Post # 1
So my parents have decided to pay for the wedding but if they do , no alcohol will be served. I was told if we wanted to pay for it, is not an option due to religious reasons.
Will guest be discourage to come if i tell them its going to be a dry reception? I’ve just heard bad comments from others that have attended weddings with none.
Post # 3
I dont think they will be discouraged to come. It depends if they are the same religion or not if they will really get it or not. Or if they will leave sooner than if there was alcohol.
It depends on what is important to you and what you can afford. For me personally I would have a smaller wedding with alcohol, but that is my family and my decision, not necessarily yours.
Post # 4
I would not at ALL be discouraged from attending but it definitely wouldnt be as personally fun compared to alchohol being served. Can you pay for the alcohol portion, would they be okay with that?? LOL. My SO’s fam does not drink a drop and I refuse to cater to anyone else as far as major things like that go. But no, to answer your question, I definitely wouldn’t be discouraged. I go to every wedding I’m invited to 🙂
Post # 5
@MissTX: Nope family said if they are paying for all cost then no alcohol. Most of their friends are from church so i guess they dont want to offend them. We still haven’t decided if we are going to take them on their offer. We live in DC but they want it to be in Texas.
Post # 6
We had a dry wedding and everyone came and had a great time! I know that my brothers even brought whiskey in the trunk of their car and planned to sneak in flasks but were having so much fun that no one ever left, let alone touched the booze!
Post # 7
I dont see any problem with a dry wedding. We wanted a dry wedding but my family being decided it was neccessary and paid for it. It was a cash bar though. I was not happy to have alcohol served at our wedding because my family always drink too much and argue or say/do stupid stuff. Oh, and they did. They threw the leftover wedding cake in the trash…..and broke a bunch of vases and crap while cleaning up. UGH.
The other wedding that I went to included an extremly drunk/sluty bride that made a complete jerk of herself in front of everyone. So, I think its awesome to have a dry wedding. I actually prefer it!! 😀
Post # 8
You can do a lot of neat things with drinks, even without alcohol. You could have mocktails. Or you could have lemonade and have a selection of berries and herbs to add to the lemonade. iced/hot coffee selections. I would go with the dry wedding and save some money.
Post # 9
I personally don’t go to weddings just because they have alcohol, and I surely hope most people feel that way! I think if people love you and want to celebrate with you, they’ll be there regardless of what’s being served (or isn’t being served). I like the mocktails idea =o)
Post # 10
Personally I would never let my parents dictate my wedding decisions, but I’m older and paying for it myself wouldn’t be an issue. If you don’t mind losing control over your wedding in order to save money than go for it. But for me personally not serving any form of alcohol would have definitely been a deal-breaker. My wedding was planned with the enjoyment of our friends in mind, not of my parent’s friends. I would never serve my friends dinner without wine, and I would never invite them to a party without alcohol, but that’s the type of people we are. If your friends Don’t drink wine with dinner or alcohol at parties then it should be fine. If they do, then I’d say you need to weigh whether pleasing your parents’ friends is more important than pleasing your own.
ETA: my comments above are from a bride’s perspective hosting an event for my friends. As a guest I would still attend a dry wedding, but I would prefer if it was a daytime wedding.
Post # 11
I would still go even there is no alcohol and it is true that alcohol isn’t necessary to have fun.
However, I HAVE been to one where no alcohol was served (also because of religious reasons) and boy, it was horribly boring and awkward. I think SOMETIMES especially in bigger events where most people don’t know each other and aren’t particularly outgoing, alcohol can act as a social lubricant.
I find it odd that a Christian family would have a zero-alcohol policy? I mean, Jesus drank wine!
Post # 12
I don’t think people will be discouraged from coming. They are (hopefully!) coming to celebrate your union, and not just get loaded! Like PPs said, they may have less fun/leave earlier. But they also may not notice or care and you might have a very fun, long wedding! It all depends on your guests and the rest of the things you plan. Good luck!
Post # 13
You could definitely do some fun “mock-tails” and spice it up a little, have a sparkling cider toast… I don’t think people would be discouraged from attending if it’s a dry wedding (they are supposed to be there to support you, aren’t they!?), but I’d be a little put off if I didn’t know it was a dry reception going in. I don’t need alcohol to have fun, but I just assume it’s something expected at a wedding (I’m seated firmly in the full open bar camp, generally). I would tell your friends (anyone your own age) through word of mouth and casually mention it a dry reception, but you’re doing ____ (whatever you choose to replace the alcohol).
Post # 14
I think some guests won’t like it, but hopefully if it’s for religious reasons, they will respect your family’s decision.
Post # 15
If not serving alcohol is a deal breaker for any of your guests, then you need new friends. Sorry but I just don’t buy into the whole thing about how you have to serve alcohol because that’s just what you do. The people coming to your wedding should be the people that love you and want to celebrate your marriage any which way you so choose.
I have been to dry receptions and I’ve been to ones with alcohol. I have never once let that determine how involved I am in someone’s special day. You never know what people’s reasons are nor is it always your business to know.
We are planning a dry reception because there are issues of alcoholism in our family. We are not being apologietic about the fact that there won’t be any alcohol nor are we offering any explination. It is what it is. We’re all adults and I must say our friends are pretty cool. No one needs a drink to have a good time…they just have fun.
Post # 16
How old are you? If you’re getting married, it seems a litle beyond the age where your parents should be saying “No drinking allowed” because they don’t want to offend church friends. Any way to pay for it yourself or downsize? That kind of control would bother me to no end when it’s supposed to be a celebration for my husband and I, not my parent’s friends.
I like a glass of wine with dinner, and you can’t get me on the dance floor without a few drink in me. Is it no dancing as well? I’m cool with a dry reception and would come regardless, but I do like to enjoy a drink at an adult occasion.