Post # 1
People have been asking me lately where I’ll be staying the night before, and seem to be surprised when I tell them we (my fiance and I) have a room booked for that night. Is it really that uncommon to spend the night together before the wedding? It never occurred to me that we should spend it apart.
For one, my fiance booked the best suite in the resort, so I’m darn well going to enjoy it, and I would want my fiance to be able to as well! And two, one of the things I’m *most* looking forward to is waking up next to him for the last time as his fiancee, enjoying the morning and breakfast together, and saying goodbye until he sees me walk up the aisle to him. I get all teary-eyed just thinking about it, and no tradition or superstition or opinion could make me change my mind.
Is anyone else planning on spending the night before the wedding with their fiance? I’m just curious to know how uncommon it really is, since everyone seems to be so shocked at our decision. Thanks bees!
Post # 3
We’re going to say goodbye each other the night before the wedding, and I’ll probably spend my night at my parents house with my bridesmaids so we can hang out and relax and such. We’re pretty traditional that way; I don’t want him to see me at all until I’m walking down the aisle.
However, your way sounds really sweet. It doesn’t really matter what everyone else does, as long as you two are happy. 🙂
Post # 4
Although I don’t plan on spending the night before with my FI, I think what you are doing sounds really sweet. Who cares about traditon and what you are “supposed to do.” Do what is most meaningful to you. I dont plan on doing it simply because my mother would kill me, haha!
Post # 5
Haha, I didn’t even think about that so I just asked my Mom and she was like, “HE AIN’T STAYIN HERE!!” Haha so I guess he will be staying with his parents/hotel that night!
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We spent the night before our wedding together, got a couples massage, enjoyed the steam shower and jacuzzi tub in our suite, had a lovely dinner, and then had breakfast together the next morning. Needless to say, we had absolutely no use for that tgradition. LOL
Post # 7
We are spending the night before together too, and I’m so happy we are! We have a nice suite booked which has a jacuzzi, so we are going to relax the night before and get ready together the day of 🙂
Post # 8
I didn’t care either way, but FI was adamant We not stay together. I’m getting the fancy hotel room. He’s still not sure where he’s staying 🙂
Post # 9
@judybot: Me me! 🙂 We are spending the night before together too. I don’t sleep well without him (I know it sounds awful needy, but as an insomniac for most of my life I have finally found my cure) and I’d be damned rather than be bloodshot and baggy-eyed on the day. Besides, we booked a room and we are having a lovely evening picnic with our bidal party the night before.
Post # 10
I wish i had actually, i was so nervous and i think a cuddle might have helped me sleep better!!
Post # 11
He’s staying in the unfinished addition in his parent’s house (The poor thing). I’m staying in our wedding-night suite (Yes!). He’s staying with his GMs that night. They’re going to the casino after the rehearsal dinner to blow off some steam.
I’m going to eat cookie dough with my mom/sisters!
Post # 12
We spent the night before together. We’d had our families over for a casual dinner; they all went home and we stayed up late watching movies and drinking beer.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I want to spend the night with him (for god sake’s we’ve been living together for over 3 years) but I guess it’s a cute idea to be apart the night before. I’m kinda afraid I won’t be able to sleep and he’s the only one to talk me down from the proverbial ledge.
Post # 14
Do what you want 🙂 I will likely also spend the night before with SO
Post # 15
Nope, the first time he’ll see me is when I’m walking down the aisle. For me it isn’t so much superstition or tradition, but that I want that build up of excitement. I’ve seen FI almost every single day for the past 6 years (minus maybe 2-3 months time in all those 6 years) and the night before our wedding we will part ways and he won’t see me again until I transform into his bride.
However, I think what you’re doing sounds romantic and sweet too. I think people should just do whatever makes them happy. I’m not superstitious (in fact, I’m probably the anti-superstition… I have a black cat who frequently crosses my path, I have a ladder that leads up to my art loft, and I frequently walk under it to get to another room, I smash mirrors to make art work almost every single weekend, and I have this ah-maze-ing lamp made out of an umbrella and you can actually open it still, and I frequently open it- in doors!-… but I guess my house is protected by the glass rooster I have watching the front door.)
Post # 16
We are spending the night together, but we dont have much choice as its a DW wedding 🙂 FI would rather didnt but it is what it is