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@mrs.peters.to.be: Happy Friday! We kept it separate. I also was recently in a wedding where her and her now husband lived together. they wanted to keep it special where he saw her for the first time walking down the aisle. They both said that it was really nice to be able to do that. It's totally a personal preference, but I think there's something magical about that moment that you just don't get back.
We slept in the same room! Would not have been able to sleep without him. Plus, things were so crazy/hectic, it was nice to get centered again away from all of that the night before/morning of. We slept in together the day of the wedding (nothing started till about 1pm), and it was so great to be able to laze around and cuddle on our wedding day!
We're planning on staying together at our resort. Our ceremony isnt until 5:30 so we'll have plenty of time to part ways after the huge buffet breakfast that the resort offers the guests each morning. We thought it was silly to have to dodge each other during breakfast. Besides, he is the one person on the planet who can keep me calm, cool and collected. I'll need him to be there that night!
Meh. We're sleeping in our hotel room the night before and the night after the wedding. It would be way too logistically complicated to do it any other way.
@UpstateCait: I keep meaning to ask you: where are you getting married? My family has a house in Hague (where we got engaged!) and I've always dreamed of doing a wedding up there, but it's just too logistically complicated living so far away. Every time you post I want to say hi. :)
We're also getting married in Mexico and plan to spend the night before the wedding together.
It seems like too much hassle rearranging rooms to sleep apart. Additionally, our wedding isn't until 6 p.m. so we'll just part after waking up.
Thank you all for your good points. I'm still worried! I think because of that worrying we'll probably spend the night apart. My MOH is my little cousin and she could come sleep with me that night to keep my nerves down. I think FI might like the guy time too. My biggest concern is we're actually getting legally married back home a week before we make the trip so if we don't spend the night apart I feel like I might regret taking away all the traditional aspects of a wedding. Ugh I don't know!! haha.
I having a DW in Jamaica at 4pm and decided to spend the night before separate. My girl friends will be sleeping in our suite with me and FI will bunk with one of his friends. I just think it will be that more special when he sees me walking down the isle. If we do run into eachother...no biggy, but will try not to.
Were doing a first look and that is breaking enough of that tradition for me... My family is traveling 4 hours for the wedding and will probably be staying in a hotel already but Im taking over our house with my BMs and Parents for the night and my FH will be going to his mothers, or I told him if he so chooses we can get a hotel for him and the guys. We have the same dilemma that our ceremony isnt until 8pm so thats a long day but between hair appts, nail appts, maybe some massages we will be able to stay seperate
We had a DW as well, and already were settled in our room. We woke up together, and got ready separately, and it wasn't any less special.
@MissBoston: HI! We're getting married at Fort William Henry :-)
@Miss Chapstick: I agree. I dont personally think sleeping with your FI the night before is any less special.
It seems like EVERYONE I KNOW has told us not to sleep together the night before but little do they know, that just makes us want to do it more. 
Because of the time of our arrival, etc we had our final walkthrough with the wedding coordinator the morning of and we both had to be there for logistics (we didn't have a rehersal so this was the time to talk out all the details). Since we were going to be together in the morning anyway, we just decided to stay together the night before.
@mrs.peters.to.be
Sleep seperatley
You get to sleep with him every night for the rest of your life. One night without him will help build the anticipation of the next day a little more and make that day just a tiny bit more special. :)
We live together but I wanted it to be very special as well, not just another day. We rented a hotel room for my fiance' and his son for the night before. Our wedding was 5pm the following day and we did not see each other until I walked down the aisle. It was awesome!!
I'll by staying with my MOH & 2 BMs the night before. He'll be staying with his BM and a GM or two.
Then the night of the wedding we will stay together in the honeymoon suite of a different hotel.
My husband and I spent the night before our wedding together, he said it was the only way he would get any sleep, and nobody argued with us. :-) It didn't make seeing him at the end of that aile any less special and it didn't deminish our marriage any. If anything, it was nice to have a little extra time on our wedding day before all the crazines set in to share with each other. After breakfast we went our separate ways to get ready, but I don't regret spending the night before together at all.
I stayed at my sister-in-law's with my bridesmaids and a few other female friends the night before the wedding. He and his best man stayed with his parents, half an hour away. He had guy bonding/parent bonding time, I got to hang out with my closest girlfriends. It worked out well for both of us, but part of me wishes we would have stayed the night together. I sleep better with him, and I don't think I would have woken up as jittery and nervous if he had been with me. Then again, maybe I would have. Who knows.
We won't move in together until after the wedding, so we'll do what we've done from the start--sleep in our own beds at our own homes. Seeing each other on the day of the wedding would be special regardless, but I do think following tradition makes it more fun and exciting. We're kicking it old school all the way. :)
I don't think it's silly to want to sleep apart. We didn't see each other until the ceremony - I really wanted to see him in the morning (before getting ready) but it was also fun to play around with the not seeing each other component of the wedding.
