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My mom would bug me about having a baby before I was even married. My brother has been married for a while so I would tell her to talk to him. My MIL is too nice to put that kind of pressure on us. Now that I am pregnant, they're both crazy excited.
I think my parents will be cool, because my sister already has provided them with 4 grandkids. I don't know about FMIL, though - methinks I detect a glimmer of baby fever in her eye.
@artbee: I am sure that even though our moms say that they can wait for grandkids (Hubby's parents have 6), they will be over the moon when I get pregnant.
@Beluga: lol My daddy has baby fever.
My parents are not feeling the pressure at all. My parents are still "young" (54) so they dont need to have grandchildren any time soon. DHs parents were bugging us for a while but then my SIL had a baby so the pressure will be off for a while!
I don't think my parents are yet. My mom's really good friend has 3 grandkids so if they want to do a kid outing like the zoo then my mom will borrow kids from the children pastor. Win-win all around.
At some point she would like her own but she wants to retire and be the babysitter but she's not able to retire yet so I think she hopes my sister and I wait just a little bit longer. But hubby and I won't start trying for at least 2-3 more years.
Oh god. Yes. At the wedding, my mom and aunt mentioned babies 2 or 3 times, and at the end of the night when I said we were unsure if we wanted kids, my dad informed me that I better have one or else he'll "rip one out of me"... uhmm...
But again, we're not even sure we want kids, and I don't want to feel guilted into it in order to make my parents grandparents, because guess what? At the end of the day, the kids is ours and it will be our responsibility to take care of it, not the grandparents. And we're just not sure if we want that responsibility!
My parents are still "young" too. They are 49 and 50, and about 90% of their friends are grandparents. lol We were just talking the other day about how "young" my grandmother was when she became a grandmother (I think she was about 41 or 42 then).
@rainbow: Hi date twin! You are so right! My mama was a SAHM when we were little so they didn't have to worry about childcare (which is super expensive). A few of our friends have babies and they tell us how expensive it is to buy diapers and formula. This is part of the reason why Hubby and I want to wait a few years. Of course, if it happened we would be happy. Until it happens we plan on waiting as long as we can.
I'm not even married yet but this is definitely already starting to come up.
FMIL gets her tea leaves read, and recently the reader told her that she would become a grandmother in the near future. She mentioned this to FI and I with a little smile on her face the next time we saw her. My response? "Oh, really? Who'd FI's brother knock up?"
FFIL laughed himself silly. Apparently he said the exact same thing to FMIL when she told him!
My parents are young (50) and they still have grandbaby fever! My mom can't wait to be a grandma and I think she secretly wishes that DH and I weren't planning to wait 3.5 to start TTC.
Trugem - they are already hassling you??? That's incredible!
We haven't felt any pressure from either parents yet. They want us to just enjoy being married first.
However, our grandparents might start talking grandbabies soon. But honestly, it is none of their business - like Rainbow said the two people who are solely responsible for raising the children would be me and DH; not our parents and certainly not our grandparents.
Oh yes...atleast my mom is ready. Thankfully, my sister got married 10 months after I did and got pregnant 3 months after that. So the pressure is off...for now...lol
Oh hell yes! When we went on our honeymoon, my dad blurted out in front of everyone that he hopes that this was a grandbaby making honeymoon. UGHH!
Oh god yes. DH's parents especially. They just had their 60th birthdays before our wedding, and his dad even mentioned in his speech that he wanted grandkids soon.
My parents are a little more laid back, but my mom had me when she was 21, so she's only 48 now. She told me once that I was under no circumstances to make her a grandmother until she's 50, so I've got at least two more years grace there.
@trugem: Ah that makes sense. None of my parent's peers are grandparents yet, so I guess that is another reason why they haven't started.
@Lindsay05: HAHA!!
We getting it from my parents and my sister has already provided a grand baby and step grandson that my parents love. His parents are being quiet, but his grandparents are dropping major hints. I even got are you going to have a baby soon from the receptionist at my Dentist's office this week.
Mostly from my sister in law. She has three already, so his parents are already grandparents. But his brother-in-law asks us every week if we have anything we want to tell them : ) Their youngest is 2 and she wants our kids to be friends. Hah.
I want kids and would love to have an announcement for them...but we know we won't get this time back, just the two of us, for a longgggg time!
We're beginning to get it from my parents more and more now that we've been married nearly a year and a half. My sister in law is expecting right now, so that's some pressure off of us. It's their third grandchild too. However, every child bearing aged, married woman I know is pregnant. There's a ton of people pregnant around us. It makes wanting to get pregnant and waiting until July to go off birth control harder. For me, there's pressure and baby rabies all around.
This makes me say YAY for surgical sterilization on both my part and FI's (though his mom wasn't happy when she found out about his snip-snip). I'm pretty sure FMIL blame the vasectomy on me, when in reality FI has wanted it for YEARS and made the appt once he discovered I was fine with it.
my parents have been really cool/low-pressure to my face, but I think they're either blabbing about wanting us to pop out babies to their friends, or are getting pressure from friends--Dh and i had dinner last weekend with a couple that are my parents' friends, and they asked when we were having kids, because they said my parents are apparently super stoked and planning to drop everything and move to whereever we are when we do....! my parents already have a granddaughter too--they love my niece more than anything. but i'm closer to them than my brother so they feel like when i have kids they'll get even more baby-playtime
My parents are DYING for grandchildren. They've been talking about it for years already (and both my sister and I just got married last year). My husband's parents on the other hand, both insist they are "too young" for grandchildren. They're both in their 50s. Both sets need to learn that we're going to have them when we want, not based on what YOU want!
Now the pressure is really on. My cousin just annouced that she is pregnant. So my parents are now one of the few people who don't have gradkids. My daddy said, "I want one too". lol
My parents are dying for grandkids as well! The inlaws already have 2 grandkids, with a 3rd on the way, so they aren't so concerned about us having kids.
My parents have already started making preparations, they have bought a new crew-cab truck (a my dad informed me it can have 2 car seats in the back), a new travel trailer with a set of bunk beds (so that my parents can take the grandkids camping for 2 weeks every summer). When my mom is done her masters in the spring, she is going to buy herself a new car for making the trips every second weekend to see her grandkids, they are doing a house reno to make the house more suitable for visiting grandkids ... and although we are semi-TTC, I am not even pregnant yet!
Our parents have been really hands off on this one, thank goodness! MIL likes to talk about babysitting (but only after she retires, she'll have you know!) but otherwise no pressure from them. My grandma, on the other hand, is all over it. "Don't you want to have a baby soon? Having kids is the best thing ever!" Sorry, grandma, it's just not the time yet!
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Grandparents? Most of the people my parents age are grandparents. Everytime my mama sees one of her classmates or friends they ask her how many grandkids she has. They make it seem like she is missing out. My mama says that she can wait. We haven't been married for 2 months yet. My daddy says that he is ready.
I even have some of my older cousins telling my mama that our baby (I'm not pregnant yet) should be due around Nov. because we were snowed in. lol They keep saying that we were having baby making weather. lol Almost everytime my mama goes out, people are asking if I'm pregnant yet.
Are your parents dealing with this too?