(Closed) Night before wedding, together or apart?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: The night before the wedding are you spending it with or without FI?
    with--we live together and are staying together that night : (66 votes)
    27 %
    without--we live together and are staying at separate locations for that night : (133 votes)
    54 %
    with--we live apart but want to stay together that night : (4 votes)
    2 %
    without--we live apart and are staying at separate locations for that night : (42 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wanted to make our day as special as possible and I knew that if we saw each other that morning it would just be like any other morning. We live together but chose to be apart the night before. I’m so glad we did.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We’ll definitely stay together.  I have such bad anxiety that I don’t think I’d walk out of that room unless he was holding my hand lol!

    Post # 5
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    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Definitely apart! But I say that because I’m pretty traditional. I also am having a brunch wedding and will be starting hair and makeup at 630am

    Post # 6
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    372 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We live together and we will be together the night before. I’m not hugely into traditions like that and know the day will be special even if we wake up together. Plus it will give us a chance to relax together in the morning before all the craziness of the evening begins!

    Post # 7
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    909 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    He’ll be at a hotel with his family and groomsmen while I will be sleeping at my parents. We’re pretty traditional so it makes sense for us to do it that way, plus then we are already in separate locations to get ready the next morning.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My first Wedding, my Ex-H and I spent the Night Before the Wedding apart.  I was at my Parent’s house, and he at the Hotel with his Family etc.

    Looking back, I liked the concept… and particularly the fact that he didn’t see me until I walked down the aisle (and he was naturally bowled over)

    There was something also very sweet about our good-bye kiss after the Rehearsal Party… and the minutes we shared before he left for the Hotel… hard to put into words, but it was magical and filled with anticipation etc.

    This time round…

    I thought I wanted to do something similiar.

    And when we were orginally getting married in Myrtle Beach it would have all been quite possible… Mr TTR in our rented Condo, and me in a fancy Hotel Suite (same one booked for our Wedding Night)… and enjoying the solitude, and getting ready there etc the next day, before showing up (bowling him over) when I got to the Venue for the Ceremony

    But alas, things were not to be

    Change in plans… in a good way in that our Wedding has moved to warmer climes of The Keys

    Strategically having two hotel rooms won’t work.  So we’ll be together the night before.

    But that is ok… he promises me he’ll let me have my time to keep the surprise / magic on our Wedding Day by clearing out of the room so that we won’t see each other much on the Day Of… other than for Breakfast.

    Then I’m off to my Hair & Make Up Appointment… and he’ll be getting ready himself.  Lol, although he gets to go super-casual for this Wedding (Dockers, Shirt & Flip-Flops) so it won’t take him long.  Then he’ll be gone by the time I return to the room.

    Next time I’ll see him will be for our “First Look”… that should be fun.  Hopefully our Photographer can have some fun with that.

    Then we’ll be headed to the Ceremony on the beach.

    All-in-all it works out quite well… as I have very much wanted to keep this Wedding distinctly different from my first one.

     

    Post # 9
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    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Yeah, just to add.  We’ll be staying together the night before but there will be a bridal and groom suite.  So we’ll be getting ready separately.  He won’t wake up to me in the wedding dress lol.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Apart.  I was in the hotel with family/MOH and he was at home with our kitties 🙂

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @icetea:  LOL! The idea of a bride popping out of bed in her wedding gown… priceless!

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Apart… We live together but we’re going back to Orange County California for our wedding. The night before the wedding, he will be with his groomsmen, I will be with my maids in a suite. I have already told the bestie that she will probably need to hold my hand all night because I will be freaking out. I HATE sleeping without him. We’re shooting for a 7pm ceremony, so I’ll be good even if I don’t fall asleep until 5 am, which is totally possible… On that note, same bestie has been also instructed to bring benadryl if we need to induce sleep.

    Post # 13
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    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @lawbride88:  We live together so to me it would make zero sense to spend the night apart. Why would we spend the money to book a hotel room for just one of us? We don’t really ‘crash’ at friends’ places, and he has no relatives in our town. My mom lives in an apartment and doesn’t have a guest bed.

    We’ll be spending the night together in the bed we’re used to. Why risk getting a crappier sleep than necessary?

    This tradition makes sense if you live apart but it would simply overcomplicate the situation for us.

    ETA: We’re eloping so just the two of us… it’s not like we’re renting a hotel already for a bunch or people or anything.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We stayed together.  We live together and the wedding was at our house, so its the only thing that made sense to us.  We got up and went out to breakfast too.  We were together until about 11:30 that morning, then we were apart until I walked down the aisle 🙂  It was perfect for us!

    Post # 16
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @lawbride88:  Lol I guess so. I don’t really see how spending one night apart will do that, though. Maybe if you didn’t see him for the week before the wedding lol. Do whatever feels right for you, though.

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