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Wait so she expected you to spend the night in Pittsburgh and then drive up to NYC the day of the wedding? Or she wanted you to spend the night in their hotel suite with them the night before the wedding?
I haven't shared a hotel room with my parents since I was like 17. I think it's a little weird that as a grown adult they expect you to share their hotel room with them the night before your wedding.
I'm staying at my parents' house with all my girlfriends. If I were staying at a hotel, I would either stay in a room by myself, or with my sister or friends.
Ahh ok. Maybe they could get a hotel room right next door to the one your BMs get, and you could sit up with your BMs, and then just go sleep in the suite with your parents? It definitely sounds like there's a little bit of "my baby girl is getting married and leaving us!" which is totally understandable--my parents are the same way. :) Maybe having her next door, whether or not you end up staying with her, would be enough of a compromise for her?
I'm also planning on doing a hotel suite the night before, with my BMs if they want to be there. My parents live in NYC, but otherwise I'm sure they would want to stay as close to me as possible! Good luck :)
I dont think its weird, but I am not sure it is necessary either
Umm...a little late for the guilt trip now! My parents didn't even stay in the same place as me when I got married, they were in a separate hotel! It's much more fun to hang with your girlfriends. Hanging with you parents is more of a rehearsal dinner thing, after that all bets are off.
Um, I wouldn't share a hotel room with my parents either. Can't you get the rooms attached?
Our arrangement was like hotchild's--my parents stayed with me at our house (DH stayed with his mom) and my bridesmaids stayed over too. It was one big slumber party. But uh, sharing a room? No thanks. Girls night!
Maybe just set aside a little time in the evening and the morning to go have coffee with your folks or spent 30 minutes hanging out with them.
I will be with BMs/MOH.
It sounds like your mom is over reacting a bit; if you aren't doing anything else the day before, then maybe a lunch with your parents or other outing, but I think you should stay in your own room; tell your dad he'll see you soon enough the next day and it'll be worth the wait.
I think the best approach is to tell your mom why you have things envisioned the way you do, and tell her that if they were home, her idea wold make sense, but in a hotel its just awkward and a little off.
Honestly, I dont think my dad even knows I had this convo with my mom! hahaha. He could probably care less. I just think that since they havent been to a wedding outside of Pgh and the Bride to be or Husb to be usually stay at their parents house she just assumed the same thing would happen here as well.
You guys are definitely making me feel better about the situation. Thank you!
I think staying at your parents' house is definitely reasonable, but staying in the same room as them would not be an option for me....it's not like you sleep in their room with them at their house LoL
I'm getting a room at a nice hotel near my church the night before and my BM's plan on staying and so does my mom .. we're going to have a lot of fun ..
She is just having trouble letting go, so whatever you decide, be gentle. Maybe make up for not staying with them by finding some other quality time you can spend with them before the wedding?
I am staying the night at my parents house (I am getting married about a half mile from their house :) BUT the following morning I want to get ready at the reception site which is also where my in laws are staying (we are having our reception on the water at a huge manor house that we rented for the weekend)
I want to get ready there because the master bedroom is MASSIVE and has a bathroom the size of a large bedroom (no joke). Plus the "getting ready" photos will be great since the room has many windows letting in nice natural light, and the decor is really pretty. My mom was so upset because I guess she assumed I would get ready at her house. I really don't want to get ready there because my parents house is very dark, no natural light, and not spacious AT ALL. Our bathrooms are tiny and it would just be very difficult to have the BM's and photographer all at once there!
She has made me guilty for this, but I can't help it! I just think it will be more comfortable at the manor house. We are paying a ton for it... may as well use it! (even though FI's parents have the master bedroom, I want to kick them out while I get ready)
Yeah i agree. In their home is one thing...in their hotel room is another. Especially since it's your mom AND your dad.
I stayed with my husband the night before the wedding, in our hotel room. But if it were a choice between my bridesmaids and my parents, I'd definitely chose BMs. More fun! Just tell your mom no!
Definitely Girls Night!
Maybe you could spend some part of the evening with them and then sleep in your own room with your BMs?
the night before the wedding i plan on sharing a room with my mom and sister (MOH) in the hotel room..(we hope to get another ajoining room where the other 3 bridesmaids will sleep.
Honestly i am def in the minority, but my fam is really close and when we still travel anywhere (without FI) i always sleep in the room with my mom and dad at a hotel. (2 queen beds..me in one, mom/dad in the other) i'm 27!
my mom would have reacted the same way!! Can all of you guys stay in the same hotel and spend time before going to sleep with BMs, then actually "sleep" in the same room with your mom. Best of both worlds maybe?
Its not like I would be sardined in btw my parents on one bed. hahaha. It would be a suite and I would have a room and they would have a room.
I will probably just go the way of my original idea and spend the night with my girlfriends!
I don't think it's "weird" to stay in the same room as your parents. To each their own. My dad is going to be a wreck the night before my wedding. He was at my sister's wedding and he and I are closer than they are and I'm the youngest. I plan on making sure we have some time to play cards and hang out like we usually do to make is special for him.
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Hi everyone! I have an issue that came up btw my mom and I and I need some advice por favor!
I live in NYC and am getting married in NYC, but my family lives in Pittsburgh. I assumed that my FI and I would rent out a suite for the weekend at a hotel and Friday night I would get it and Sat night we would stay there together. So up until a few days ago I pictured the night before the wedding to be me and my BMs and my mom too (if she wanted) sitting around this great room and telling stories and laughing and having some wine and giggling, doing girl stuff etc. Well I talked to my mom about it and she got all upset bc she assumed I was going to stay with her and my dad the night before my wedding since its my last night as a "insert last name here". So when I told her my vision she got upset and threw out the guilt trip. Its not that I dont want to stay with my dad and if I were getting married at home I would spend the night at their house and have my BMs there, but in this situation its kind of different.
What are you guys doing? If you are spending the night in a hotel are you staying with your parents or your BMs? What are your expert opinions on this?!