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My DJ played the wrong song for me to walk down the aisle to. BAD SURPRISE! Of course no one noticed but me, my dad (because I said something as I entered), DH and a couple of my BM's.
No surprises thanks goodness! We did cut our cake wrong. We asked what layer we were supposed to cut and no one around seemed to know. So we cut the top. Later, someone (I don't remember who) told us we were supposed to cut the bottom layer. It was no big deal though.
Bad Surprises (we were pretty lucky):
My bustle pulled out. My mom came armed with velcro dots (a MUST!) but when those pulled out for the second time, I was frustrated spending time alone trying to fix the bustle, and ended up schlepping my train around all night.
I let my sister convince me that I didn't want my phone and wallet in my clutch, despite the fact that I didn't carry my clutch. We got dropped off at the hotel, but with only half of my stuff. Keys, wallet, and phone all in the missing half. We got it straightened out, but it SUCKED! (Moral: Keep your stuff wherever you want to, but make sure YOU know where it is.)
Good Surprises:
Our rabbi was hilarious, and I was pleasantly surprised at how personal the ceremony was. We'd spent a lot of time with her, but neither of us were expecting something so us.
It was awesome, and I feel like there were a million good surprises. All of the toasts were incredible, the food was yummy, we actually ate dinner, we spent time together, but we also go to see all of our peeps. It was great.
Our Site Coordinator was really really witchy to all of our friendors, and super duper nice to Mr. Peng and I so we had no idea until we heard about it after the fact. We were super bummed that the people that worked so hard to make our wedding happen were treated so poorly!
Good surprise: We were married on an apple orchard farm, and I really wanted to use apple blossom branches for our centerpieces. When we visited the farm 1.5 weeks prior to the wedding, nothing. But the weekend of our wedding, they were in full bloom and we got the most gorgeous branches with flowering buds I could have hoped for. Apparently they only flower for about 4 days so we really lucked out.
Bad surprise: The venue was supposed to organize a babysitter for us, but about 5 minutes before I was to walk down the aisle I saw one of my friends sitting with her son in our prep area. She told me she didn't know where the babysitter was, and I marched over to one of the venue owners (thankfully he was nearby) and asked what was up? He told me, without apology, that their babysitter was unavailable so someone will be there at 5:00 -- for our 4:00 wedding! I was livid, but had to brush it off because I was literally minutes from the ceremony beginning.
DH surprised me by giving me a big hug and smooch when I reached the end of the aisle (before the ceremony started!!) Oopsies!
Surprise to the guests: We had an outdoor wedding on a ranch and my husband rode up to the ceremony spot on a beautiful horse, while the guitarist played Rawhide!
Surprise to me: Right after we were pronounced husband and wife, the ranch owner let all the horses out of the barn and they ran through the field behind us as we walked down the aisle. It was so cool!
One of my guests wore a white formal dress to my reception, my bustle ripped out, it was record breaking heat that day and my reception hall didn't have AC.... LOL!
Hmm good surprises? We had a potluck reception and all the food was amazing, the DJ played all my faves, and my strait-laced mom actually got up and got her groove on on the dance floor! Hehehe
I was surprised that I was asked to give my vows first. For some reason I assumed the man had to promise first... weird assumption, I know, but I was still caught off guard :-).
hmmm, lots of surprises, I'd say! First off, it was FREEZING out that day, 20 degrees colder than the day before or the day after. Not great for a beach ceremony and reception. Our caterer served the *wrong* meal at the reception and the food wasn't good AT ALL, which was surprising 'cause we'd had her food before and it was always good. Good surprises were that two of our friends has practiced long-distance via skype and performed a guitar/violin duet as we walked down the aisle! (we were expecting just the guitar), none of the kids or babies melted down at any point, my ringbearer nephew walked down the aisle without any problems, and my father in law busted out a tuxedo t-shirt under his buttondown while out on the dance floor! I was also surprised that my husband had a hard time getting through his vows without tears :)
Well .. our reception got really out of control ... at one point we were actually lifted up on the dance floor ... like at Jewish weddings - and we are not Jewish and it was a surprise LOL. I actually cannot wait to get our video ... lots of crazy things happened.
H was doing shots from our ice luge of vodka + redbull
and that is it for now but I'm still getting adjusted and recovering from my honeymoon! I'll get my thoughts together!
Bad surprise: The shuttle drivers took the longest route possible to and from the venue, which left a lot of guests waiting a long time for shuttles...but everyone got there, at least.
Good surprise: We had a photo booth set up with props, and when we came up to the doors to prepare for our entrance, we saw that our entire wedding party had dressed up in the props for their entrances. Hilarious. I had high expectations for the reception, but at that moment it was all confirmed that the night was going to be a blast!
