Post # 1
So my venue has me walking down 46 steps just to GET to the aisle.
My dress is not completely floor length, so I ditched my original plan to wear sneakers and instead got 3.5” heels. Also I got pushed into letting my father “give me away” which has been upsetting me for months. But I know it means a lot to him.
Anyway, I realized yesterday, with a shock of terror, that having my dad walk me down those steps and holding a bouquet would leave me with no hands free to hold the railing. Walking down stairs in heels without holding the railing or looking at your feet is rather difficult (I’ve been practicing for a while). But if I lose the bouquet, it solves the problem! I can hold the railing AND have both my parents give me away!
Just so happy! I needed to gush about it and figured it would annoy you less than my fiance. I’d never even considered not having a bouquet; it’s just one of those things that is part of the definition of a wedding. And, unlike cakes and hairstyles and bridesmaids dresses and colorful wedding dresses, it doesn’t seem to be one that many people are messing with. Are there any other brides considering not bothering with a bouquet?
Post # 3
No way. Feel like a bouquet is the last piece of my attire lol. I’d probably have someone hand me my bouquet at the bottom of the steps.
ETA- your venue is gorgeous! I
Post # 4
lol…that exactly what I was thinking..have someone had the bouquet off at the bottom of the stairs. Your venue is awesome.
Post # 5
Good for you! Honestly I kind of wish I would have gone without a bouquet for my wedding. I felt stupid holding it for pictures all day. I don’t even know what happened to do.
Post # 6
oh god, those steps scare me.
Could you have someone at the bottom just hand you the bouguet?
Post # 7
Lots of people are insisting I should have one. I don’t want one, but I think I’ll look odd if I don’t, because I’m not being given away… what will I do with my hands, otherwise?
Post # 8
@katehh08: I saw this venue on four weddings!
Post # 9
@katehh08: If you don’t want a bouquet, don’t bother! I am going without. Instead I will have a cute sparkly clutch that holds useful things!
Post # 10
@katehh08: I couldn’t do it either, I’d have it waitng for me…
will your attendands have flowers?
Post # 11
@W292737: Yes they will have corsages. They’re wearing mismatched dresses so I want the flowers to help tie them together.
@sanjessica: I still need to see that episode! I saw pictures from the wedding on the vendor’s website and WOW. She spent a lot more money on her wedding than I did. But also a LOT more work. Those centerpieces especially were beautiful. And that cake! I looked up the baker and that cake probably cost her $1200. At least. I don’t think I could bring myself to destroy something so pretty!
@Rachel631: I hate when people say that. What is the groom going to do with his hands while he walks down the aisle? Have you thought about walking down together? I wish I’d been able to do that. I think feeling him supporting you would really help with the nerves.
Post # 12
I would have someone special to me hand me my bouquet at the bottom of steps. Go sloooowwww and wear flats.
Post # 13
Someone needs to carry you down those stairs…holy moly!!!!
Post # 14
I don’t think you understand that the main reason I’m psyched to get rid of the bouquet is so that both my parents can walk me down the aisle. The father giving away the bride can be sweet, but I’m not close to my dad at all and as a young (23) bride I feel like I need to assert my independence and show that I’m an adult, not just a daughter and wife. But if my mother walks with me as well it sends a whole different message, and it actually would be meaningful to me. This is something that has literally been bothering me for months. I really pushed to have a secret courthouse wedding a week or so before the ceremony, I was just so upset over it.
And I really couldn’t care less about flowers. My bridesmaids/groomsmen are wearing carnations and the centerpieces are the Castle’s standard fake flowers.
Post # 15
@katehh08: I’d love to walk together, but FI is very traditional and thinks my Dad should walk with me. My Dad and I keep saying we don’t want to, but everyone else is making such a big deal of it….