Newlyweds! Living with in-laws after marriage…Some advice please!

posted 4 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
18623 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly, I would do it for 3-6 months. That isn’t very long. As long as you have the ground rules down and they are okay with you paying so much or not at all to the household bills.

We lived my inlaws for a few months after we got married because we were renting our house out to move and it wasn’t so bad, we mostly kept to ourselves.

Post # 4
1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think its different for everyone BUT my husband and I lived with his parents for 5-6 months whilie we were saving and shopping for a home. There were some downsides as far as privacy but overall it was a great experience.

I guess the big thing that annoyed me was that I like to come home to quiet time and his mom was always home and wanting to chat. That was the worst thing though so definitely worth it in the end to have lots of money saved!!

Post # 6
2441 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it would depend on whether or not they would let you live your own life and merely use their house as a place to sleep and eat, or if they will be expecting you to spend all your time with them.

If you weren’t going to live with them…could you manage financially/how long would it take to repay your student loans this way?

Post # 7
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, I’d never want to do it.  I’d also never want to live with roommates either, though. I just like having my own space and can’t imagine living with anyone other than DH.  If you can pay your debt off in 3-6 months it can’t be that high and you can probably do it in just a little longer living on your own. 

Post # 8
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

No way.  If you’re mature enough to get married, you’re mature enough to live on your own, away from mommy and daddy.

Post # 9
13661 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Those three to six months will FLY by. If it means you guys getting out of debt and ready to buy a home, I’d absolutely go for it.

Post # 10
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wouldn’t do it. We’re not even married yet but felt we had to get ouF off our parents houses because they drove us crazy. It may take you slightly longer to pay off the debt but I think it’d be worth it to not live with them. Luckily my future in lhave loaned us a down payment on our house so we could start out debt free.

Post # 11
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Nope. Nope. Nope.  It would be a huge mistake, imo. 

Post # 12
1446 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsP0801:  Personally I wouldn’t do it, but that’s because my MIL is annoying and overbearing! If you set some ground rules between you and them and have a good relationship go for it! 

Post # 14
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We currently are living with my parents but we were able to live on our own for a year as newlyweds and then decided to move in with them so we could save up for a downpayment on a house which we’ll hopefully be closing on Oct 1st!!! It has been very difficult at time espceially since we are pregnant. It was very hard having “quality” time with DH.

Post # 15
2623 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

In this circumstance I would not doo it. Its obviously not a susbtantial loan debt if you can pay it off in 1/2 a year living with your in laws.

I rather take 1.5 years or live in a much cheaper apartment for the first year to get my debt paid off.

Unless in the house you would have a fair amount of personal and private space. IE your own living and sleeping area, bathroom etc.  Like an inlaw apartment away from the inlaws bedroom

Post # 16
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We will be doing that next year… get married, I move in with he and his mom for about a year until we’ve saved our pennies and our house is completed.

As long as it is not forever, I’ll do it. You and your MIL get along fine.

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