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I think that is perfectly fine. It's not as if you aren't providing alcohol, or are expecting guests to pay out of pocket at a cash bar. Personally, I hate beer, so I wouldn't miss it. But for an elegant affair like a wedding, I think beer-drinkers will be just fine doing without!
i grew up baptist and no one ever had any wine beer or anything alcohol related at the reception. do what you want and don't worry about what anyone thinks. if i were a guest at your wedding, i would be perfectly happy with your choices.
Self dispensing alcohol is problematic, you will find that people will fill their glasses with half alcohol instead of a regular shot, same with the JW. I can tell you from 20 years bartending that you will find that more men will want to drink beer more than anything and putting unlimited vodka and scotch in front of them is just a recipe for disaster. I really think that maybe you should sit down with your venue coordinator and work out some kind of better serving suggestions for you. Sorry, this is from lots of experience and I really hope that it helps.
Do people usually have beer at weddings? Honestly, I can't even remember - haha. It wouldn't phase me in the least if a reception didn't have beer.
@cejo13: i didn't know people had alcohol at weddings either until my friend who was not baptist got married.
Up until about a year ago I only drank beer--and I turned 21 a long time ago. I can handle white wine occasionally but hate, hate red wine. And have issues with mixed drinks. So I personally would miss the beer, especially without white wine being served either.
I don't think beer is necessary. We are only serving wine at ours, though it's an afternoon reception so there isn't as much expectation.
I echo TKS' thoughts that liquor can get tricky when it's self-serve. ALL of my older step-siblings are bartenders, so that's something they told me at the beginning of our planning process.
I could see the bottles of wiskey becoming personal flaskies for some men. lol.
I'd do beer instead of mixed drinks, guys usually prefer beer but if your doing hard liquor many will get mixed drinks or just have shots.
I don't drink beer, so I would have absolutely no problem with it. I could see why some people would be less than pleased.
@tksjewelry: Excellent point! Guests pouring their own drinks can only mean one thing: disaster! Lol
OP--good luck! Definitely look into having a bartender of some sort.
I would skip the liquor and off both beer and white wine since you aren't having a bartender.
Honestly, I think beer is a staple at a wedding, even if you are providing other drinks. I personally despise whiskey, the taste and smell makes me feel sick, so two bottles per table may go a lot further than you think. Are you also having white wine? A lot of people don't really like red wine, and white goes better with any fish/poultry dish you may be having for dinner.
And, like PPs have said, self-serving alcohol can get you into big, big trouble.
Though I voted the second option, if it's self serve, beer would probably be a better choice than whiskey to have freely available!
I would drink wine all night BUT if it is hot and I am dancing, I know wine is not the thing to drink all night unless I want a bad morning. I also think you have to know your crowd. I would not trust self pouring (and my cater would not have allowed it) because I've been to several parties with self serve mixed drinks and everyone always over pours. I would suggest beer and wine and skip the hard stuff is you are not having a bar tender. That being said, maybe you could do a pre-mixed punch or large batch cocktail in a drink dispenser so there is an alternative without giving people free reign on bottles.
We did beer and wine and a huge variety of bottled soda as well as iced tea, lemonade, still and sparkling water and I thought we had everything covered. Honestly, we skipped mixed drinks because we were supplying the bar and did not want to deal with ice and garnishes and predicting demand. We went back and forth between a signature drink or not and then decided that any formal dinners we go to always served a red and a white wine, sometimes two of one if you are in a wine region so we went with that. I really wantedt o do Baily's as an after dinner treat but that counted as a shot and the venue/state has rules against serving shots at private events.
I voted for beer which I hate but my FI and all our male friends would not be happy as they don't drink wine or for the most part liquor. I can see this could spell trouble on how drunk those folks get who might usually drink beer but go harder since none is available.
I don't drink beer, but a lot of men I know only drink beer; they don't drink wine, or mixed drinks. So personally, I would probably provide beer.
I also second the comment made by a PP re whisky; my personal feeling is that it's not something everyone likes, as it's quite a strong taste. Most people I know will drink vodka for eg; but a lot of people I know (myself included) don't drink whisky. So you may find you have a lot left over.
Only you know your guests though and what they do and don't like.
I wouldn't have a problem with no beer because I am more of a wine and liquor person but I know for a fact that my dad and all of my uncles would be very unhappy if I didn't have plenty of beer at my wedding. If the majority of your guests are not big drinkers then I think it's definitely fine to leave out the beer. But if you have a big, irish, alcohol-drinking family like mine then it would be very rude not to have beer! I guess it just depends on who your guests are!
My FH is a beer drinker but he will drink whiskey but if you let him pour it himself you never know what to expect his buddies are all the same way so I would be afraid of a fight breaking out. I don't know how the liquor laws are where you live but here you are responsible for the guest getting home safely because you are providing the alcohol. If you know you don't have heavy drinkers I would say go ahead but I know in my case its a recipe for disaster.
Remind your caterer that beer is cheaper than hard alcohol? And that they too might have a liability issue with self-pouring? I personally would be fine with that, and I voted as such, but I do know a few men that only drink beer (and a few women that only drink wine).
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Here is the situation. The venue will provide endless red wine, soda, tea, coffee. Each table will have a bottle of Johny Walker whisky. Also we will have a self serve juice bar. 2 nice big beverage dispensers, one with cranberry juice and the other with orange juice. There will be big bottles of vodka at the juice bar so guests can mix their own drinks. Champagne will also be served prior to the toasts. Now my ? Is that would it be ok NOT to serve beer? I'm just not real fond of having beer at the reception. What do you beezies think?