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    soonerpsych    June 26, 2010   Oklahoman at heart, now in Southwest FL

    My husband and I moved a long ways from family and friends in August and we now know we're not going to be able to go home for Thanksgiving.  Since some family have talked about coming for Christmas, no one is planning on coming to us for Thanksgiving.  It will be the first time we've ever spent a "major" holiday alone and we're kinda bummed about it.  Have any of you spent a big holiday alone, and if so, what do you do?  Do you cook a full meal and everything? 

     
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    June Bug    June 5, 2010   Boulder, CO; McDonough, GA

    We just moved out west (our families are in Georgia), and will be doing our first Thanksgiving just the two of us. My mom used to make these little personal Cornish hens, so I might make a couple of those and a few side dishes-something to make it special but not go overboard. I think it'll be romantic :)

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Last year, we spent Christmas alone.  Didn't really do anything since my husband doesn't really love holidays like I do.

     
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    mrsmdphd    April 17, 2009  

    We're doing Thanksgiving alone, but we're doing it by choice!  We could have gone home to one parent's house or the other, but it feels really special to us to have Thanksgiving in our home as a newly married couple.  We love cooking together, so this is going to be super fun!  We'll see family at Christmas, but we're really looking forward to not having to travel anywhere--holiday travel is starting to lose its luster, the older we get.

     
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    bpcmarj    November 26, 2011   Massachusetts

    We did Thanksgiving alone last year, and since my family just moved away, we will most likely do Thanksgiving alone this year, too.  FI cooked a turkey last year, made some stuffing, and we made homemade mashed potatoes.  I know that FI doesn't like green bean casserole, but that's my favorite, so he surprised me with a little package of the frozen kind.  I thought it was sweet:)  Thanksgiving night, a friend of mine and her boyfriend came over for a glass of wine after they were done with dinner at her Mom's, and we have plans to do that again this year.

    All in all, it was a nice thanksgiving, and I am excited for that again this year.  It was overwhelming to try and see everyone on that one day, now we just have to worry about ourselves!

     
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    kartz_710    July 10, 2010   Washington, DC

    We're cooking for all of my family this year, but we have done Thanksgiving by ourselves several years in a row before (pre-marriage) and it was great! We tend to go all out and just freeze the leftovers, we open champagne and really enjoy not having to clean up after everyone once the day is over with.

    Try to do something to make it special, good luck!

     
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    LpCutiPie    July 3, 2010   Central Florida

    We spend Thanksgiving and Christmas with our families but DH and I make a point of having our own holiday in the beginning of December. We buy all the normal Thanksgiving fixings and cook together and just have a great time. It also leads to left-overs (which means cheap grocery bill for the week). I think you should take this as an opportunity to start your own family traditions.

     
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    In the media    June 29, 2013   Indiana, but wedding in St. Louis

    I've spent Christmas night alone (the parents left on Christmas Eve). I may have worked even.

     

    My BF and I are doing Thanksgiving alone. It will be OK...our apartment complex has some deal to get dinners so we can have all the fixins without having to cook. I think it is $6 a meal.

     
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    Allyser    September 1, 2010  

    We have been lucky to have our family be able to meet us for holidays or fly us in. But if we couldn't then i would defiantly have our own meal together! You can still make a sweet memory of your 1st holiday together. I would do a full meal- with smaller portions of corse. If i didn't feel like cooking it i would do one of those pre made grocery meals lol i know that is totally cheating but if you got it from whole foods or an other nice grocery store it could be really good! 

     
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    jennifera    May 9, 2009   Florida

    We did Thanksgiving alone last year and will do it alone this year.  It was actually really fun!  We made all the traditional stuff but it was a new experience doing it on our own.  I got to feel wifey and he felt all manly carving the turkey...not that he knew how but whatev.  We had so much fun though!  Not to be too cheesy but it was great quality time and I think we're both really looking forward to it this year.

     
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    crayfish    September 11, 2010   Berkeley, CA

    We are doing it alone this year. Since we just got married less than two months ago and it was a big week-long family marathon, we thought we earned the right to sit this one out and not travel! We're still going to cook the big meal, though - leftovers!!

     
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    We're doing it with one of Fiance's sisters who would be alone, so we thought "hey, why don't the three of us get together."  It's going to be fun.  She's always interesting and I want to show off some of the cooking skills my Fi and I have!

