Post # 1
I’m allergic to alcohol (really) and FI doesn’t enjoy drinking, plus alcohol is surpisingly expensive! Is it tacky not to have alcohol at our reception? We’re perfectly happy with a variety of fizzy drinks and maybe some non-alcoholic champagne/wine if we can find it, but our guests won’t be able to get drunk. (Maybe a good thing.)
Post # 2
Have wine on the tables. Your reception is to help thank your people for being in your lives and to celebrate. I believe giving them a glass of wine or two is the polite thing to do.
Post # 3
Are you talking about a dry wedding or just having a cash bar?
TBH I would find a dry wedding off putting unless the lack of booze was for a specific reason, i.e. For religious purposes.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Its up to you but consider your crowd. I’m not much of a drinker, don’t care for wine, beer or champagne, but majority of my friends and family enjoy the stuff. I wouldn’t choose to exclude alcohol simply bc it suits my personal preference knowing my loved ones might be disappointed or not enjoy themselves as much.
Post # 5
I’d do a cash bar in your case. Usually I think they’re a bit tacky, but I think it makes sense for your situation.
Post # 6
rosemaryandthyme : You do not need to provide any alcohol, and you can still host an amazing and fabulous event for your guests.
Post # 7
rosemaryandthyme : It sounds like this is more of a its expensive thing as opposed to anything else. It also sounds like you’ve already decided to not serve alcohol and are looking for everyone to tell you your decision is fine. It’s your wedding so you can do what you like but you will probably have a few shocked guests especially if they know that your choice isn’t because of cultural/religious beliefs or you having a moral objection to alcohol.
Post # 8
To be totally honest with you, I would not have a dry wedding unless it’s a religious reason- which does not seem to be the case here. It’s your day, but it’s also a celebration for your guests and I think you should provide some alcohol. I wouldn’t do a cash bar… I think they’re tacky. I’d provide wine at the table or just bite the bullet and do a bar.
I don’t go to weddings to get drunk, but in my experience the receptions tend to be more relaxed and more fun with a little bit of booze. Helps with dancing too 😉 I have been to 2 dry weddings. They both ended very early (awkwardly tapering off, kind of…), and some people came from the ceremony to say congratulations and then left. Just letting you know what I observed. They were off-putting and the lack of alcohol, even wine, was unexpected.
My stepmom is allergic to alcohol too! I didn’t know that was common 🙂
Post # 9
To be completely honest, it’s not really what you and your FI like, it’s about your guests. Having 0 alcohol at a wedding sort of sounds selfish and off putting. Sorry, but you should consider your guest enjoying themselves. I’m not huge into drinking either, but most people expect go to a wedding and have some form of drink even if they have to pay for it. Unless there is a reasonable excuse.
Once I went to a wedding with 0 alcohol and someone snuck off and bought some and the guest ended up sneaking it in and drinking anyways.
Post # 10
suspend : Interesting point… yes OP, and I think your guests shouldn’t have to feel like they have to sneak…
Post # 11
No, OP, you do not need to provide alcohol.
If someone was allergic to shellfish, I would expect them to serve shrimp just because the guests would like it.
Post # 12
I’ve been to two dry weddings- my lame cousins who’s lame mom (my lame aunt) planned and the people getting married didn’t have a say. Most boring, crappiest weddings I’ve ever been to. Please provide SOMETHING for your guests. I don’t even drink. But I like a glass or two of wine if I’m going to wedding. You don’t need a full open bar or anything, but at LEAST have wine service with dinner or a small California call bar.
Post # 13
I’m a wedding photographer….so I’ve attended and photographed just about every kind of wedding you can imagine.
At the wedding of very religious couples I 100% expect that it will be a dry wedding. That being said, they almost always are very boring and end very early. Rarely do people ever get up and dance. They eat dinner, mingle a bit, and leave.
It doesn’t matter what creative thing the couples try to come up with, and the end of the day people really don’t have much interest in just “hanging out”. I’ve had couples do “coffee bars”, lawn games, ice cream sundae bars – you name it, I’ve seen it. They all have the same result…. no alcohol = early ending.
My DH and I do not drink, not for relgious reasons, but because we just don’t. All of our friends and family drink. We happily serve beer/wine at our house for those who are over, and had a full open bar at our wedding. For us, it’s not about what WE want/like, it’s about hosting our guests properly with things THEY want/like. My stepmom doesn’t eat red meat, if we are having steaks I always make sure to have chicken for her. If a friend who I know loves chocolate cake, I make sure to bake one for dessert when we have them over for dinner.
Post # 14
Can you at least swing a wine and beer wedding? It’s a lot cheaper than a full bar.
Post # 15
rosemaryandthyme : I don’t drink and nor does my husband. But I sort of feel like unless you have moral/ethical reasons or there is someone you are trying to protect who is a guest (recovering alcoholics or something) then there isn’t really a good reason not to provide some like any other beverage. You don’t have to go to great expense though, just beer, maybe wine should be fine. You can even limit the quantity just as you would with any other drink. Our wedding had beer, root beer, lemonade, water, tea and coffee. No complaints, though we knew our crowd as well and they were all beer folks if they bothered at all.