Mr. S surprised me with the band playing a song for our recessional "I'm a Believer" and so that was our "first dance". I had picked a different song and thought they just screwed up.
A bad surprise I guess was my wedding planner daughter being there the whole wedding. It was very unprofessional.
Bad Suprise: The DJ decided to play every group dance imaginable even though I said only a few and to keep the music lowkey since we aren't dancers.
Good Suprise: The officiant messed up the vows, causing some laughter and great pictures!
As far as the actual wedding is concerned, there were no real surpises. But one thing that surprised me is that I got myself so excited the day before the wedding and they day of, I made myself sick. As in, couldn't eat anything at our rehearsal dinner or the morning of. And then I felt light-headed during the wedding day. It surprised me because the days leading up to the wedding, I was cool and calm as could be. I think once other family members started to arrive, and everyone was doting on us that I realized I was going to be the center of attention all day, and that made me nervous and excited.
We got married over a month ago, and I'm still mad at myself for not calming down! There are parts of our wedding that I didn't enjoy because I felt sick. Oh well.
Our DJ, who was a friendor, played a really crappy song after the first dance (which I had specifically requested he NOT play) and when I said, "Um, Tim? I didn't want that played. It's on the Do Not Play List I gave you...." He barked at me - I'm just doing my job!
It really pissed me off. I realize you're my FI's friend and that you're doing this for free as a gift, but shouldn't it still be how WE'D like it? I guess i was surprised that he really didn't care what we wanted, BECAUSE he was doing it for free. Kinda sucked.
@Chapstick - I did too!!!! I woke up sick the day before, stomach just churning! And at the rehearsal I was like ugggggggggggh and couldn't eat a thing. I was a LOT better the day of, but for some reason, that day before is killer on the tummy!
I'll have to think some more, but the BAD surprise was -- DJ playing "Closer" by NIN!!!!
I had instructed him "no sexual lyrics" as I have a very religious family & 3 pastors + 2 youth ministers in tow....plus, I'd specified about 1/2 the music already w/ some broad thoughts on the rest.
I gave him a horrible face and he shut it off, lol....I've seen DJ issues at other weddings, too, including one conservative girl whose reception had mostly club/hip hop music, lol.
good surprises: awesome Matri D, everything runs on time and he gets things done right. DJ was awesome too!! He played the best mixed and got everyone out on the dance floor the entire night. Some guests told me previously that they have to leave early b/c of their daughter (age 2) have to sleep, but they stayed till the end which is 12am.
Bad surprises: florist was late for almost 2 hrs, I would never recommend him to anyone and hope no one uses them in NJ. After my florist finally arived, my pastor is late.
Everything beyond our expectations after ceremony started.
My bad surprise was that our venue was apparently on cruise control... so many little things were missed/wrong, adding up to my not recommending the venue to any bride. The good thing is that *most* of the issues were not ones the guests noticed!
Good surprise? All my family behaved! *lol*
Good suprises:
- Well, I was just surprised with the whole feeling that comes with being a bride, really, I had never felt anything like it
- my DH was suprised at the first look, he went into it afraid that his reaction wouldn't be big enough or that he wouldn't feel "moved" since according to him it's just going to be "us in better clothes." After he saw me, his response was "I didn't understand that I was going to feel like this, it's amazing."
- I left the vows I wrote at the hotel so I had to "wing it" during hte ceremony, I actually ended up changing the middle part (to be more funny and less sentimental, I do that better on the fly) and that was pretty much everyones fa
Bad surprises:
- during Mony, Mony the power to the music went out... let's just say I was almost hyperventilating there (since music was my #2 priority after the food/drink), fortunately it just took a couple minutes (and two more times of going out) and it was fixed and then were were able to dance the rest of the night
Good Surprise, DJ totally rocked and we had the longest conga line ever!
Bad Surprise, although we knew he could potenitally be a problem, Husbands brother/GM got so drunk at one point he gave his mom a lap dance. I turned around saw him doing this an immediatly cut him off at the bar.
Another bad surprise, one of my guests was made to feel like crap by In laws, and in turn got me so upset and they all told me I wasn't even supposed to have heard about that. I was really mad that she was so excited about the wedding for the longest time and when she got their she was attacked. It really made me realize just how rude and insensitive my in laws are, and to never let my guard down around them.
@Br1t I think I'm scarred for life by your lapdance story! I hope u didn't see it!
Good surprises
I was so happy and not nervous. The crazy moving of chairs around during our Nuptial mass due to Church layout went off perfectly, I was expecting disaster.
Major dancing fun.
Seeing old friends who came a long distance.
Bad
It started raining at the end of the ceremony. It killed our outside group shots and couple shots. No fun pics of the bridesmaids at all. They were saved for after the ceremony, and didn't happen.