     
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    soonerpsych    June 26, 2010   Oklahoman at heart, now in Southwest FL

    I really like the idea of a bottle of chamagne and starting our own family traditions!  We've talked about doing an alternative meat (duck rather than turkey) and a variety of individual desserts so we can have all our favorites!  My husband is a food writer, so he wants to go crazy making everything to blog about it, which sounds like a fabulous plan to me.  We've also talked about going to the beach since we'll be somewhere warm on Thanksgiving for the first time in our lives!

     
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    cbee    July 26, 2010  

    Oh my gosh!  We are too!  We are going to be "alone" for the first time and I definitely plan on making something amazing.  We might start our own tradition too, I like that idea- we might have Chinese (just because we LIVE for it!)

     
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    We spent our first Thanksgiving alone by choice.  Basically while we were dating we would switch off Christmas and Thanksgiving at each other's parents' houses.  But that is EXPENSIVE since they live out of state.  So we made a conscious choice to spend our first year as newlyweds by ourselves.  We want to make our own traditions and solidify ourselves as a family.  This year we are also going to be alone, I think we've made Thanksgiving "our" holiday.  No traveling.  For Christmas his parents are visiting and we're going to Hawaii with my parents for Fourth of July.  But Turkey Day is our day to cook and entertain.  :-)

     
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    ellabee    July 3, 2011   Virginia

    sigh. that'll be us, too and i'm a little bummed too.

     

    hope it's really sweet and wonderful despite the circumstances!

     
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    AnamCara    April 10, 2010   Ireland/Connecticut

    There's no Thanksgiving in Ireland but now that we're in our house I'm planning on hosting Thanksgiving (on the Saturday after) for my in law's and some friends.  We may actually end up with about 15-20 people so who knows how it will go.  I really miss Thanksgiving at home - I haven't been home for it since 2005...  It's definitely worth celebrating it - no matter how simple or small the gathering!

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    I don't know if this counts, but we spend Christmas alone. We're Jewish so it's not a huge deal, but we still have our own traditions and it was weird to spend it alone for the first time. We just continued on with our tradition though (theme park and Chinese).

    Both of our parents live close so it's rare that we do anything alone.

     
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    PitBulLover    August 21, 2010  

    In college we spent Thanksgiving alone and it was a lot of fun! We did make a full Thanksgiving spread and cooked and ate all day! We had a fire and just watched movies and hung out while we cooked and after we ate. I really enjoyed it a lot. It wasnt stressful and it was just nice to be alone together on one of our favorite holidays!

     
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    Rgeddy    June 13, 2010   Raleigh, NC

    Not only are we doing thanksgiving alone - I'll be alone!  DH works thanksgiving day at the hospital.  He'll get home around 8:30pm.  There is no getting around the schedule.  It's mandatory.

    I may see if any of my friends are around but since most people have family plans it'll be just me and hopefully we can celebrate the holiday on Saturday.

     
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    aericka    May 27, 2011  

    Thanks for all the comments bees! We just got married in May and dont live near any friends and family right now. We were so concerned with doing Thanksgiving alone as our first major holiday. You guys have great ideas! I think we will spend the day cooking together, planning a fun menu before hand, taking a walk on the beach. For the evening we met a new couple who we will share our meal with :) Its kind of weird starting your 'own' family and 'own' traditions! But its exciting too! 

     
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    2bMrsG    October 13, 2011   Pittsburgh, PA (Las Vegas Wedding)

    We won't be spending the holidays alone this year, but I have spent holidays alone in the past unfortunately and trust me, it's much worse when you're single. At least you guys have each other which is a positive. There was one year that I decided to have a friend over the house and I cooked a small portioned meal which worked out very nice. Since you don't have any local friends, why not just cook a small meal together yourselves (leftovers could be refrigerated).

     
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    jalaamarie    October 1, 2011  

    We are doing Thanksgiving alone this year and I am really kind of bummed about out.  So bummed that I don't really want to cook.  But DH wants the whole 10 yards.. turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy, stuffing, green bean casserole, noodles, pie.  It just seems like so much food for 2 people.  And I am doing Weight Watchers and I don't want to have all the extra food around.  And I know I can cook smaller portions and healthier recipes but it is so hard to cook things like I listed above for 2 and holidays are the times for great homestyle recipes.  When I complained to my mom about DH wanting me to cook so much she insisted I should as I am now a wife and its my duty.  Ugh.  

     

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