(Closed) NFO Navy Life/Wife – Help Please

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it really really depends on what aircraft/pipeline he goes.. If he goes fighter jets… yea that is going to be VERY tough. p-3’s/p-8’s are a heck of a lot better lifestyle wise and will be more fun because they’re land based. Either way it is going to be hard. Thankfully with technology the way it is now, you won’t have to go months without speaking! I actually got out of the pilot program (I went through api and almost all of primary)  because I didn’t like it enough for the sacrifice. flying was freaking cool but definitely not something I could see myself making a career out of it.  You’re just going to have to deal with some more struggles that normal couples don’t have. and you’re going to have to move a lot. If you have any questions about the program or navy life feel free to pm me ๐Ÿ˜€ 

PS Pensacola is gorgeous ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 4
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hi there!  My husband is Air Force, but would be called an NFO if he was in the Navy. ๐Ÿ™‚

Anyway, I can’t even imagine the stress you are going through right now.  Actually, I can – the military is really good at jerking people around and changing their minds left and right.  I have been married for almost two years and it’s been a real challenge for me – I have given up my hopes of a professional career, which still makes me cry sometimes.  I’ve been lucky though, I still work, and we have been lucky in assignments.

My husband will telll you that I rant about the military a whole lot, but it’s not terrible.  I’m not a huge fan of moving, but the military makes it as painless as possible.  Deployments suck, but Skype and email are lifesavers.

PM me if you want to talk or have questions – my husband went through Navy NFO training, so if you have specific questions I can ask him (he did it before we met).

I think what it boils down to is you just need an answer one way or another.  I hope you guys make the one that’s best for you – but I think ANY answer would be a huge weight off your shoulders.

Oh, and I second the Pensacola being beautiful part, too. ๐Ÿ™‚ 


Post # 5
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I agree with much of what the PP said; if the military lifestyle is anything, it’s a lot of things changing, hurrying up and waiting, etc. etc. Basically, right wrong or indifferent, if your SO joins, you can expect more of this type of chain-jerk experience in the future! Think of this as the initiation, of sorts. 

However, it’s all how you handle it, in my opinion. I think the military lifestyle requires a certain type of go-with-the-flow mentality, and some can handle it, and some don’t. Both me and Darling Husband have always been spontaneous types of people, so we’re up to the challenge, but I won’t deny it’s hard, and we’ve only been married for a few months and through one PCS (though through a couple of deployments while dating). Prior to getting married we were long distance as he was overseas and on deployments, and I wanted to stay working in the job I had, and loved. Eventually I had to make the choice to give it up so we could be together, and it is totally worth it, but I do miss my job, and my old friends too. Some days are harder than others. But, here I am, living in Hawaii, which was an opportunity neither of us would have likely had without the military, so there are definitely pros with the cons!

My Darling Husband is also a pilot, a helo pilot, so his experience was a little different I wager, and it was before we were together, so I’m not entirely certain how it all works, but he’s pretty knowledgeable on the subject from all sides, so if you have questions, please feel free to PM me and I can ask him! As to the military lifestyle, while I’m a newly-minted Navy wife, I’d be happy to share my personal experiences with you as well.

Bottom line, this lifestyle is for some people, but not for others. Perhaps you and your SO can make a list of pros and cons and go from there?

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