Post # 1
My FI and I are finalizing our budget and we came to the line for my bouquet. From the beginning we decided on non floral centerpieces, pocket squares instead of bouts, and my girls are going to carry clutches, but I planned to carry real flowers. But my FI brought up a good point- Im not really a flower person (i hate silk flowers and im allergic to pollen) plus i plan on being escorted by both parents, so flowers are not really worth it. I was thinking maybe an alternative but he thinks i shouldnt carry anything.
We’re pretty untraditional and im not worried about what to do with my hands, but i dont think I’ve ever seen a bride not carrying anything. Would this be too weird? Or is it a great idea? Have you ever seen a bride carry nothing down the aisle?
Post # 3
@mzlouis2b:If you are being escorted by both parents you’ll probably be holding each of their arms (escort style) so your hands will be “full”. I don’t think it will look weird at all if you don’t have flowers. I’m Jewish and a lot of traditional Jewish weddings have the bride and groom escorted by both parents (or the bride by each mother and the groom by each father) and a lot of the times there is no bridal bouquet for this reason.
To sum up: I don’t think it will look weird at all. Mr. Bluebike and I are walking in together, holding hands, so even though I will have flowers I think it would look 100% fine if I didn’t have them
Post # 4
I have never seen it. But there is a lot changing about weddings these days. Never feel you “should” do something. Great way to save and you are not worried about what to do with your hands. Go for it! Not weird, in my opinion.
*I recently heard that brides carrying bouquets originated so that they wouldn’t stink so bad on their wedding day. Kinda takes the beauty out a little lol*
Post # 5
I’m not going to carry a bouquet. It seems unnecessary to me, and I’m having both my parents walk me down the aisle too. I think I would feel more awkward holding one than I will with just my hands to deal with.
So what I’m saying is: don’t worry about it! Nobody will notice, and it will seem totally natural because it feels right to you & your fiance.
Post # 6
if you feel weird about not carrying anything, just get like a little drawstring pouch. but other than that, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. what you will be holding in your hand is more important than anything you will carry (oh make sure you are at least holding a tissue:)
Post # 7
Not to worry without a bouquet! You’ll look beautiful and it won’t see odd at all. Just in case you’re still thinking about it, though, I thought I’d offer you these two options:
1. Have your MOH hold your bouquet for you or have it at the alter waiting for you to pick up and hold during/after the ceremony for photos.
2. I’ve seen gorgeous bouquets made of colorful feathers, crystals and pearls. Not sure how that would work with your theme but just throwing it out there for you.
No matter what you choose it will be perfect for you!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone. I do think im going to go the no bouquet route. It does seem like its going to make the most sense for me. Now to break the news to my mother…..
Post # 9
I agree with the majority. You don’t have to do anything anymore in weddings. I’m having a formal evening wedding and I’m not having any bridal party at all. Some might like it, some might not. FI and I don’t have any “bridal party” relationships and I don’t believe in “fillers”. So no party it is!
I’m thinking, if both your parents are walking you down, you wouldn’t hold a bouquet down the aisle.
And then, normally, you pass your bouquet off to the MOH during the ceremony so you won’t have it then either.
In your case, really, if you did a bouquet, you would only hold it during the processional and sit it on a table at the reception. Not worth it to me if you’re a budget bride.
Or if you just NEED flowers, I’d do a wrist corsage. Much smaller, easier, not too many flowers needed, and you could wear it the entire time!!
Post # 10
I have decided to walk down the aisle with no bouquet also because I will hold a candle and light a candle at the end of the aisle by my deceased father’s picture. But I was worried about not having a bouquet for the pictures. Hmmm…have you thought of this? I saw a post of your in another post, my colors are purple, black, and platinum/bling also! We are going for a moderm glam feel. =) I’d love to see any pics you have of decor so far!