Post # 1
Backstory: FI and I are Muslim but my father’s family is not. They are Sicilian Catholics. We are having two weddings one in Jordan and one in the USA. The reception in the USA will be a dry wedding, due to religious beliefs of the bride and groom. Certain members of my father’s family are upset because there will be no alcohol. They are big drinkers. I’m certainly hearing lots of gripes about it and I am starting to feel like I won’t be providing anything “special” for my guests. There is great food, lots of desserts, plenty of soft drinks, mocktails and coffee and tea but I guess that is not enough.
Any suggestions on how to navigate this? Is there something else I can provide for them other than what I already mentioned or should I just tell them to suck it up? If you bees went to a dry wedding, what would you expect instead of booze? I want everyone to have a great time, but I don’t want to compromise my beliefs.
My brother and mother are pushing for me to have shisha/hookah because of the cultural significance and relevance from my FI’s heritage, but I am unsure about this idea for a wedding. They think that it will provide something interesting and different to distract people from the fact there is no alcohol.
Thanks for your suggestions. I don’t want people to feel bored or uninterested because there is no alcohol. I know that is silly, as it is not necessary to drink to enjoy yourself, but I’m worried.
Post # 3
They can deal!! I’ve been to two dry weddings and had a great time at both. One was an earlier ceremony (brunch time) so that helped. What time is your reception? The other was an evening reception and there were mock tails as you mentioned and it seemed fine! We still had a fun time. It’s one event, you do it how you want to do it. You’ll never please all of the people all the time.
Post # 4
I had a dry wedding and some people on my husband’s side were very upset.
They get over it. I promise you.
Post # 5
@Hyperventilate: Thanks! I’m sure it’s very small in the big scheme of things.
@stephee: The reception will be during the evening, so I guess mocktails would work. Thanks for the encouragement.
Post # 6
Don’t compromise on your beliefs! I would suggest having entertainment, dancing and music or interactive things like a photobooth for people to have fun with.
Post # 7
I’m not to keen on mocktails, but as a guest to a dry wedding, I wouldn’t be complaining about the lack of alcohol. Especially, if I know its because of the couple’s religious beliefs. If you ask me, your family will just have to get over it. Also, I think your mom’s idea with the hookahs is great, but my opinion is probably a bit biased. I happen to be a hookah enthusiast.
Post # 8
I went to a dry wedding and as a latina, it was odd for me. But when I got there I was okay with it. Other guests and I decided after the wedding to go to a bar and drink there. It was a good night.
Post # 9
I find their behaviour so ignorant actually. Your situation grates me. Let them just deal with it.
Post # 10
I will also be having a dry wedding, I realize many of our friends will be disappointed but the wedding in the end is about what makes the bride and groom happiest.
Post # 11
honey, you cant please everyone. They will get over it.
Post # 12
Tell them that due to your religious beliefs the wedding will be dry and it isn’t up for discussion.
Post # 13
Thank you for all of your support and suggestions! I guess it’s worth stepping on some toes.
Post # 14
@nooraalj: I would look into including non-religious Italian traditions in your wedding, to honour your heritage. I’ll be the first one to say, an Italian meal (or wedding) without wine is incomplete, but you aren’t having an Italian wedding. You’re an Italian having a Muslim wedding. They can drink any day of the week. Ensure your wedding honours your own beliefs.
Post # 15
Have your wedding the way you want it – and enjoy!! I’d be perfectly fine with a dry wedding! To me the ceremony reflects the couple – and yours will!! Enjoy!!
Post # 16
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
You sound like a nice person but you are the bride and groom. So all decisions related to the ceremony/reception is up to you two and no one else. Don’t go against your beliefs to please others who are obviously coming for the wrong reasons instead of the right reason…to see their loved one married.