(Closed) No band….anyone else?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m only wearing one ring. It’s substantial enough on its own.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m not getting a band (I’m not a jewelry person), I tried a few on and it just felt weird wearing 2 rings.  Plus I really like the profile of my ring (6mm moissy).

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I was the same the way, not wanting a band.  I didnt’t want the extra bulk, then I had a few friends that also went with the idea of not wanting a wedding band.  Many of them wish now they did.  Many people ask them when the wedding is because all they see is the engagement ring.  I personally don’t see anything wrong with it, but decided in the end to get one. While at home I often take of the engagment ring and just wear the band, and I don’t feel bad about it.  I went with some very dainty so I can barely tell its there.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I currently do not have a wedding band. We (Husband and I) originally wanted one but, the one we liked was expensive (Mostly due to the hand engraving) that was going to match my hypothetical new setting of my engagement ring.

I love my engagement ring, but my husband hates it. I’ve mentioned in other posts on the subject that he calls it his failure. I love it, but that’s insult to injury.

We can’t afford to buy me new rings and truthfully I’d never be able to validate the expenses. It seems frivolous to me.

I still wanted a band, so, I turned to my other forums who is full of jewelery smiths & crafters.

I bought this and requested it just be smooth. Just a tiny, thin silver band to wear with my ring. My husband probably won’t like the idea, but it’s alright. It’s a not very expensive ring, I know is hand made, and pretty nonetheless.

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Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m also thinking about doing just my E-ring, Idk what else I would want with it…

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - The Old Courthouse in Cleveland

Nice Ring!

My mom has a ring like that, and a wedding band that was designed to curve exactly like her e ring. It’s a simple look, but I love it. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I have one ring, 7mm thick.  Not going to be doing anything else with it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m only having the engagement ring. In my culture we usually just take an e-ring and then a wedding necklace and there is also a mangagement ring. However, we will be doing the e-ring and wedding necklance and wedding ring for him (no mangagement). So I think it’s totally fine to just do one ring! Also, I won’t be wearing the wedding necklace often but I like to have. You could have a wedding band but only choose to wear it sometimes or wear it on the right hand or wear it without the e ring at times if you want.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@lilsweetie:  He considers it his failure, and it pains me to hear him say that. He originally picked out a wedding set on blue nile that he liked, a lot. He showed the set to his mother (My husband has never proposed to anyone. Seeking advice from my best friend was out of the question since I live so far away from her and my husband & she do not communicate, so he went to his mother for advice) and she flat out told him to not buy it because I would hate it.

She said that it would be good of him to buy me something simple and allow me to pick a setting I like, because in her words, “It would be torture for a woman to live with a setting she hates.”

Unfortunately, my husband followed his mother’s opinion instead of his better judgement and bought me a very plain band. As he put it, “It was the cheapest one I could find.”

He regrets not getting the original set. In fact, after I accepted his proposal, he showed me the set he wanted to get on his phone. To add insult to injury, Blue Nile no longer sells the ring set. The way he talked about the rings was amazing — he really, really liked them, and so did I. Even if I didn’t like it, I’d wear anything my husband got me because he put a lot of thought and emotional investment into buying me an engagement ring.

When I told him I loved the ring, it really hit home for him. If I was going to love it regardless, why didn’t he just get the set he liked, that way we could both be happy?

I was hesitant to change my setting because, well, I liked it. But listening to my husband tell me that my ring was his failure, that he hated it, that he hated himself for not listening to his inner voice, well.. his happiness is far more important to me than anything.

I agreed to change the setting. We picked out a set we liked (from Blue nile also) but it was expensive and they have “recently” (Before Christmas) stopped selling it. I also contacted a few jewelers from back home in California and wanted one custom made, but for one reason or another that fell through (A lot of them simply never called us back.) Brilliant Earth originally was going to sell us a beautiful setting but retracted their deal when we told them we weren’t going to buy one of their diamonds.

My husband has not brought up the issue again, and so I’m not going to say anything about it. It’s an expense I can’t really justify unless it’s something he really wants.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have just an ering!  Mine was too special and uniquely shaped to put a band with it.  (As in- they all looked dull in comparison and due to the shape none fit right.)

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Hyperventilate:  It’s sad that things turned out that way, but glad that you genuinely like your setting. It’s also very sweet that he consulted his mom about it and that it means so very much to him. he sounds great.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@lilsweetie:  It really does mean a lot to him. I’m glad it does, because it was very important to me for him to get a wedding ring that he likes, and I like as well.

Maybe a few months down the line I’ll bring it up to him. Talking about it really does agitate him. I’m pretty sure if he had his way, he’d stick the diamond on a milk ring and throw the rest of it out the window.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Faelan:  The color of your center stone is just beautiful!!

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