Post # 1
Anyone else not having a bridal party?
We are having a laid back, super short wedding…so we are not having a bridal party at all. My bff got a little miffed at me for this, but I just don’t see the point of making someone spend money to be in MY wedding (no way I could afford to buy dresses, shoes, hair dos, etc for others).
I’m just curious if anyone else is not having anyone with them!
Post # 3
We had a BP but it’s up to everyone individually. Have one or don’t, it’s up to you!
If you’d like your BFF to stand up with you she doesn’t have to buy a dress or anything – I just asked my girls to wear their little black dresses. They looked gorgeous!
Post # 4
I am adamantly against a bridal party. With my siblings, his siblings and my best friends that’s at least 6 people on each side, not even including the people I feel were important to our relationship. So, we decided to forgo the BP completely.
If it ends up being important to his sisters they “stand up” with us, I’m going completely non-traditional and having his siblings stand with him and my siblings stand with me!
Post # 5
@AlwaysSunny: I don’t want her to, she just wants to! Lol. She doesn’t understand why we don’t want people to stand up with us.
Post # 6
@LincsMama: Haha! Aw well that’s sweet that she wants to support you but hopefully she stops bugging!
Post # 7
@AlwaysSunny: Yea, I made sure to tell her that I didn’t mean for it to offend her. It just wasn’t something we wanted to do. She is coming to look at dresses with me on Thursday, so that makes her feel a little better and she keeps trying to help me with things, even though there isn’t much to help me with. I really love her and all of her support! She really is amazing…especially since I was MoH in her wedding, but was pregnant, lived and hour away, was working 55+ hrs a week before her wedding, and then had a newborn right before her wedding, so I couldn’t help her much : /
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@LincsMama: We didn’t, and it was great! All our best friends and close family were super helpful in the days before the wedding, helping us do last minute stuff and set up. I got ready with my mom and my sister, and my MIL, SIL, and other friends came in and hung out for a while. We had our siblings walk down the aisle but then just sit down in the front row, to recognize them a little bit. With all the gazillion things to coordinate, I was glad not to have the added stress of dealing with a wedding party. And the whole “rank your friends and make them stand in a matching line” just always seemed awkward to us.
I would definitely let your bff help you in whatever way she can and make sure to tell her how much you appreciate her! Hopefully she will understand that the wedding party just isn’t your style.
Post # 9
@LincsMama: I would prefer no bridal party but when I mentioned it I offended my sisters soooooooo I’m having BMs and GMs now. No biggie to me. Would have LOVED to keep it simpler but whatevs.
Post # 10
I’m not having one. I’m literally getting married and then going home. We might go out for a meal after if we feel like it on the day. My cousin’s daughter is a sort of unofficial bridesmaid, and has seemingly become obsessed with the fact I’m getting married.Of course, if I was having a bigger wedding (or as some people like to offend me by saying a “real” wedding), I’d have four people in mind for BM’s.
Ultra casual for me & Mr Majoria.
Post # 11
I’m not having one , just don’t want to deal with it …
Post # 12
We’re not having a wedding party. The whole idea makes no sense to me, and sounds like a nightmare.
People were upset with us at first, but our lack fucks being given changed that quickly..
Post # 13
@LincsMama: me!!!! i was having 2 in my bridal pary but that has switched to none and im happy about it.
Post # 14
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
@LincsMama: We are sort of not having a BP. We have 4 kids amongst us but only 3 will be there (his daughter lives in OK) and my oldest daughter is the maid of honor, my son is the best man and wlking me down the aisle and our baby who is 8 will be our bubble girl and my nephews are the ring bearers. We will be outside and can’t throw petals so I told her she could blow bubbles. Other than that there really isn’t a bridal party. But my parents, his granfather, brother and my brother and sister in law will be there. It will be a very short, simple ceremony. We have both been married before and wanted a wedding but not a huge ceremony.
Post # 15
@LincsMama: We nixed our whole bridal party when we cut the wedding from 80 people to 25. It was seriously the BEST decicion we made about our wedding. The BP was causing so much greif it just wasnt worth it. We didnt even use them to sign our licence, we had our grandparents as our witnesses instead.
Post # 16
@LincsMama: I should probably add that we had a flower girl (aged 4) & ring bearer (age 2) and they completely stole the show! But no drama!