Nicer venue without alcohol or ok venue with alcohol???

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@sunelake27:  Honestly? Ok place with alcohol. People forget about the venue after a few drinks and I would rather people have a great time than have the perfect venue. Not that people can’t have fun without alcohol, but if you want people to loosen up and dance that would be your best bet!

What do you mean by “ok”? I’m sure it’s still very pretty!

Post # 6
592 posts
Busy bee

I had struggled with a smiliar question.  Not that the nicer venue didn’t have alcohol but I had to pay a lot extra for it.  So, knowing my guest list I went with the alcohol.  The venue I pick wasn’t that much worse but the other venue was really my first choice.

Post # 7
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If your family/friends like to drink, then Alcohol all the way.

Post # 8
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

+1 for the alcohol!

Post # 9
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@sunelake27:  Can you bring your own alcohol instead of using the venue’s bar? Just wondering. We’re spending about $600 on alcohol for 65 people. Most packages at venues were like $2000

Post # 10
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Depends on the price differential


If cost of OK venue + cost spent on prettying up the venue < my total spend on the nicer venue INCLUDING alcohol, then i’d choose okay venue with alcohol

Post # 11
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@sunelake27:  okay venue with alcohol, if I were to put myself in my guests shoes.

Post # 12
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The ok venue with alcohol. For sure.

Post # 13
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@sunelake27:  I’d rather have a few drinks than hang out in a place with pretty floors/walls/whatever.

Post # 14
8498 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d rather have the alcohol.

Post # 15
212 posts
Helper bee

I’ve heard people complain about dry weddings but have never heard anyone complain about the venue being ‘just okay’. As long as it isn’t anywhere dirty or unsafe, I think the money would make more of a difference to my guests if it were spent on alcohol!

Post # 16
10902 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

If you had a poll, you would find that at least  80 percent (probably more) of the bees will tell you to choose the OK venue with alcohol.  I am not one of those bees.

I had a very elegant and pricey reception at a beautiful mansion with fabulous food, and the only alcohol we had present at our reception was a choice of champagne or non-alcoholic, sparkling cider for our toasts.

I am not opposed to all alcohol on all occasions for all people.  However, alcohol is definitely a controlled, dangerous substance that is frequently abused in our culture. The results of that abuse can be harmful, tragic, and even deadly. Because of this, my DH and I were not at all comfortable with the idea of providing it to our guests, because we did not want to be responsible (spiritually, morally, ethically, or legally) for serving alcoholic beverages to anyone who may be tempted to indulge in them in an inappropriate or excessive manner.  There is no possibly way, logistically or in terms of etiquette, to monitor or regulate the consumption of alcohol by others, and we just did not want to go down that path.

So, with all of that said, I easily would choose the better venue and not serve alcohol.

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