Post # 1
Ugh so I am engaged but I don’t have my ring yet and we aren’t announcing it until the ring is on my finger. But I just want to tell the whole the world that I am marrying the love of my life. And I hate nights because I’m not with FI and I talk to friends and they always ask how we are doing adn I just want to tell them! And then I torture myself more looking at rings, wondering what he is going to buy for me. He told me he has the ring picked out and just needs the money for it and he won’tgive me any hints!!! Needless to say I am gonna die or explode. Any advice from patient waiting bees??? I’m usually good at waiting for things but this is just killing me.
Post # 3
I don’t really understand why you have put yourself to this situation?
So you are engaged, but you don’t have ring (even though you really want the ring) and you are not allowed to tell anybody. Engagement means different things for different people and in every culture it can vary little bit. Did your SO proposed you? Or do you mean by saying that you are engaged that you have talked about marriage, maybe set a date for a wedding in your minds but not made it “official” yet?
I think with many couples marriage is often talked before the real engagement and proposal but doesn’t have to mean that you are engaged. In fact I see that as a really good thing that couples talk alot about marriage and when it is gonna take place and how and all that kind of things before the man get on one knee and propose you.
May I ask why you don’t have ring yet? Is it a money issue? If so, try to convince your man that you are settled down with less expensive e-rings. Or is the issue that your man is not ready yet to tell everybody about the big step you are about to take? Do you even know at all when you are going to make your engagement official?
If these things are not clear to you. I see you don’t even live together with your boyfriend so then I would recommend you to take a step back and say to your man that in your mind and heart you don’t wanna be engaged until you both are ready to announce it to everybody and you have the ring in the finger.
Why the hurry? How old are you anyway?
Post # 4
Haha, you won’t explode! But thanks for the mental image 🙂
My FI asked me last year if he could propose without a ring and then take me to pick out what I wanted and I told him I wouldn’t ‘feel’ engaged without the ring. That’s just my personal preference though. Back on subject, I didn’t get my ring until May 26th of this year 🙂 I can definitely understand what you’re going through, but I learned that some men just have to do things in their own time.
Instead of focusing on the ring, why don’t you look at other parts of the wedding. What kind of dress do you want? What about colors? Theme? Venues? I could go on forever but you get the idea lol. There are so many things involved in a wedding that you could be filling your time with…and just think, when that ring is on your finger and you can tell the world you’ll have a great jumpstart on the planning!
Chin up girlie, its worth the wait! :-)))
Post # 5
@JustSayYes: He has proposed and our parents and my grandmother know. He had planned to do it when the 2 of us went out with both our parents for my birthday but his car broke down and getting it fixed was more important then buying my ring but he didn’t want to cancel all of his plans. We decided not to announce it to the rest of our families because they are i guess old fashioned in the sense that no ring equals no engagment. We decided that we didn’t want to have to explain the situation and did want my mom’s family and his dads family talking behind our backs because I don’t have a ring (and trust me they all would I have seen it first hand) and we also don’t want the extra pressure on him to get the ring because I can see everyone asking where the ring is everytime we see them. He doesn’t want to get a smaller ring because he researched for weeks and found the perfect ring for me and really does not want to settle. We have seen our friends announce an engagment and people haven’t been entirely happy for them and I’ve seen the toll it can take on them trying to explain themselves and for us waiting for a ring is one less thing to explain. We don’t have set date for when we are going to announce but were hoping by the end of July. It’s not so much of hurry because the commitment is there which is the most important part to me but im just very anxious to show people that we have commitment and who isn’t anxious to get a ring? We don’t live together yet because I just had a job change and I won’t move out until I have had a steady income for couple months. We are young but this is our decision and the only thing that screwed everything up was his car.
Post # 6
Aww gratefullhoops you made me feel so much better. I will try to focus on other things for the wedding, I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who had to wait.