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DH says the same thing! When I'm with him he flashes his ring at women no matter where we are (ever at the Burger King drive-thru), if they're being a little too friendly. I think it's adorable, since before we got married he didn't even think about other women flirting with him, he just ignored them. Now he gets all defensive! Too funny!
my husband is foxy and seems to always get attention from sales people, haha. Though I'm sure that his shiny new ring does catch peoples' eyes. I have heard that idea, though and think you're on to something!
My hubs is frickin' hawt and he gets hit on a lot, usually by gay guys. BUT. Here lately, yes, the women have been getting a little too upclose to him. This one chick totally gave him the walk by smirk flirt the other day, while I was standing right next to him! I looked at her back sternly as she walked away, but I don't think it was very effective. :/
I think it's because there seriously are skanks out there that actually look for married guys to flirt with or, even worse hook up with. You know.. because it's more of a challenge or some psychological BS like that.
If anyone tries to steal MY man, I'll punch her in the face!
tee hee.
lols at layla "I looked back at her sternly". Not yet married but just chiming in, women like challenges, and married men are a challenge because they're unattainable. Most women are respectful of this fact but others are ruthless and don't care.
My husband sends the girls in his office into giggles whenever he mentions his "wife." And he's definitely mentioned that he gets different reactions with his new shiny ring. I wonder how much of it is the "oh, this guy is not a threat" at least in the customer service industry. Like waitresses aren't keeping their guards up so they don't get hit on all the time?
Yeah my husband was happy to get a ring for the same reason - it's a chick magnet according to his married friends. Apparently because he's obviously not a commitment phobe? (Don't know how this works, because if a married man hits on you in a bar, he's obviously not that committed either!) Funny how mens brains work sometimes!
Our neighbor got married and he said that since he's had the ring on women having been eyeing and coming on to him more than ever so maybe there is some truth to it lol
Unfortunately, there are a lot of women that look only for married men. They consider them "safe". These women are not looking for a comittment. They are just looking for the challenge.
And you know what... it's not the other way around. Guys don't really notice me more when I was engaged or now that I'm married. (Not that I'm looking for it.)
Anyone watch the tv show, "Scrubs". Remember that scene where JD (I think) tells all the women in the area to take off their wedding band and all of sudden there's like 50 more women he didn't notice before. LOL
Funny how things work.
@noritake
You do have a good point. Some women do think that married men are safe because they are commited.
My DH and I were just talking about this the other day! He thinks it is because women feel safer that married men aren't thinking about getting down their pants. Or married men have a confidence that unmarried men do not. I have heard from some pilots that they look for other marrieds to have an affair with. That way both have something to lose. Isn't that horrible?
for my DH, I don't think it's the ring, but just the fact that I buy all his clothes now, got him to start working out, and get regular haircuts ;)
I feel like married men are probably sort of attractive to single women because being married means they can make a long term committment.. which is something so many women are looking for!! haha it makes sense!
I've heard it's a confidence thing. It's the same reason that when someone 'removes' themself from the dating feild, they often find someone shortly after.
Good thing we trust our spouses!
ps - I've also heard it works both ways, for women and men.
lmao @ cannotwait!
It's been the same with me - many more looks! i guess we're safe territory now!
I gotta admit, when I was single, if a sexy man had a wedding ring on, that made him sexier!! It's not as if I was AT ALL interested but as others have said, being commitment-oriented is a huge turn on. It gave me hope for the future, and soon I'll have my own sexy man with a ring!
I noticed this too but I know it was happening prior to us getting married. Women would approach him in stores and completely ignore that I am near him. Even some of our previous neighbors. They would say hi to him all the time but when I was alone, I got nothing. I was usually the one saying hi first.
Unfortunately, some women are just turned on by hot guys especially if they are unattainable. It's their little challenge.
Okay, I have to be honest...reading this thread kind of scares me! The last thing I want after I get married is to have to worry about women with "married men" obsessions!
