Post # 1
A combination of having under 20 guests for our ceremony and personal choice, we’re opting not to have attendants. Instead we’re giving each person some small task – reading, handing out programs, etc – and giving everyone a corsage or boutineer.
We’re thinking of placing our rings on a decorated vintage typewriter (I’m a writer, so it’s fitting.) But I’m not sure what to do with my bouquet during the ceremony.
Should I hand it to my mother in the front row? Sit it beside the typewriter if the size of the table allows for it? Have a designated bouquet minder who sits near the front that takes it discretely?
Or perhaps something else entirely? Any Bees not have attendants that could offer suggestions for what to do with my flowers during the ceremony?
Post # 3
I don’t have attendents. I think I’m going to hand it to my mother in the front row.
Post # 4
I was thinking about not having any attendents, but changed my mind. That being said I can’t give you advice from what I am doing, but I think if I were in your situation I would hand it to my mother. I think it would seem like a nice gesture.
Post # 5
Can you put a pretty vase on the table and put your bouquet in that?
Post # 6
I think it would look really nice if you laid them on the table next to the typewriter so the flowers face the guests. It will look fantastic in pictures! Also, it might be akward for your mom to hold the flowers, especially if she gets emotional and needs some tissues!
Post # 7
I’d put it on the register table. You’re getting married in canada and we sign in front of everybody here on bc. If on is the same it looks nice in pictures. Otherwise I say hand off to your mom or one of your witnesses.
Post # 8
I was thinking about holding my flowers the entire time in one hand and holding my FI’s hand with my other hand.
Post # 9
If anyone is walking you down the aisle/giving you away, you could have them take it after they hug you, then have them hand it back to you just before the recessional.
Post # 10
@HappilyEverAfter54: I’d thought of that, but we’re going to join both hands and have the Blessing Of The Hands to start off our ceremony.
Post # 11
My mom passed away before I got married. I didn’t have any attendants, so my mother-in-law held my bouquet during the ceremony.
Post # 12
All of your ideas are great! Any would work. I didn’t have any attendants and the way I solved the same problem is simply by deciding not to carry a bouquet.
ETA: But we were in my living room and the family (20 guests) was sitting and standing in a U shape around the edges of the room. No one was sitting near me so I had no one to hand a bouquet to.
Post # 14
I like beside the typewriter. What about placing it in a vase instead of lying it down?
Post # 15
This was one detail I hadn’t really thought about. Thankfully, mine was small and I held it in both hands until we exchanged rings – then I held it in one hand, then awkwardly handled it while putting his ring on. Thankfully, it didn’t look too bad. 😀
I vote for the typewriter…or if the pastor’s podium is big enough, put it up there.
Post # 16
I put my bouquet on the small table between us and our officiant. It looked quite nice in the photos as a table decoration. At the reception, I put it in a low vase on our sweetheart table, which is another nice way to display it. I would suggest not asking your mother to hold it — just let her enjoy the moment without any official duties. Wherever the bouquet is, remember to take it with you so you’re holding it in photos afterwards! (Our officiant handed it back to me for our exit down the aisle.)