(Closed) No bachelorette party turnout

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Well I know I certainly wouldn’t have the time or the money to go to Vegas, that’s probably the problem right there. I wouldn’t take it personally.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Vegas is only 5 hours away though! So jealous. If everyone else is going to be a party pooper, have an AMAZING time with your MOH.

That being said, if cost is a factor, you should be sensitive to that. I went to a destination bachelorette party to Vegas and it was hella pricey. I also had an absolutely amazing time with the girls. San Diego has lots of fun stuff–why not do something local that everyone can participate in and not have an excuse to be too "busy" for? 

I would have LOVED to have a destination party in Chicago, but nobody could afford it. So there’s no point in getting upset over people’s lack of cash. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yep!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I am personally not having one. My best friend leaves this week to move to another state, my sister is in a different time zone and if I cant be with them, I dont want one at all. Destination parties are difficult and Vegas is a very expensive little town, been there twice, not going back. Fun though, dont get me wrong! Just be sensitive in todays economy and if people are doing stuff for your wedding, i.e. your MOH thats asking alot. Just think if you really want one and then maybe just do a small get togethor with your friends. You dont need a huge party. I told my girlfriends before she decided to move, I really just wanted to go to dinner or maybe have a wine party at home.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My 4 bridesmaids and I all met up in Philly for mine.  It was 1 to 3 hours drive for everyone, and they got me all the obnoxious garb you can imagine.  Everyone at the bars and the clubs joined in on the fun, buying shots, drinks, making me do silly things.  Even with just the 5 of us, we had a fantastic time! Remember, whoever comes is there because they really care! live it up!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think I am just having a small girls day, with some food, massages and wine! It may go into dinner or a FEW drinks. But I am definitely in the same boat as you and don’t keep in touch with too many people so it is going to be small with sisters and a few other gal pals.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m with you. No one but my sister came to my bachelorette party. Everyone made excuses like, "Its too close to finals" "my birthday is the next weekend," and it really hurt my feelings.
But, my sister and I ended up having a blast, and my other friends that didn’t get to come are now upset that they didn’t get to go.

I live in MI and we had my party in Chicago, where my sister lives, because it was a nice weekend to get away and she had come home the three weekends before and the three weekends after.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Are you having a bridal shower?  Maybe you can fuse your shower and bachelorette in one.  Have a sit down brunch with games and possible a small outting afterwards.  Make the best out of the situation, you definitely don’t need a large crowd to have a great time!

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Definitely mingle them. I had 2 ladies coming from 4 HOURS away. Only my bridesmaids and one other friend made it and I still had a blast. I don’t think it’s really asking too much of them at all–it’s part of their "duty" to come party with you, right?

My shower was in the morning and then we went out that night. It worked out just fine! Everyone went shopping in between them. 

Is there a central location at all? Man, 2 hours sounds like nothing to me as a bridesmaid! 

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m sorry your friends can’t buck up and have the Vegas bachelorette you would like. That’s so disappointing since you only get one bachelorette and it sounds like you would do it for them.  That said, I think if you want a bachelorette you should still do it and just try to make it something that is less of a financial burden for your friends so they can focus on what’s important – celebrating with you! 

I started off with the assumption that something costly would make it difficult for my friends to attend and so I asked my best friend to plan a bachelorette party that was inexpensive and that everyone who wanted to come could afford. She asked all of my friends what they were comfortable spending and they volunteered $100 per person.  I know that this is something they all consider to be reasonable since they chose it – and subsequently they will be able to be excited for the party and focus on planning something fun.  Maybe you could consider asking your friends (or asking your MOH to ask you friends) what they would be comfortable spending?

Good luck and I hope you have an amazing party whereever it is 🙂

 

 

 

 

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