Post # 1
Hi everyone — I don’t really know how to file this one! My fiance and I are getting married in Aruba in October. My brother and his girlfriend have just decided that they are going to be getting married the week before us. I’m really excited about this – our wedding weekend will be their honeymoon. My brother and I have both been really slow to get married given that our dad has been married and divorced FOUR times and our mother twice. We’re both in our mid / late thirties and who’d ever thought we’d both get married within the same week?
I know they will be having a really modest local wedding wouldn’t dream of doing something like our Aruba wedding. I’d like to find ways to acknowledge them at our reception or at least somewhere during the weekend… Any ideas of things we could do? I’ve already called the hotel and been assured the honeymooners will be upgraded to an oceanview room and receive a welcome gift. Can you suggest any other ways that could make this weekend also a little bit theirs? Ways to make them feel special without making them uncomfortable? Our wedding is going to be pretty small – about 35 people, and my brother can only come for three nights since she has to get back to work. Thanks in advance.
Post # 3
Are you having a welcome dinner? Maybe you could make a toast to the newlyweds then.
Post # 4
I don’t know if they would be embarassed by this but could you play a song for them at the reception after your first dance? It would be a nice way to let them have a “first dance” and wouldn’t be too hard to accomplish.
Post # 5
Thanks. That might be cute. I’ll have to make a note of ‘their song’ at their wedding… actually, they’re not even sure they’re going to have music. Hopefully they will!
Post # 6
what a great sister you are! most people i know would just be annoyed that someone else is stealing their thunder but you’re excited and want to do something sweet for them! What about getting them a couples massage or something private so that way, they know you acknowledge them
Post # 7
First of all i think you’re a FABULOUS friend, sister and bride!
So many people these days worry about thunder stealing and I think you’re incredible for embracing the love of those near you and sharing their joy with your joy!!!
Hive round of applause here!!!! woo hoo!!!!!!!
Ok. Here’s what I’d do! I would introduce them and say something sweet at the rehersal dinner and then at the reception you could have something really fun and do what I did for a couple friend of mine at THEIR couples wedding shower I hosted several years back!
PLAY THE NEWLYWED GAME!
it’s loads of fun, provides FREE entertainment, and is a fun and hilarious way to toast the newlyweds! You could even have as “prizes” mimentos of Aruba for them ! You and your H could play against them or if there’s another newlywed couple (say within a year of marriage) you would have them play also!
We did this with 3 couples and had 5 questions chosen for them to answer. They were all “g” rated questions but funny ones. For our last question, we decided to FOREGO a question and have the groom peform a “carribbean interpretive dance” and use for props his choice of props we had for him: an umbrella hat for the beach, grass skirt, coconut bra, dreadlock wig, and sunglasses. We also let him draw from a crystal bowl to pick their dance tune(from our ipod and we had 3: hawaii five o theme, Stir it Up by Bob Marley, and last but not least, the macarena!
The winner wore the sunglasses, grass skirt, coconut bra, and the umbrella hat but for “special effect” used the printed menu I had lying around and rolled it up and created his own “carribbean smoking paraphenalia” if you know what I mean and did that at the end of the song ‘Stir if Up’ for dramatic effect! (of course it was not real).
We did this after everybody btw had a few cocktails and it was to this day, the most fun that the couple had during their whole engagement and wish we could have done this at their wedding reception! An island wedding and reception would be the perfect place to have this fun contest!
Post # 8
I am not sure about how you could honor them … maybe ask them about having a “first dance” as well at your wedding (then they could pick the song), have them at the “sweetheart table” with you guys …
I just really want to applaud you for being so enthusiastic and happy for them, I know some brides would be freaking out about having the attention stolen away, and I am so happy then you aren’t feeling that way and want to share the joy with them!
Post # 9
I have to ask you where your getting married, FI and I are going to Aruba for our honeymoon and we are so excited, I was just curious about your wedding.
Post # 10
I think you have a great idea about the honeymoon package. I dont have many ideas but I want to say what a great sister you are! It is so nice to see people on here that are happy their sibling/friend/etc is getting married so close to them and not distraught over it. It is so nice that you want to do something to acknowledge their marriage at your own reception.
I love bellangas idea about the Newleywed Game too 🙂
Post # 11
You are an awesome sister!
Maybe, instead of tossing the bouquet (if you were planning to do that), give the bouquet to your brother’s wife and say a little something about them and their marriage. Plus, I like the idea of playing “their” song for them to dance to.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
A toast, and a second, different cake, are two things I can think of. How nice of you to think of them at your own wedding!
Post # 13
I thnk a toast and a special dance are both great ideas! You’re so sweet to be including them at your wedding…lots of other brides would be upset to be getting married so close together!
Also very sweet of you to upgrade their room! What a great sister. Hope both the weddings are lovely!
Post # 14
I second the bouquet giving and the first dance song. One of my BMs will be celebrating her 1 year anniversary on my wedding day. To date, they have not had a reception or party, or anything. They simply got married at city hall on a Friday afternoon with just them and their parents. I planned on playing “their song” (so much as a song that means a lot to them) and letting them have a solo dance. But, the solo dance is not their style. Instead, I’m taking note of ALL of my BMs first dance songs and making sure they get played into the rotation. Most of the songs are fairly recognizable, and I like that each couple will get to have their own moment with each other when their song is played without having to be the center of attention.
How wonderful that they are choosing to celebrate with you in Aruba as well! You must have an AWESOME relationship with your brother!