Post # 1
The movies and books always make the first year of marriage seem happy, magical and blissful. I was wondering how many Bees actually found that when they got married, that their relationship with thier husband grew stronger and happier, or whether your relationship seemed to stay the same or go a bit down hill.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
It hasn’t been that long yet, but honestly I expect things to stay about the same. We were happy before, and we’re happy now.
Post # 4
I’m going to say yes! The thing with us though is that the planning period was so incredibly stressful b/c of my mom. So once we were married, it was like heaven for me b/c I didn’t have to deal with her on top of me for all of this stuff anymore. I think that made me appreciate my DH that much more.
Post # 5
I’m not married, but I’ve been warned about it going both ways. Some people call the first year the “honeymoon period” for obvious reasons, while others say most couples fight the most in their first year of marriage. I’d love to hear what people on here say.
Post # 6
I really think it was magical and blissful but not movie like. I felt more in love than ever before and I really really loved settling into married life with my husband. But in our first year of marriage we also dealt with a lay-off and some other trials and tribulations so it wasn’t all rainbows ya know? even given the circumstances it was amazing and I remember enjoying our 1 year anniversary dinner thinking back on that first year and how wonderful it was despite the bumps in the road. It will never be like the movies but that doesn’t mean its all downhill after marriage either.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I would say we’re stronger. Even after 7 years together, “married” means something very special to us. Now, we’ve had our normal fights (yes, we still fight about the same things we did 5-6 years ago), but I do think our bond is stronger. We’ve had a great 8 months, and we’re looking forward to 80 more years.
Post # 8
I’m only a little over 2 months in, but I voted anyways. We’ve been really happy and our relationship feels incredibly solid. We’ve lived together for over 2 years though, so there wasn’t really any adjustment. And it’s been so nice not having the stress of the wedding, we just get to relax and enjoy us. To me, it’s such a fantastic place to be in, in a relationship – no “waiting” and getting frustrated for the next step, no stress of the wedding. Just secure in your feelings for each other and living life together :).
Post # 9
Ours was the exact opposite of “marital bliss”. These boards are kind of rainbows and unicorns about it, but from looking around online and IRL, I think a rough start isn’t uncommon.
Post # 10
Honestly, I feel like the second year was better than the first, and so far the third year has been even better. I wouldn’t describe it as “magical”, but then again, I don’t think that I would describe anything as “magical”. I feel like my marriage is getting better and better with time.
Post # 11
Meh. We’ve been married ten months and it’s been no different than being engaged (we lived together before marriage). Then, we had the stress of planning a wedding. Now, we have the stress of starting a family, trying to pay off debt, etc.
Don’t get me wrong, we’re happy. And we love being married. I just wouldn’t say we went through a period that was all sunshine & rainbows.
Post # 12
I answered ‘no’ – not because our relationship took a turn, but because life was stressful (family illness, job stress, etc)
Post # 13
I think the whole “marriage changes everything” is such a load of crap. Nothing changed for us except for my last name! We’ve been just as happy in our first year of marriage as we were in our first year of dating.
Post # 14
Gee…not yet 2 months and a LOT has happened..definetly NOT rainbows and unicorns.
Post # 15
Our “honeymoon phase” lasted for the first couple months, but then we took a turn. When I look back now, it was all a lack of communication and DH not wanting to be confrontational (and between you and me, going a bit over-board over absolutely nothing), but it was nothing like “the movies and books” portray.
We’re still getting into a routine with each other, figuring our marriage and each other out and having constant communcation about things that are making us unhappy and trying to compromise and work through it. No sunshine and rainbows, far from it, but we’re very happy with how things are progressing with us.
I say this to everyone, marriage is HARD, but with the right person, is worth it!
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
The first year of marriage has been amazing for us. We had a rough engagement year, not within our relationship, but within my family. 3 deaths of loved ones, including a death just 6 days before the wedding, and the blow-up between my Mom and several family members, really made it a hard, emotionally draining year for me. Wedding planning was my bright spot amist a lot of sorrow.
But since the wedding things in life have slowly improved, and Mr. LK and I are happier than ever. I didn’t think that marriage would change our dynamic, since we’d already lived together for more than a year before the wedding, but I was wrong. Being married changed us and our relationship. It’s made us even stronger, and I fall in love with him more each and every day. Being married to him feels so amazingly warm, secure, happy, and lucky. Our marriage is like a warm blanket wrapped around our shoulders on a cold day. Could we survive without it? Yes. But is life better for having it? Absolutely. Would I give it up? Not a chance in hell.