(Closed) Nights are the worst

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t really understand why you have put yourself to this situation?

 

So you are engaged, but you don’t have ring (even though you really want the ring) and you are not allowed to tell anybody. Engagement means different things for different people and in every culture it can vary little bit. Did your SO proposed you? Or do you mean by saying that you are engaged that you have talked about marriage, maybe set a date for a wedding in your minds but not made it “official” yet?

 

I think with many couples marriage is often talked before the real engagement and proposal but doesn’t have to mean that you are engaged. In fact I see that as a really good thing that couples talk alot about marriage and when it is gonna take place and how and all that kind of things before the man get on one knee and propose you. 

 

May I ask why you don’t have ring yet? Is it a money issue? If so, try to convince your man that you are settled down with less expensive e-rings. Or is the issue that your man is not ready yet to tell everybody about the big step you are about to take? Do you even know at all when you are going to make your engagement official?

 

If these things are not clear to you. I see you don’t even live together with your boyfriend so then I would recommend you to take a step back and say to your man that in your mind and heart you don’t wanna be engaged until you both are ready to announce it to everybody and you have the ring in the finger. 

Why the hurry? How old are you anyway?

Post # 4
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46 posts
Newbee

Haha, you won’t explode!  But thanks for the mental image 🙂

My FI asked me last year if he could propose without a ring and then take me to pick out what I wanted and I told him I wouldn’t ‘feel’ engaged without the ring.  That’s just my personal preference though.  Back on subject, I didn’t get my ring until May 26th of this year 🙂  I can definitely understand what you’re going through, but I learned that some men just have to do things in their own time.

Instead of focusing on the ring, why don’t you look at other parts of the wedding.  What kind of dress do you want?  What about colors?  Theme?  Venues?  I could go on forever but you get the idea lol.  There are so many things involved in a wedding that you could be filling your time with…and just think, when that ring is on your finger and you can tell the world you’ll have a great jumpstart on the planning!

Chin up girlie, its worth the wait! :-)))

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