I think it builds anticipation and excitement to the already exciting day!
We slept together the night before, in our own bed (we already lived together). I don’t believe its bad luck to see the groom before the wedding, and neither of us sleep well without the other (and without our kitty, we’re all mushy like that).
I’m so glad we did, because it was *really* nice to wake up the morning of the wedding after a good night’s sleep, and cuddle a bit and say “psst! We’re getting married today, can you believe it?!” and have a few sweet moments with each other before the day got ready.
Also, on a practical level, all the hotels in the area were $250+ for the night, so it saved a good chunk of change too.
We live together now (just bought a house) and we both decided that he would go to his mom's the night before. He is the one insistant on not seeing eachother until I come down the aisle. In the end, I probably will prefer it that way too. :) Plus, I will most likely get dressed at home.
We stayed in the same room. It sounds like you'd rather sleep apart and it seems like he has somewhere to go, so why not sleep apart the night before?
My fiance and I are doing a destination wedding, and we've worked it out to spend the night before the wedding apart. He will bunk with his brother, and I'll either have our room to myself, or have my mom come stay with me (we don't have bridesmaids or groomsmen). For me, this was one tradition I could keep in a wedding full of non-traditional decisions. No bridal party, no bachelor/ette parties, no showers, no registry, no formal invitations, no guests other than family...so at least one nod to tradition makes me happy. :)
What's really funny is that I have to avoid my dad as well the day of the wedding--he has been absolutely adamant that he not see me until it's time to walk down the aisle (ok, so that's another tradition we're keeping)!
I stayed in a hotel with two of my good friends (one Maid of Honor and one Bridesmaid). It was so fun!! I missed him, but we had a blast! Plus, Hubby and I didn't want to see each other on the wedding day until I walked down the aisle.
We are planning to stay together the night before, since he does not drive it would not work for him to stay at our place alone and I really want that time in the morning getting coffee just the two of us and having a little calm before the chaos.
We live together. We also don't sleep very well apart. I don't really understand how or why sleeping apart would make my wedding day better or more special...even though that seems to be the consensus. If it is important to you to sleep apart, then do it!
As I read this post, I asked FI what his thoughts were...
FI: "Well, I will be cuddled up with Best Man,"
Me: "Wait, I will be sleeping in the bed by myself. Don't you think you should go one night solo in the bed?"
FI: "I think you should cuddle with your BM's that night too. And please take pictures."
Big sigh....i love my quirky, unique, lovable, but sometimes exasperating FH, I really do....
We both spent the night with our respective parents. I stayed at home with my mom and DH at his dad's. We felt like it was one tradition that we did want to keep, since we threw out so many others. DH felt really strongly about it, so we did it.
We stayed separately, but mostly for logistical reasons. We have a two bedroom house and a couch, that I squished me and my four bridesmaids into since they were all from out of town. Wouldn't have been able to do that with DH there.
He stayed at the hotel with his out of town family, and did breakfast etc with them and the groomsmen in the morning, since they didn't have the beauty regimen we did.
i went through this dilemma a while ago. my wedding is a week after yours (so you're my Tuesday twin, lol not a lot of Tuesday brides). anyway, i might still change my mind, but we decided to stay in our room (we will have been in Jamaica for 3 days too when we get married). I thought about arranging to sleep apart, but for one, i am not sure i would sleep good with someone else there and i don't want to risk being tired. also, the way i see it, it will be our last night to sleep together un-married, LOL. so we might as well enjoy that too! however, my ceremony is legal in jamaica and so its a bit different than your plan to get legally married the week before.
it sounds like you have your mind made up to sleep apart though!
I booked myself a lovely large jacuzzi suite (all to myself bwhahahaha) the night before ours. It was wonderful.
FI is traditional and wants to sleep apart. We've been living together for a year and a half but it's important to him. So we'll probably sleep apart, but only if my MOH and I are bunking together :) lol, not that I'll get any sleep that way but it'll be fun, a blast to the past :)
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Hello Bees,
FI and I are trying to decide what we should do the night before our wedding. Part of me wants to be traditional and the other part wants to be practical. We'll have been at our Mexican resort for 3 days prior to the wedding and all settled in already. We don't have an additional bridal suite booked. Would it be silly for us to separate the night before? FI says he could bunk with his bestman. Our wedding isn't until 4 pm the next day, so even if we did spend the night together there would still be plenty of time in between waking up and the ceremony.
I'm just hung up on making things as "special" as possible. I'm worried if I wake up to him on the day of it won't be as exciting for him to see me walking down the aisle for the first time. What do you ladies think? How many of you have kept it traditional? Did it make a difference?
Thanks :) Happy Friday to all!