Post # 1
Last Christmas day, SO’s neice was born. She will be one this Christmas. As a result, her parents wish to have her birthday party on Christmas Eve. This is great, because we spend Christmas Day with my family! I like the arrangement.
What I do not like is this: We need to do our family gift exchange. SO’s brother’s wife, is being a real pain about this. She has her family there [who she will undoubtedly be exchanging with at some point] and it will be impossible to get a few minutes aside to open gifts. Now we have to find a different day in our schedules to do this exchange.
I don’t have kids so maybe a lot of you will not agree with me, but is this a little ridiculous?
ETA: I changed some content, in case GOD FORBID, she uses this board and sees this post.
Post # 3
I wanted to sympathize with the Christmas baby because I am one myself (born on the 25th.)
But your SIL is being a little ridiculous about it. If you’re all together on Christmas Eve, it makes sense to do the exchange then. Especially since…IT’S CHRISTMAS.
She can’t even take a few minutes after she’s put the baby to bed?
Post # 4
I can understand your frustration, and I think it’s warranted. I’d let it take care of itself though. I think it’s going to be this year that will be a bit different because she’s turning one year old, which many folks consider to be a big deal. Subsequent years things will die down a little. And consider your poor niece. She was born on Christmas. There will be no presents spread out over the course of the year, and she’ll likely never have a party on her actual birthday.
Post # 5
@Theresa90405:Ahhh great point. You’re right. Maybe I’m just really PMSy, but I guess I just LOVE the holidays and I feel like they’re all jumbled this year. I will live! Thanks for listening. 🙂
@MissHelen:Ahhh another bunch of great points! You’re right. It will be hard for her! I guess what it is mainly is the situation. I feel like it’s silly, but it’s not my decision to make so I’ll get over it. Thanks! 🙂
Post # 6
@MissHelen: Story of my life! 🙂
Post # 7
My birthday is a week before Christmas. Let me tell you, it f’n SUCKS. That poor baby is in for a lifetime of half-assed birthday celebrations. I think it’s admirable of her mom to attempt to create a time that’s solely reserved for birthday celebrations, with no Christmas mixed in.
I’m heavily biased, of course.
Post # 8
Yeah, my birthday was yesterday, and my moms is tomorrow. So, having your birthday this close to the holiday SUCKS, and I have a couple friends whose birthday is actually on Christmas, and that blows the big one. My nephew’s birthday is the 30th, and my SIL always has a half birthday for him in the summer to celebrate with his friends, and just a small celelbration with family for his actual birthday. Once she gets older, this might be a good idea for them to do for her, that way the holidays can be separate, or at least make the party the weekend before or after
Post # 9
I see both sides. She shouldn’t monopolize things, but I feel sorry for the baby. No b-day on Christmas, but I wouldn’t want one b/c you’d never feel extra special on your day.
I think it should be done after the baby goes to sleep. I don’t see the problem with that. She’ll have a party and after, the adults do their thing.
Also….what is this pollyanna thing? I’ve never heard of it. Sounds interesting.
Post # 10
A pollyanna is like a secret santa. You put all the names in a hat and pick one. The person you get is the person you buy a gift for. It’s really fun!
Thanks for sympathizing girls!
Post # 11
My cousin has her bday on XMAS eve and I think she makes out like a bandit. Of course, she never had a school friend birthday on her actual birthday, but she always did it right before or after the break. My Birthday is in August and I NEVER had a bday party!!!
I digress, the reason I think she makes out like a bandit, is because her parents (my aunt and uncle) were so conscious of making the 24th about her birthday, that they over compensated by buying her tons of gifts, nothing is wrapped in xmas presents, and everyone is around to celebrate it with the family.
I don’t think this is a bad thing at all, I’m just pointing out that a holiday birthday doesn’t always have to stink!
Post # 12
I do think it’s a little ridiculous that she won’t let you have the exchange as long as it’s short and sweet, but I can totally understand why. My bday is a week after xmas, and I’ve been shafted on bdays my entire life. I think I’ve only ever had 3 bday parties. No one remembers to give me gifts, and if they do, they’re wrapped in christmas paper (a big pet peeve of mine!). None of my friends are ever around because they’re on their New Years trips, and it’s over winter break. It just sucks. I would try to be understanding that she’s just attempting to give her daughter a normal birthday party, which she’ll probably hardly ever get.
Post # 13
@Boston Bee: I agree with what you’re saying (because I was born on the 25th) BUT in this case…the kid is 1. She’s not going to even know it’s her birthday. I think the SIL should just make time for the exchange after the baby goes to sleep.
And maybe she should get used it now because you’re right…she’s gonna get the SHAFT for the rest of her life. LOL!
Post # 14
I think the SIL is being a pill. bathing the baby doesn’t take HOURS and you don’t have to do it every night, your not supposed to anyway. sounds like she’s just trying to manipulate things.
Post # 15
@lalalalinzii: Can you leave their gifts there for them to open whenever and the rest of you exchange gifts while she’s doing whatever?
If you’re meeting at their house then they get to call the shots but yes, I think she’s being ridiculous and rather selfish to expect everyone’s holiday to revolve around her child’s birthday.
Post # 16
My bday is very close to Christmas so I get the mom trying to “separate” the two events.
HOWEVER, it’s Christmas Eve…CHRISTMAS eve…and the kid will not even know.
When your niece is older, then they will make the time to celebrate separately but the mom needs to deal with the double-holiday. Sorry, but she does.