- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2009
My situation is this: I have 6 bridesmaids, all of whom live far away. I have 3 close friends that I met in college all at the same time, one old roommate, an old friend, and my fiances sister. I chose my one friend “Rebecca” to be my Maid/Matron of Honor because I thought it would be good for her. By that I mean, she can’t keep a job, she has what we all believe to be bi-polar disorder (this seemed to have developed when she left college), and I thought it would make her happy. Well, when I asked her instead of saying something nice she said, “I figured you would ask me”. What a nice response, I should have known it would all be downhill from there.
Now I am the kind of bride that is super simple and I don’t really make big deals out of things like dress fittings and what not.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is so pushy, she practically was deciding on the date of my dress fitting so she could drive up 3 hours and take pictures. I told her that I didn’t really care to have pictures of my dress fitting (in a very nice way) and she came completely unraveled. She even made up a story about sending me a gift to make me feel bad, but conveniently had the shipping stopped mid route. Uh can you even do that?? Long story short, by the end of the day she had quit as Maid/Matron of Honor. To be honest with you I was a little relieved. I didn’t talk to her for a few days while I cooled off. I did end up calling her and told her she was being over the top and I just didn’t need her to do a whole lot. I feel like she thought I wanted her to plan the whole wedding.
Oh and one more big thing about their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. I told them could pick any dress it just had to be a certain color from David’s Bridal (And I am paying for them). Well she waited until 2 months after I had asked them to choose by. She finally told me she was going and I told her two girls had already picked out the same dress so if she could just steer clear of that one she could pick any other one, out of like 20! Well which one did she pick??? The one I asked her not to!! It was once again a huge ordeal! There is a lot more to that story, like how she looked in all the other ones, but I won’t go into that. I could have just picked one out for her that she wouldn’t have like, but I wanted to be nice and have them choose something they really felt comfortable in. She is the only one that had a problem with it!
Looking back, I should not even chose an Maid/Matron of Honor.
Bottom line, I feel like I am going to have to worry about her the whole day. I really don’t even feel like singling her out on the program as Maid/Matron of Honor either. I just want to put down everyone as Maid/Matron of Honor. AHHHH! Can I do that? What should I do???