Post # 1
I have some questions for bees who use the NFP method (particularly symptothermal). I’ve read a LOT about the method both here and on other websites, and I’ve ordered the book Taking Control of Your Fertility from Amazon but haven’t received it yet. I’m not currently sexually active or on any kind of birth control, but since I’m getting married in about five months I’ve been starting to keep track of my cycles, etc so that I’ll hopefully be accurate by my wedding night. (Sidenote: what’s the best basal thermometer??) I’ve been talking to my (wonderful) man about NFP, and I’m wondering: what do other husbands think about it? He’s not very excited about having to abstain or use other barrier methods for quite a few days each month. In your ladies’ experience, is this pretty rough or really not a big deal? How do the men (and ladies) handle it? I know it really depends on the woman’s cycle, but approximately how many fertile days are there per month? I have friends who say condoms are no good, and my man is pretty wary about the draw out method…please help!! I need advice!
Post # 3
Oh! I forgot. We aren’t really ready to have a baby, but if it happened it wouldn’t be the end of the world. For the record. 😉
Post # 4
we were required by our church to take a nfp class. at first (when we were just reading about it on our own), we weren’t sold on it. it just seemed like such a hassle, so we had no plans to continue with it once we finished with the class.
once we started taking the classes we changed our minds. my husband didn’t like the idea of me putting chemicals/hormones in my body and i wasn’t crazy about the idea either (i had been on the shot and the pill before and didn’t care much for them), so we figured we’d stick with nfp and use condoms during the risky times. i was a virgin until we got married, so we had several months to get the hang of it without worrying about an “oops” baby.
the thing i like the most is that it’s not just my responsibility or just his responsibility. we took the classes together, we both know how it all works, my husband knows how to read my chart, so it’s really a team effort.
neither of us has any complaints about abstaining or using condoms, so that has never been an issue.
i have an average of 4 fertile days a month, but yeah, it’s different for everyone
i’m not real knowledgable about thermometers. i just use the one that came in my kit and i haven’t had any issues with it. if you go to ccli.org you can see the kits/supplies they have.
Post # 5
My DH loves NFP. He says I’m easier to get along with since I stopped taking the pill. I have about 4 fertile days/month, so we’re careful about 6 days. We used condoms mow and then but mostly the pull-out method.
I’d be careful about pull-out as a safe option if you’re not currently sexually active, as it can take guys a little while to get the hang of it.
What are your friends saying is wrong with condoms, if you don’t mind? They’re effecive as long as you use them properly. Is it a comfort thing?
Post # 6
@lilchicana: Thank you!! I’ll be sure to check out that site, and what you’ve said givese me a few more conversation starters/insights! Greatly appreciated 🙂
@bunnymama: So encouraging that he loves it!! Um…yeah, I think it’s mostly a comfort/preference thing; I don’t think they have any complaints about the effectiveness.
Thanks, both of you!!
Post # 7
I have a diaphragm to use on fertile days but haven’t used it in a while. He just pulls out. I ovulate around day 17 and have a perfect temp shift so we both feel comfortable.