Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens
Have you recently or in the past received wedding invitations that say ” No boxed gifts”… meaning cards/ monetary gifts only ?
If so what were your thoughts?
And if not, would you add this line to your invitation if you didn’t need “boxed gifts”?
Post # 3
No. I think it is very rude to put anything about gifts in an invitation. And even by word of mouth, I think saying “No boxed gifts” is rude – I think a much nicer way of saying it if someone asks is “Breezy and Groom have been saving up for their honeymoon (a new home, new furniture, whatever).”
If you do a very small registry or no registry, I think most people get the picture. “No boxed gifts” comes off as VERY demanding and ungrateful.
Post # 4
I’ve never seen that on an invite so honestly, I would be confused as to what it meant.
Post # 5
I think it’s considered poor etiquette to include “no boxed gifts” on any invites.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
It might mean they’re travelling so can’t take everything with them?
Post # 7
My friend (whom I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for) had that on her invites. I found it amusing and daring. I would love to put that on my invites too, but I didn’t!
Post # 8
I think it’s rude. If you don’t want boxed gifts then you should not retgister, and let your bridal party and family know to tell people you’d prefer money.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
It’s in very poor taste to dictate to your guests what to gift you (if anything). Miss Manners even frowns on gift registries, which I think is pretty excessive.
We are getting married 3,000 miles from where we live and we are NOT putting that on our invites. I hope our guests will have enough common sense not to bring us huge boxed gifts. But if they do? That’s why FedEx was invented.
I haven’t seen that IRL, but if I did, I think I would be put off by it.
Post # 10
Thats ridiculous. If you dont want tangible gifts dont register. Its that simple.
ETA: Depending on the couple, I would probably show up with a wrapped empty box.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I’ve never heard that before; if I saw that (before now) I’d probably think it referred to wrapping! It would definitely be rude to put on invitations. If you are just looking for monetary gifts, just don’t register.
Post # 12
The only time I’ve seen something like that is when the bride and groom are having a shower somewhere other than where they live and will have to fly back home. In that case, it was worded much more tactfully than that. It said something about space considerations and if you send a gift, please ship it to their home. It was also not printed directly on the shower invitation, but printed on a seperate piece of paper sent in the same envelope. I don’t see much of a difference, but I understand that some people find that to be more correct.
Post # 13
If I saw that on an invite, I would probably think it was rude. I understand that some people don’t need more stuff, but I think it’s presumptuous to demand money instead. Gifts aren’t mandatory and I feel like people should be grateful for anything they receive. If the couple wants money, this should be spread by word of mouth. Even then, some family members or friends may be put off by this and buy a gift anyway. It’s a slippery slope, in my opinion.
Post # 14
If i received an invitation like that I would purchase a gift, take it out of the box, and wrap the item itself and give it to them. That’s so rude.
Post # 15
Not in the same words, but yes, I’ve seen it on an invitation (some poem about cash gifts only, please) and to be honest, it was all anyone could talk about. Guests were really offended.
I should note that a similar poem or whatever appeared on the shower invite as well! People were doubly insulted!
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens
@bellasperanza: I have to say I was very confused to, I was thinking ” well I have to come up with a very creative non-boxed gift” But later I realized, they waned money “in a card” of course!