Just yesterday, DH and I went to a party which was overwhelmingly single women (mostly attractive single women). We were with another married couple and just as we went to get out of the car, DH said, "Honey, can you do me a favor and hold my ring for me for a couple hours?" while pretending to hand me his wedding ring. He said it with a completely straight face...the other couple got the joke before I did and of course, laughed and encouraged his silly joke. Once I understood it, I told him "okay, you think you're funny eh? Well you will pay for that comment later Mr.!"
Moral of the story: He is currently picking me up lunch and delivering it to me, in a blizzard. ha ha funny man, who's funny now?!?!?!
@cannotwait: omg I just chuckled so hard at that. I totally thought the same thing!
It's funny because I think I get hit on less with my rings on. What's there to be said about that, hmm?
My FI's (unmarried) friend used to wear a wedding ring out to da clubs ... and *claimed* that women hit on him more than when he didn't wear it. So .... who knows? :p
Oh, and like that wasn´t enough, guys with babies are like magnets... I don´t need anyone to tell me that, I´ve seen it... you´ll see
Not on DH, tho, he is not allowed to get out of the house alone lol
@daniela- Oh man... thanks for reminding me of the guys with babies thing... I forgot about that one.
@Gemstone-- I was thinking the same thing. I'm just hoping I'm not around to see it.
@cannotwait-- That's hilarious.
I think ErinMarguerite might be on to something - on our minimoon I thought all of our male waiters were being too friendly with me - lol. I think there is an element of letting your gueard down with "safe" customers.
I worked at a big shoe store last year where I was sometimes assigned to the men's section. I have to admit that I was often friendlier to the married men just because they, as a whole, hit on me less and made me feel more comfortable. I'm not saying every single unmarried guy hit on me, but there were A LOT of inappropriate things said. I had guys try to put phone numbers in my back pockets, try to coerce me into leaving to go out with them, and much more. 95% of the time, these guys weren't married and so I always felt I knew what I was getting into a little more with married men.
That's not flirting, of course, just being friendly, but I could see how it would sometimes come off that way. Just wanted to put out an alternative to the home wrecker argument!
I totally believe it! My FI is a smokin man, in my opinion, so he already gets looks from ladies! This doesn't bother me, though! It does bother him when guys look at me. But I could only imagine the attention he's going to get from ladies when he gets his wedding band! Ladies are like homewreckers, if they know that the man's married, they just want to *see* if a married man would go outside of his married life & be interested in another woman! Or, just flirt back for that matter!
I am not sure about my hubby, but I feel like it's easier for ME to talk to other guys now that I'm married! Maybe because I feel secure in my relationship and I'm not looking to get hit on... On the other hand, my wedding set seems to turn guys off for the most part. I get hit on less ;)
Hmm, interesting. My husband seems to get attention from women when we go out. Not constantly, but it does happen quite a bit. But I think it's more b/c he has a unique look and he tends to stand out in a crowd. But I haven't noticed a difference since we got married. If anything, attention is less frequent now.
I don't this is the case for my hubby, but he tends to be kind of socially intimidating, so i don't think he got randomly hit on a lot. he's the kind of guy with a chilled out confidence that people admire from afar. i was totally intimidated after I first met him!
I haven't noticed any changes for him, but I have noticed more guys flirting with me! WTH? Can't they see I have a sparkly ring on my finger?
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Ok, DH says that he's noticed that now that he is married, he's been getting looks from more women. I asked him, if it wasn't just him thinking that, but he says that other coworkers have also noticed the increase attention he is getting because of his wedding ring. (A little background, he is a general manager of a seafood fast food restaurant. So he does have a lot of contact with customers.)
Anyway, now that he's brought this to my attention, I started noticing that, when we go shopping, sales women will come up to him and ask him if he needs help. But I'm like, 5 feet away from him and they don't even notice me. (I think this has nothing to do with us being married now... but it's just something I've come to notice. )
I also, do have to admit that I'm not an observant person. I don't stare at people, I don't notice what people wear. But now that he told me about this, I'm starting to be more observant.
Anyone else notice anything different since you've become married?