Nice way to ask for money as wedding gift?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
8389 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@TheLawrenceBride:  I don’t think there is ever a nice way to ask for gifts, regardless of what you’re asking for.  If you prefer a cash gift, I would simply not register and spread the information by word of mouth.  However, tread carefully, it is never okay to feel as though you are entitled to gifts from your guests.  Best of luck.

EDIT:  IF you want tips on how to get cash from your guests, my only one is to invite Chinese people.  We always give cash as gifts 😉

Post # 4
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Just don’t register. We didn’t, and most people gave us cash in lieu of gifts.

Post # 5
844 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I can already tell you you’re going to be barraged by people saying ‘there’s no nice way! It’s rude and super inappropriate!’ but I urge you to ignore them if it’s acceptable in your culture. My culture and social group accepts monetary gifts as a given, and if yours does too then you probably have to do very little to hint at it! If people ask (and they will) just be honest. Don’t pussyfoot around the issue. If this is normal for your social group/family, then there’s no reason you can’t just do it.

Good luck 🙂

Post # 6
8510 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Don’t register.  Most people will give you cash anyway.  Maybe spread info by word of mouth if people ask.  There might be some who get you random gifts or gift cards anyway but they will probably do it regardless of what you ask for.

Post # 7
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@TheLawrenceBride:  We just didn’t have a registry. Usually when a couple doesn’t have a registry, it’s an unspoken indicator that they prefer money. We did get some lovely box gifts, but pretty much almost everyone gave us money or universal gift cards (AMEX gift cards). Honestly, your best bet is to stay as quiet as possible re: gifts. Some people prefer to give box gifts or that may be all they can afford – you don’t want to offend them by saying you prefer cash/no box gifts. This is what we did, and we were very pleasantly surprised. 🙂

Post # 8
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Unless it is a cultural norm, there really IS no nice way to ask for money. Writing a “super cutesy” poem just makes the whole situation a deal worse too. However, if you don’t set up a registry most people will realise that cash gifts are the way to go. Sure, you may get gift cards but as a pp has said, some people always will give gift cards regardless!

Post # 10
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I remember that the bee JenGirl had a great writeup of her experience with a honeymoon registry.  Try searching for that.

Post # 11
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010



There is no polite, let alone dignified way to beg for cash amongst your friends and family. 

Your wedding guests are not and should not be regarded as a potential income stream that you are entitled to direct as you please.  They are not.

Post # 12
11626 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is no nice way to ask for money.  None. Your guests aren’t there to finance your honeymoon.  If you can’t afford one, perhaps you could put it off a few months or a year to give yourselves time to save up for an anniversary trip. 

Post # 15
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

We just set up a really small registry. So if that gets bought up, I’m sure most people will get the hint. Either don’t register or do a very small registry.

Post # 16
657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just don’t register or tell people you want money. People only give cash at weddings anyways!

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