Post # 1
It seems like every wedding we’ve attended recently has been beautiful and elegant, food was delicious, and drinks and conversation were perfect. But, when the lights go down and music cranks up, the venue basically becomes a night club.
FH and I were not raised with this trend, and I didn’t even know people played hip hop/rap at weddings til I was in my mid-20s. Yeah…I know. I’m from a really tiny, conservative town, lol.
I go 100% by the “your wedding, your rules” mantra. But… Will people think we’re lame for not having our DJ go that route? We think it’s distasteful, but it seems like people expect it. We will still have music, both fast and slow, for everyone to dance to.
Also, what are your thoughts on music being so loud that you can’t hold a normal conversation? I want our guests to be entertained, and enjoy the night. Surely they wont be bored if we dont turn our reception into a rave? We’re pretty much all in our 30s, if that helps. Thoughts?
Post # 2
af123: I think people would expect that sort of music from an evening reception, but you could always do something else! I’d have rave music because it’s a part of our lives, but if it’s not a part of yours then who says you have to have it? Do what makes YOU happy and what makes YOU comfortable.
Do you have a “theme” or anything? You could tie in music to that instead of club music, or what about an actual band?
Post # 3
I think people do this because people expect it not becasue they want to or like it that much. Just becasue it’s the music played in clubs dosn’t mean it’s good or = a good time. IMO the songs that get people up and moving are not club songs but clasics think “Sweet Caroline,” “living on a prayer” “pour some sugar on me.” My playlist was kick ass and people danced the night away and not one hip hop song was playes since I hate that genre and pretty much why i hate clubs as well.
Post # 4
I think a large variety of music is appreciated and having a DJ that can determine what kind of music gets people on the floor (and stay there) is important. I can personally dance better to “pour some sugar on me” than “gas pedal”. However, not all guest know how to dance to formal music (depending on your crowd) or rock/alternative. In the end you need to do what you want but try and be accommodating to your guest taste!
Our only rule for the wedding music was to keep language appropriate for the children who were present. Anyone could request a song and we had the dance floor packed all night.
Tables were set away from the speakers so that guest could find quiet and talk. I couldn’t control how anyone danced and honestly didn’t care or notice how any of my guest “got down”.
Post # 5
af123: If your guests think you’re lame for not playing loud music, they are cr*ppy friends. Do what you want. If your guests want a nightclub, there are 51 other weekends in the year for that.
I hate hate hate it when music is too loud to talk. OK so I’m in my 40s, but I felt the same way in my 20s.
Post # 6
Music is dictated by the bride and groom. Play what you want. Your dance floor may or may not be full 100% of the time.
Post # 7
af123: Play what music you want to play, but keep in mind people will dance however they want to as well. I have seen people bump, grind and “booty” dance to country, hip hop and every kind of music you can think of.
Post # 8
I wouldnt think youre lame for playing your preferred music at your wedding. I’d think you were lame if you classified rap and hiphop as “booty music.” But if you’re simply saying that you would like to maintain a certain atmosphere and are therefore playing the type of music most conducive to that (without judging and entire genre, one that is extremely diverse and culturally important to a great deal of people), then cool
Post # 9
I refuse to have any r&b or hip hop played at my wedding as well. We have a band untill 11pm and a Dj for the next 3 hours. He will be playing a lot of electronic and hit songs old and new. We figured by 11 all the elders will be gone and we can actually have some crazy fun with our close friends.
I’m with you on the tasteless music andtoo loud to speak.
Post # 10
af123: Do what you want on your wedding day. If you don’t want to spend money on a DJ don’t do it. <br />Having a DJ doesn’t guarantee for a good selection of music anyways. I have been to plenty of weddings where the DJ just s**ked and didn’t really pay attention to the couple’s or the crowd’s preference. If you haven’t sent out your invitations and like this idea, you could do a section on the rsvp “i promise to be on the dancefloor if you play those songs”… this would give you an idea about what kind of music your guests like to dance to.
Post # 12
af123: We both hate hip hop and rap. Not all weddings receptions have dancing let alond hip hop and rap music. It depends on what people’s taste in music is.
You do not have to have a DJ. If you don’t want dancing but want to talk instead you could look into alternatives from bands to string quartets or even your own ipod/mp3 player. Have your wedding how you want it.
We will have dancing at ours but it will be to rock with some cheesy pop. Hip-hop, rap, electronica, house, etc (even current ‘pop’) is on the no play list.
Post # 13
No one is going to fault you for keeping things classy.
Post # 14
This is definitely something you should discuss with your DJ. Tell him you’re not interested in a lot of modern club music or rap/hip hop. He’ll get it and play according to your tastes.
My DJ played a lot of fun 80s music, some Justin Timberlake, and a few old classics for slower songs because that’s what we expressed we liked.
Post # 15
af123: We requested mostly pop and no hardcore rapping R&B songs. There are tons of fun, danceable songs, that don’t need to be ‘booty shaking’ caliber. Do what’s right for you! We’re using Pink, Bruno Mars, Katy Perry… no booty shaking, just fun and upbeat danceable stuff.