- 6 years ago
I need advice on gifting for a freind’s wedding. Here’s the situation:
My friend is having a destination wedding and I was only notified of this a few months before the wedding date. That is fine, I suppose, but considering I only have a limited number of vacation days per year and she is one of my best friends, I had to cancel on my dear uncle whose son was getting married in another country (not destination) and who loves me to death. However, that is a choice that I made. I wish I had known earlier so I could manage my vacation days to allow both – oh well.
I got a call from the bride saying that she got me a deal on the package for only $1500! Which she said was an amazing deal! Alright, fine. I know weddings cost money so I’ll go ahead. Multiply by two since I wil be attending with my S/O. I am a bridesmaid for the wedding and was asked to get a dress (any dress, one that I like) in yellow. I had something I could use, so I was happy about that. I just got a call that the bride changed her mind to a pink dress just weeks before the wedding. Again, I can get whatever kind of dress I looove so that’s a great deal for me, right(?). Also bridal shower is on the way soon. All this from a bride who is not spending a dme on her own wedding dress and just borrowing someone’s dress. I know for a fact that the dinner will be a very low cost affair on her end because she is very thrifty (nothing wrong with that).
I am in my early twenties and just graguated school with huge debts recently. I have been working for around 6 months. Her and her fiance are well established financially.
Now the kicker is that I got an e-vite (why spend money on actual cards?) stating blatanly “No Boxed Gifts” right on the invite! I was thinking that after having spent so much on the bridemaid dress, the package, the shower, I could gift her something from my ‘reserve gift stash’. Basically I buy gorgeous 14kt real gold jewelry when I have some money and find a good deal and put it away as a gift when I need to give one. I was planning on giving her a Zales necklace, earrings and ring set in 14K gold.
Am I fair to be *very* annoyed right now? I suppose I could sell the jewelry and give her cash for whatever I get for it. Really strapped for cash otherwise with all this piling up!