- 6 years ago
So I am about to have a panic attack here and need some support from fellow bees. My boyfriend (soon-to-be FI) has been trying to get into the Piloting Navy Program for a couple years. He finally got accepted last fall but because of vision issues couldn’t go. He was told he could do the NFO program though with his astigmatism he just needed to apply for it.
He was hmming and haaing about it because we have built a life for ourselves here. I have a really good job doing exactly what I want to do and make good money. He also has a job but not anything he really cares for. But we have a life we have been talking about getting a house and a dog and getting married…(not in that order). I finally talked him into just applying for it because I don’t ever want to be the reason for him not doing something. I don’t want him to look back on his life and regret some part of it because of me. We decided he would apply and then there would never be what-ifs and the choice would be up to us.
Well he applied and found out in April that he didn’t get in because he would be 27 for 2 weeks before he was done with officer training. it sucked but at least it was finally over and we could go on with our lives. He has been looking for other jobs and we signed a new year long lease at our apartment. We have been discussing wedding ideas, life, kids family and ect.
Well today rolls around and the Lt. he has been working with called him and the addmissions board reconsidered and now want him. They want him to be at training on June 17th! He just told me and I don’t know what to think. He was crying when he told me because he doesn’t know if his heart is in it anymore. This has been a two year process of yeses and noes and has just been so stressful. I thought we were done with this. Now he is saying he knows I am happy and he is too. We live near our parents and are all really close.
I need support and I don’t know in which way. We are going to discuss it tonight and are meeting with his Lt tomorrow morning so he can answer questions that we may have. I think this is so hard because I wasn’t mentally prepared for it. It wasn’t even an option anymore and I had moved on. I don’t know what we should do. Any NFO wives out there or anyone for that matter to give words of encouragement?