Post # 1
Ok Bees, I’m sure this is not what people would ever call “good etiquette” but because my fiancé and I live together and don’t need anything we will not be registering for gifts and will be asking for ‘an investment in our future home’. After reading some WB posts I’m sure it horrifies some of you gals but it is perfectly acceptable in my family/friend group (we aren’t big on wedding etiquette in the first place”. So anyway, is there a reason to have a shower? It feels like Id just be getting people together to celebrate me for snagging a man! Lol anyone else skip the shower?
Post # 3
@TheFutureMrsNguyen: I had a more “traditional” shower, and have been invited to a cash bridal shower as well. I posted about it here, but was mostly mad that it asked for “donations”. I’d probably steer away from the word “investment” as well… If I was jokingly asking for a tax receipt for my donation, I’d definitely be snarkily wondering when my “investment” would start paying dividends 😛
If you still want to have a get together with your favourite ladies (which I highly reccommend, I was totally blown away by my shower, and all the love in the room) then maybe call it a ladies luncheon or something, and let the hostess spread that gifts are not required or the point of the event. Then people who choose to bring something will likely get the hint and give cash, which you can open later.
Post # 4
I was considering using the bridal shower to ask for things like gift cards and the like that I could use to get stuff for the honeymoon. I probably won’t have a shower, tho, because I am out of state, and like you mentioned, pretty set with having stuff for the home, so it’s not a necessity. If you have someone that wants to plan you a shower, go for it! Just have them know that you want cash/gift cards. It’s your shower, and you should be able to request what you want 🙂
Post # 5
I skipped it, sure. What I thought about doing but didn’t get around to was just having a ladies’ get-together without the presents element- people like to be included and show you they love you. 🙂
Post # 6
I’m not having a bridal shower..just lunch with my mom and sisters..
Post # 7
My shower is this Sunday. Looking forward to it. I would not ever ask people to pay for my future home. It’s not their investment to make. I would still go ahead and have a smaller tradtional shower if that is an option for you. Then in the hopes that your shower was so small, guests attending the wedding might be more inclined to gift you cash. But you should never ask for it, it turns people off.
Post # 8
@bridalprincess: My Fiance and I are trying out different wording for this because many people scoff at the whole ‘investment’ thing but in our circle of friends and family it is totally appropriate for asking for money. It’s more common in fact. We certainly wouldn’t if it would offend our guests.
Post # 9
@TheFutureMrsNguyen: If it is tradition in your family, then go for it… not sure how you would word it though. Maybe word of mouth could help?
Post # 10
I’m skipping the shower too. FI and I have lived togther for a few years and we don’t need anything. I’m not going to suggest anything for presents per se (skipping a regristry), but just try to spread the word that cash is appreciated over items.
Post # 11
I skipped the shower, mainly because I don’t like being the center of attention & having gifts showered on me! If you don’t want one, I don’t think you’re missing out. I don’t regret skipping it.