Post # 1
I’m currently in the process of planning my sister’s wedding and I have a couple obstacles to overcome. Neither my sister or her fiance are opting for alcohol at the reception. You heard that right. Not a drop. Add to that, my sister has chosen an early afternoon wedding, which probably isn’t conducive to drinking it up anyway. So here’s my dilemma….I read all these different wedding ideas and they all include alcohol and people say they don’t enjoy wedding without it! Can anyone give me some ideas of how to make her wedding fun and enjoyable without having to provide alcohol? I would hate for hers to be a wedding where everyone eats and leaves. Please, I need some suggestions!
Post # 3
@overwhelmed2014: Also, another thing to add: my sister and her fiance have just graduated college, so they are still in their early 20’s, as are a lot of the guests that will be there. She had suggested lawn games but I felt like an idiot (not to mention old) when I didn’t know what she was talking about.
Post # 4
@overwhelmed2014: If it’s early afternoon and there’s no alcohoo people will probably leave early. Dancing isn’t really an early afternoon/no alcoohol thing and I’m not really sure people will want to stick around and play games. It’s just sort of a fact with this kind of wedding that it won’t last super long, although I’m sure it will still be lovely.
Post # 5
@overwhelmed2014: I would recommend not worrying too much about her wedding. If she’s knowingly decided to have a dry wedding, and you adamantly fight that this is a horrible plan, it will just create friction between you two. You can’t plan fun events at her wedding unless she’s asked you to do so. Just let her wedding be how she thinks she wants it and have as much fun as you can.
Or, spend your time focusing on a fun after party bar crawl or somethign like that, if she agrees that’s a fun idea. It’s just no one’s responsibility but the person planning the wedding to ensure guests have a good time.
Post # 6
@SummerOfLove: +1, the sad truth is that many guests will most likely look at it as an afternoon luncheon wedding, and will likely leave after the meal. Not to say that some people wouldn’t stick around and play cornhole, horseshoes and can jam (to name a few games you may want to try), but you will only have so many games and likely more people than can play at once. I would think that close family and friends would stick around a little longer, but regular guests, especially those who don’t know many people, will leave. Is she dead set on no alcohol? Providing even beer and wine will keep people around longer, although dancing is still not likely to occur in daylight hours.
Post # 7
No mimosas? No bloody marys?? What kind of venue is it, can people BYOB?
Post # 8
+1 to both. An afternoon luncheon wedding is just that – a luncheon meaning eat and leave. I don’t see lawn games being a hit quite frankly – the female guests will be dressed up and the bbqs/parties that I went to with lawn games – those games were taken over by the kids (usually family).
The one suggestion that may make this event more than a luncheon is maybe a carnival/fair feel. I’m thinking bouncey castle, photo booths, caricature artist, circus performances, cotton candy machine, you get the idea. Carnivals usually happen during the day and tend to be family friendly hence no booze – you can work that kind of theme into the wedding.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Just being honest… I am 99% sure you would never find me playing a lawn game without a drink in one hand. It’s just so much more aesthetically pleasing that way!!!
That being said, if this is what your sister wants, she can have it! But yes, most people will eat and leave.
Post # 10
good music will keep everyone dancing.
Post # 11
No, they can’t. (Well, I mean, they could but it would have to be an under the table type thing…) I’m still trying to convince her to move it back by a few hours, at least. Their reasoning is that 1) neither of our families are big drinkers. Our family has history with alcohol. And his family is fairly religious and FMIL has put up a big stink about it. (Which makes me want to talk her into providing it anyway but whatever) and 2) most of his friends are fraternity brothers. You can see where this is going. Any alcohol + his fraternity brothers = broken items, messy venue, etc. She wants to avoid this altogether because she certainly can’t afford to pay for any damages, especially to a venue that has antique furniture in it. (Side note, why the antique furniture? I get it that it goes with the venue but STILL! Explain to me the reasoning behind having a couch nobody can sit on or even move?!)
If I can convince her to move the wedding to an evening ceremony with reception afterwards, is there still a chance people will stay, even with no alcohol?
Post # 12
I think that having the early afternoon wedding is the best way to go. People will probably leave after the meal, but there’s not much you can do about that. At evening weddings a lot of people leave before/when the dancing starts.
Lawn games can be fun but it really depends on the crowd.
Post # 13
@overwhelmed2014: Is she worried about people staying, or are you worried about people staying? To be honest, I am having alcohol and a dance… and I kind of hope most people are ready to be done after dinner because that means I get to leave earlier and enjoy more time with my husband.
Post # 14
@overwhelmed2014: Maybe they could consider board games and card games? I’m not sure that many people want to play bocce, cornhole, etc without a drink, but board games might work.
Post # 15
To be honest, when there isn’t alcohol, I generally leave a lot earlier than I do otherwise. This is mostly because I need the liquid courage to really get out there and have fun (dance floor, photo booths, games, etc). I’m fairly reserved but after a glass of wine, I loosen up and enjoy myself. If there isn’t alcohol, frankly, I don’t have as much fun. (You all can blame me and say I have an alcohol problem all you want – I know that isn’t the case and I’m being honest. I have fun at weddings when there’s alcohol, and I don’t have fun at weddings when there isn’t.)
An afternoon wedding would definitly be a better option, since people tend to dance less at those anyway.
Post # 16
Sorry, I’m Irish and whiskey runs through my veins so I have no suggestions for the guests other than this: