Post # 1
So, we have an uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Some of them are bringing their dates, some are not.
No matter how we swing it, there is an extra bridesmaid.
Any suggestions? My mind is getting boggled and I can’t get creative.
Is this dance really worth it? We are doing a "first" dance, father/daughter dance and mother/son dance. No other traditional dances, like the money dance, bunny hop, etc.
Should we try to figure something out, or just let it go?
Post # 3
just let it go. i’m sure your bridal party and guests will be fine without it. you are having enough dances as it is. but, it’s your wedding, so if it really means something to you, then by all means, just have someone else fill in for any extras. if you are doing it for tradition, look at it this way
the dance is not meant to inflate or deflate your marriage, so why stress over it? that is how i’m viewing a lot of wedding things now. i am not having a garter or bouquet toss because it has no meaning to me, even though it’s suppose to be traditional. the way i see it, i’ve been to many weddings that have had them and while some couples have remained married, others have divorced, so i don’t view it as anything too important. whatever you decide, let it be about you and FI.
Post # 4
Definitely let it go! I was in a wedding with an uneven party and the whole thing was semi-mortifying.
Post # 5
We didn’t do the dance> i always feel like its forced–half of your bm’s or gm’s probably have an SO at a table in the wedding. Shoot, if i was in a wedding, I don’t want to be forced to dance w/ someone who isn’t my husband! In fact, I haven’t seen those in a long long time. Don’t do the BP dance.
Post # 6
Okay, bridal party dance is officially nixed!!
Thanks! You made it easy!
Post # 7
Great choice!!! I have an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen and I just think it is a little awkward to have them dance with eachother so we aren’t doing a bridal party dance.
Post # 8
Funny, I’m not sure I’ve ever been to or in a wedding with a bridal party dance. I’d never heard of it until just now. So I definitely don’t think skipping it is a big deal 🙂
BTW, for my sister’s wedding we were all in red. So the DJ ended up playing "Lady in Red" and dedicating it to the BMs. Dedicating a song to your BP but letting them pick their own partner is another way to go.
Post # 9
Good decision! I’m skipping the "bridal party" dance too. I just don’t see the point. I want EVERYONE up and dancing!
Post # 10
Agreed, definiteliy awkward when there are SO’s etc. 🙂
Post # 11
I’m with FizicsGirl – I’ve never heard of the bridal party dance either! So we’re definitely not going to do one. I think it’d be kind of odd if we did anyway since we each have 2 on each side half of which are siblings. haha
Post # 12
I think we’re going to skip it too–5 bridesmaids, 4 groomsmen, and only 2 bridesmaids are single. Every other person in the wedding party is married or in a long-term relationship. I think it’ll just be awkward no matter what, so we’re going to just skip the whole issue. I know the bridal party dance is technically supposed to "open up" the dance floor for the night, but I think everyone knows when it’s time to dance. ^_^
Post # 13
i definitely will not be doing one for mine but my friend is and I am in her wedding and not looking forward to doing the dance but didn’t say anything cuz its her wedding
Post # 14
Good choice! We are not going to have a bridal party dance either. As many others said, that would require some people to dance with someone other than their SO. And to top it all off, our two tallest people (every one else is significantly shorter) used to go out and there is a conflict with them being paired up so as it is the recessional is going to look pretty funny with my 5’8″ brother walking my 6′ friend and the 6’5″ groomsmen walking my 5’4″ cousin! Too akward for a dance!
Post # 15
We’re not doing a dance either. I think other than the first dance and the father/daughter dance we might forgo the rest of them. They’re just boring and awkward.
Post # 16
Yeah I hadn’t heard of that one so I’d totally skip it.