No Bridal Party Here…

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

 Hi @ashc873:  I see you are NEW on WBee so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

I am a bit of an Etiquette Snob here on WBee… lol

So I’ll tell you straight up that there is NO REQUIREMENT to having a Bridal Party… it is just a Tradition.

In some places there is “no party”… just a MOH & Best Man.

But it is perfectly OK to have no one “stand up” with you… and someone else can fulfil the role of signing the Marriage License or Church Registry.

The UPSIDE ???

Not having a Bridal Party will save you a good lot of money… and grief (lots of stories on WBee about Couples having MAJOR disagreements with members of their BP)

So ya… I say GO FOR IT

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 4
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1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@ashc873:  I did not have a bridal party (destination wedding). I have no regrets. It was much less stress, not having to coordinate additional people. 

Post # 5
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42510 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ashc873:  Hi and Wecome to the Hive!

As the pp has stated, you are not required to have a wedding party. you will have to ask someone to sign as a witness, but that can be any adult present.

Post # 6
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455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@This Time Round:  I think you should drop the whole “snob” thing when you do your constant announcing of your etiquette. Don’t know if you understand what a snob truly is. Lol …..

Post # 7
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @NJatTheDisco:  ya I do… that is why it always has the LOL at the end.

It is a JOKE / POKE at the concept that Etiquette is only for snobs.  I am trying to disprove that theory.

Etiquette like Manners are something you learn and then choose to employ or not.

I try to be factual but also approachable in my Etiquette Posts … and also not so stuck in the rules that I can’t let them know that they can break them (H#LL I break em myself at times)… just that there are risks sometimes involved / consequences, so knowing that is how one chooses to break a rule.

Most Bees who know me, know my style, get the humour / sarcasm in the opening line

Maybe it is a Canadian thing… sarcasm and the ability to poke fun at oneself ?  I would hope not.

 

Post # 8
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971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m having a DW in Las Vegas in a month (OMG). My sister is standing up with me and FIs brother is standing up with him. That’s it. Mimimum stress and no dramatics. Works for me!

Post # 9
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

FI and I are also having a destination wedding and seriously considering no bridal party now.  It would just make things so much more simple and we really like the look of just the two of us standing up there together.  Plus, because it’s a destination wedding and we will have so few guests anyway, if we started pulling people from the seats to stand up next to us, there would be almost no one in the seats!  haha!

Post # 10
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1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@ashc873:  We’re having a super small ceremony, no bridal party but I will have an MOH (my sister) and my FI will have a best man. They will be our whitnesses and will sign for us. Don’t feel like you have to have a wedding party. You don’t have to have anything you don’t want 🙂

Post # 11
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4640 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

No bridal party here either. Just wasn’t our thing, to be quite honest we’re both too selfish to share the spotlight. ITS ALL ABOUT US. 

Just kidding, but not really.

 

Post # 12
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@ashc873:  We’re getting married in July (so I don’t know what it will actually be like, sorry!) and just having a best man, maid of honor, and matron of honor. We’re going with no bridesmaids or groomsmen because 1) the numbers on each side wouldn’t be anywhere close to even, 2) I don’t want my friends to feel like they have to spend money they don’t have,  3) it is going to save us money on flowers, gifts, etc. 

That being said, I do have moments where I’m a little sad I won’t be able to get ready in cute robes with all my girls by my side. But they are still going to be in pictures with me and celebrating with me all night, plus I know that not having to spend money on a dress, hair, makeup, etc is something they will appreciate. 

I will also say that about half the people who know we’re not doing a bridal party think we’re crazy and the other half thinks it is totally normal – so do what feels right to you! 

Post # 13
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1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m not having a bridal party either.  It’s too much of a logistical hassle and it gets expensive.  I’ve been a bridesmaid three times.  Each time, the bride organized and paid for the dress/hair/makeup/accomodations (Partly because my friends are awesome, and partly because they recognized that being bridesmaid is a lot of work).  It’s not in my budget to do that for my friends, so I will honour them in another way.      

Post # 14
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24 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Sorry, for asking; but why not have a small bridal party? 

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