Couldn't put the top down on the convertible, that my parents' friends trucked 2 hours.
One of my toasting fluts was broken. They were a wedding present to my grandparents and my mom and dad used them at their wedding.
Some of my bridal shots were taken without my jewerly on. I forgot it at first. FI surprised me the night before with pearls. I had planned something else that my mom ended up wearing so we had to scrabble for earrings. Luckily my Aunt had something.
Photog forgot ring shots. In my accessories shots she forgot my purse and left paper in my shoes.
Rainy honeymoon, -- but still had fun.
Too put it all in prospective. It doesn't really matter what went wrong. We're married, we had fun, got some great shots even if they weren't all the ones that we wanted. My Father-in-law was just diagnosed with agressive prostrate cancer, so that really snapped me out of the woulda, coulda, shoulda's.
Bad Suprises
(1) Even though I booked my hair appointment at noon and my makeup appointment at 2:00 for a 4:00 ceremony, I was JUST BARELY ready to walk down the aisle at 4:15. Make sure your wedding day timeline has plenty of breathing room!
(2) False eyelashes painstaking glued on one by one came loose when I cried during the ceremony.
Good Surprise
Although we'd been together for 8 years by the time we got married, our wedding day was the happiest, most magical day of my life so far. Hence the crying!
@ Penguin I had the same situation.
I asked a friend of mine and her daughter to get to the reception venue early to set up our favors, centerpieces and help with the seating after the ceremony and our guests thought that she worked for the restaurant and were asking her all kinds of questions about the seating.
Come to find out way later that the restaurant owners and staff were being "bitchy" to her until they saw that she was also a guest.
They were all sweet to my hubby and I that day so we were shocked when we heard about it later on.
our officiant handed my hubby the wrong ring for the ring ceremony!!!
My stepmother was up taking photos right next to my photographer as I walked down the aisle. I couldn't understand why she did that ... that's why I had a photographer.
DH broke my French bustle when we walked into the reception. Luckily, my seamstress made two different bustles for me! I never would have thought the second one would come in so handy!
Good surprise - everyone dancing, even my grandmothers who I suspect may not have even danced at ther own weddings
FIL singing White Wedding by Billy Idol during the dance
Bad surprise - finding out the day after the wedding that there had been a "tip jar" on the bar, that was filled with cash at the end of the night. We paid for an open bar so that our guests wouldn't have to pay for anything, and I was really angry about this. I wish I had gone to get a drink at some point so that I would have seen it and stopped it.
Neither good or bad surprise - two wedding crashers who came in to dance for a bit and then left.
Bad Surprise: My husbands parents wanted to leave the wedding early & after being "guilted" by my husband to stay, they went into a room and watched baseball, while everyone else was outside dancing...
Realeastcoaster,
I had the same thing happen with a tip jar when I paid for open bar with gratutiuty included. Ack.
Let's see. My MIL was complaining about my uncle because he apparently couldn't speak english really well and that we could have gotten someone who could speak better english. (He came up during the ceremony and wanted to thank everyone (in english) and then he wanted to thank the non-english people in another language. It was short... like 5 min.
That was the big issue.
One of my bm complained that I was asking to much of her because I asked my BMs to fold programs, assemble placecards, assemble some decorations and a few other things.
My family thought my MIL was very arrogant. Some thought she was racist against us. And some of my BMs told me that MIL was rude to them.
Still annoyed that 2 of my BM dropped out two days before the wedding. One was sick and the other was in an accident. Both reasonable reasons to not come to my wedding but both of them told me in a text. Really? Couldn't they have picked up the phone to tell me something this important.
Any way, that was the bad.
As for the good.
A bunch of people told me that it was one of the best weddings they went to and that it was a great time.
(one last bad) MIL and his family expected our wedding to be not as elegant as it was. At the end, they were very happy at how well it turned out. (WTF?)
People loved my diy centerpieces. People loved my dress and told me I looked stunning. People loved my cake and it was really good.
DH took medication to calm him down before the ceremony because he was nervous. That interacted with the 5 drinks he had, so half way through our reception, it looked like he was drunk and he definitely acted drunk.
Oh, I was on time to the church. Big relief. Church and reception looked great.
I had a bit of a snapfu (sp?) a week before the wedding with my diy bm bouquets but i went to an alternative flower and it came out great!
I had a great time at my wedding. It was lots of fun!
All and all.... I thought my wedding was great. All of the hard work paid off. What I didn't want to hear about was all the stuff after the wedding happened.
Still need to tell myself that I did a great job planning my wedding. People thought I spent 25K when I only spent 15K. Yay! Just gotta keep thinking of the postive and some how erase the bad.
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