratulations and welcome!

i’m not actually engaged myself, but the one piece of advice i’ve seen is if you can afford it, take a breather before you start to plan anything.

enjoy being engaged, and slowly start to tackle the big things once you realize what you want the wedding to be like.

 

the bees on here are great so you’ll get lots of support!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Congrats!

 

We took about a month, and did NOTHING related to actually planning the wedding.  It was nice to just enjoy being engaged. 

After that we had to step on the gas a little because we booked our venue, and it was 8 months away!

I’d say the first place to start is to think of a general time of year you’d like to get married.  Looks like August from what you have above… Think about how much elbow grease you want to put into your wedding.  For me, I didn’t want my family to have to clean up after our wedding, so that led me to a more full-service venue.  Book a venue and things will fall in place.

Post # 5
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18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Congrats!  I think the first thing is to try and find a location.  Then based on availability, you will be able to figure out your wedding date.  Then you can book everything else!

EDIT: Oh yeah, first thing is first, the budget!  You need to know how much you are going to spend on the previously mentioned location before you find it!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Congrats Coffeebeans!  It is quite exciting!! 

First step would be to talk with your fiancee to figure out how what your budget will be and what details are important to you. Once you figure that out, you can start looking at venues, the food, your dress & accessories, invitations, etc. There are so many details to think about and will be quite overwhelming.  But fortunately for us, there are so many tools out there to use–such as this wonderful site (the HIVE is awesome), great wedding mags, and other wedding planning websites that contain good checklists.

Congrats again!  Look forward to hearing about your plans once you get them going. 

 

Post # 6
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Congrats Coffeebeans!  It is quite exciting!! 

First step would be to talk with your fiancee to figure out how what your budget will be and what details are important to you. Once you figure that out, you can start looking at venues, the food, your dress & accessories, invitations, etc. There are so many details to think about and will be quite overwhelming.  But fortunately for us, there are so many tools out there to use–such as this wonderful site (the HIVE is awesome), great wedding mags, and other wedding planning websites that contain good checklists.

Congrats again!  Look forward to hearing about your plans once you get them going. 

 

Post # 8
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142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

CONGRATULATIONS! That is great!

What I did first was think about our budget and how many people we wanted to invite. Then, we started looking for venues to accommodate that many people that fit in our budget. Everything else is falling into place from that.

Post # 9
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809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Welcome CoffeeBeans! 

I was SO overwhelmed when I started too. We had an idea of how much money we had to spend and then we started on the venue hunt. I called places, emailed and we went to look at lots until we found one we loved. I found it hard to do a true budget right away since I had no idea how much everything was going to cost. 

Good luck! 

Post # 10
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Congrats! and I totally get how you feel. Its so overwhelming… like where to even start?? Just take your time and work your way in order: 

1) budget!

2) venue/date

3) major vendors (caterer, if not provided by venue/photog/dj)

4) dress

5) secondary vendors (florist/bakery/paper goods/extras)

6) details

 

Post # 11
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I am so with you! I love researching and finding inspiration but when it comes to calling the shots I can’t commit to anything!

I’m planning to hire a wedding coordinator to keep me on track now that im 12 months out.

Post # 12
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2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Congratulations, and welcome.

I would recommend first talking to your FI (!) about what kind of wedding he would feel comfortable with. Is it important to him to invite every 2nd cousin? Would he prefer an intimate wedding? Do you want to get married in town, where you grew up, or somewhere exotic? Would he want something formal, or casual, or inbetween?

Then square that with your vision.

Once you have this worked out (and take your time) figure out what time frame you want to work with. Are you itching to get hitched? Or would you rather wait and plan the perfect event?

Then think about budget. Are you two paying for the whole thing, or will you have family contributions? What will this mean for the guest list and style. Have frank conversations with the parents about this.

Finally, choose a few good times, and go look at venues. Once you have a budget, a rough guest list, a style, and a date with venue set, things fall into place pretty well.

Good luck and have fun!

Post # 13
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1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Subscribe to Brides magazine or some other bridal magazine that suits your taste, and read it!  The ads will give you ideas for dresses and reception decor, and the articles will clue you in on protocol, trends, and other tips.

Buy a wedding planner/organizer binder that includes worksheets to calculate budget and keep track of all the vendors you book with and how much you’ve paid them.  If it includes helpful advice on what questions to ask of each vendor when you interview them, that’s good.  If it comes with organized pockets, even better!  Believe me, once you start collecting business cards and writing out checks and signing contracts, you’ll be glad you had an organized place to keep them all in.

Talk to your parents about the guest list ASAP so you know how many people you’re inviting.  This is essential, because it determines what size venue you’ll get, and has a huge impact on your total budget if you’re feeding them all at the reception.

Find a dress!  Find a venue!  If you’re getting married in a church, book it now!  These are the three things that should be taken care of as early as possible.

Congratulations!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Congrats on your engagement.  I have really enjoyed the Bride Guide app on my iPhone.  The list of “to do’s”  is pretty thorough.

Post # 15
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Here is a very helpful website with worksheets.

http://www.russellandhazel.com/content/wedding-templates

Also, I would recommend to start saving pictures on your computer.  When you do give it a name that will help catalog it.  Remember to save where you found it, in case you ever need to go back to the website.

ex: centerpieces 3 smp

So, the picture is a centerpiece idea.  It’s the 3rd picture i’ve saved for centerpieces and I found it on style me pretty. 

Sometimes I also add the date I found it.

 

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