Post # 1
Hi, I am one of those girls who absolutely hated being herded to the dance floor to catch the bouquet at friends’ weddings, so I’ve decided to give this little tradition the ax at mine. We’re also going to skip the garter toss as well – there will only be 3 single guys there, and I can probably go without having FI dig up my dress in front of everyone. 😉
Just wondering if anyone has done an alternative to these things? Something to get more guests involved instead of “singling out the singles”.
Post # 3
Well, I am doing the bouquet and garter toss. However, I hate the idea of FI going up my dress so we’re doing something a little different. We’re going to wrap the garter around a football and place it under the chair. When Zack gets to ready to go under my dress, he’ll grab the football under the chair instead. It’ll take a tradition that is super awkward to me and turn it into something fun.
Post # 4
We’re planning on inviting all married couples to the dance floor for a special dance. As we’re dancing the DJ will announce that anyone whose been married for less than a day leave the dance floor. We’ll sit down. Then he’ll continue to announce year milestones until we’re left with one couple who has been married the longest. That woman will get my bouquet and the rest of the song will play out with just that couple dancing to it.
Post # 5
@UpstateCait: That sounds really nice. We didn’t want bouquet/garter toss either and your idea is a great alternative.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
Could you have the DJ announce a “Ladies Choice” Dance where ladies get to pick someone to dance with? Or vice versa. That way it’s another way to be involved and doesn’t have to single people out for being single or being unwed or anything. Just a fun song to dance to.
Post # 7
Why do you need an alternative? If you aren’t comfortable with the tosses, skip them entirely and continue with dancing. Chances are that most people won’t miss them anyway if they aren’t there.
Post # 8
We didn’t do either and didn’t want games or group dances (electric slide, macarena, etc) and no one complained. If you have a good DJ who can read the crowd people will still have fun. I find that the people who are too shy to take part in dancing probably won’t games either.
Post # 9
One thing I’ve seen done is a round of musical chairs! In this case, people bought in ($5 or something) to play a gigantic round of musical chairs. Then once it got much smaller, people could ‘buy in’ again to get back in the circle. Eventually there was a winner, and they got the garter (or the bouquet, or a gift you choose). You could do this just for fun (no money) and it’s not singling out the single folks, anyone can play.
Post # 10
I did not do either and did not feel the need to have an alternative. The fewer organized events, the more time for dancing!
Post # 11
Thanks! I don’t necessarily need an alternative… guess I was just curious if there were cute ones out there that would get more people involved. I’m going to keep thinking on this. Thanks for the suggestions!!
Post # 12
I also agree that if skipping it you don’t need something to replace it.
Post # 13
we are also doing the anniversary dance.
Post # 14
@His Lioness: We didn’t do either toss and we didn’t replace it with anything. No one noticed and we had a great time!
Post # 15
We opened it up to both men and women, single and married. Although, now that I think about it – I should have just made it – all women (for the bouquet) and all men (for the garter) – instead of wanting men to catch flowers 😉
It was really well received and appreciated by both single and married alike (since the singling out of the singles is always the loathed tradition (at least in my experience).