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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    So I know it sounds crazy because we've only been married 2 1/2 weeks, but ever since our wedding I've been thinking about how much I would love to renew our vows on our first anniversary! I've never really liked the concept because it implies that your vows were broken, or got worn out or something. Of course, your wedding vows only need to happen once!

    Still, I honestly could have never anticipated how full of love and joy I was during those 20 minutes in our ceremony. I wish I had I realized how amazing and special it was going to be, but you can't really get it until it finally happens! I feel like I was too focused on all 200 of our guests enjoying themselves and everything going off without a hitch that I lost some of that joy quickly after the ceremony.

    I'd love nothing more to stand on the beach in a simple, pretty dress holding hands with my husband, and no one else there, and marry him all over again, this time reveling in that moment, in our joy, and nothing else. I can't believe how cheesy I sound but its how I really feel!

    I know my DH would up for it but I can't help but feel like its a little silly to do, especially after one year of marriage. I'd like to have a professional photographer capture it but I don't want people to think we are self-indulgent!

    Newlyweds, has this crossed your mind yet?

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    I've already considered this and DH is begging me for a break from wedding planning! ;)

     
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    JennyChicago    August 7, 2010  

    I am not a newlywed yet but I have totally considered it!! I just think I want to wait until we have our two kids we plan to have :) I don't think it's silly at all! Heidi Klum does it once a year LOL

     
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    ladyox    May 16, 2010  

    We secretly eloped a year before our big wedding, so technically we've already done a vow renewal once - and we plan on doing it every year!  We love the idea of celebrating our anniversary by saying our vows again but we will never, ever again plan something as big and expensive as our wedding! 

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    I see no problem with doing it once a year Heidi Klum and Seal style :) I think my husband and I will do something, like reread our vows, get dressed up, etc., every year on our anniversary. To me, there's nothing wrong to trying to relive the moment to bring to back to why you got married in the first place. Just because it's over doesn't mean it's done, you know?

     
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    fourpeass    August 14, 2010   New Haven, CT

    As long as it's just the two of you, then I don't see the problem. It sounds fun and romantic, go for it!

     
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    puppymom2006    December 16, 2006   Northeastern US

    I thought about it for our first anniv. but DH begged me not to make him "do that again."  I was PO'd until he clarified that he means standing up in front of church with "all your people" watching.  (Is it my fault he only knows like 30 people and I have 100 aunts, uncles and first cousins?)  I keep hoping for the Vegas Elvis wedding for our fifth :)

     
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    Farfromachildbride    March, 2010   Boston

    We jokingly talk about renewing our vows every year -- just as an excuse to get all of our friends & family together on an annual basis to have a big party with them again and again and again... :) 

     
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    Since we're having a really small wedding (30 people--only immediate family), we're going to have a party on our first or 2nd anniversary so all our friends and the rest of our family can meet, greet, enjoy each other. (By then, we should be happily employed and graduated from college)

     
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    bloodgo1    May 14, 2010   Royal Oak

    I think it would be romantic to have a vow renewal! If we did it it would just be the two of us though. Maybe someday we'll do it :)

     

     
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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    @beekiss, that sounds awesome! I'd like to do that in 25 years or so - invite everyone we invited to our wedding plus some to a big anniversary party!

    @bloodgo1, that's how I'd like to do it, but still with a few wedding-y elements like a white flowy dress and some flowers. Do you have a vow renewal officiated or can you just reread your vows to each other?

     
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    Ms. Purple    May 22, 2010   Toronto, Ontario

    we definitely plan on renewing our vows. i talked about it with my now husband and he too asked for a wedding break since we just got married. i was thinking some day when we're vacation alone for our anniversary and maybe down the line when we have kids so they can be part of it.

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I think if you're both up for it, you should do it.  I haven't even begun to consider it but after reading this post it sounds like a good idea.  We'd probably wait for our 5 year anniversary though.  I do want to go away for every anniversary, if we're able to.  It doesn't have to be extravagent, but something for just the 2 of us. 

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    My sis is doing the 20 year vow renewal in vegas!  With the elvis minister but elegantly.  Wynn style!

    I think it's fine if your H is up for it!  For us?  Who knows.  Probably at ever five year intervals.

    I think I know where my focus as a newlywed will go after the vows are said...into house design!  I still have to change focus of his home from his to ours and make it from bacheloriffic to verandah style! lol!  Interior design and having parties will become the new "thing" to plan for!

     

     
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    stormy9973    October 3, 2009   Ottawa, KS

    We are considering doing it for our 5 year anniversary when we head back to Hawaii, which is where we honeymooned.  We both had wanted to get married on a beach in Hawaii, but it would've cost quite a bit for our parents and close friends, so we didn't.  But if we do renew our vows again, it will be on a beach in Hawaii, and we plan on going back there for our 5 year anniversary anyway, so why not!!

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    we've already agreed not to do it. it's just not for me. i loved our wedding.... but i just don't need to do it again.

     
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    brittanymichelle    June 5, 2010   Cheyenne, Wy

    my wedding day sucked so bad, i've wanted a do-over ever since..

     
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    mrs.sunshine    July 10, 2010  

    My husband and I never talked about it. I would guess we could do it after 10 years of being married. We've always celebrated our month anniversary. (each month we were dating to the day we met, we would go out and have fun).

     
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    MaybeeBecca    August 22, 2009   Kansas City, MO

    We haven't talked about it, but I think that sounds sweet :-)

    I'm all for renewing your vows throughout the year even. Not necessarily in a dress-up big event way, but going back over what you vowed and reminding your spouse (and yourself) that you still mean what you said.

    For our first anniversary (two weeks from now!) I'm giving my husband a photo book with the vows I said to him written with some photos from our wedding day, because I want him to always know I still mean every word.

     
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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    We said that for our one year anniversary we are going to Vegas and we're getting married again there. So yea it's kind of a vow renewal. My hubby said we should get married in every state. I told him I thought he had lost his mind in Cancun on our honeymoon.

     
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    DecemberBride    December 5, 2009  

    We definitely want to renew our vows... I love the idea of doing it every year, but just the two of us, and then doing a bigger event every 5 or 10 years. Every year on our anniversary we're going to have dinner and stay the night at the hotel we got married in, so it would be perfect to do a vow renewal :)

     

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