Post # 1
Any other bees skip out on a bridal shower? I thought I wanted one but I cringed at the thought of making all of my friends pay for more travel and get me even more gifts when we’re all straight out of college. Plus I didn’t want my sister or another family friend to put in all that work for something I’m not sure many could attend. I have no regrets but I am just curious who else chose not to have one? I did give myself permission to go buy a little lingerie on my own after the fact though haha!!
Post # 2
I am having one at the end of August that my MOH is throwing for me. It’s also been in talk that some aunts of my FI will also be throwing me one as well, but I’m totally OK if they end up not doing one. That one would be his family and family friends, of who I may or may not know them even. (They know A LOT of people).
I’m having the one at the end of August the same day as my bachelorette party, that way friends who live out of town can come to both if they want to.
Post # 3
BohemianButterfly: I had three showers before my first marriage but they were all surprises to me so I had no say in the matter. Before my second marriage, I made sure friends and family knew that I anbsolutely did not want any showers. We had more than enough “stuff”.
Post # 4
i didnt have one, and i didnt miss it. We had a buck and doe which i thought was more than enough for everyone to support us. We have owned our own home for 4 years we didnt need more stuff and i didnt think it was right to ask people to attend the buck and doe, plus a bridal shower, bachelorrette and wedding. I felt that was way overboard.
Also, in this day and age bridal showers seem pointless. Its not young kids leaving their home and starting to live by themselves anymore, so in my opinion they dont always apply now.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
BohemianButterfly: I didn’t have one. Almost all our family already had to travel a long ways for our wedding and my friends arent really the traditional type, so it seemed like a fussy and gift-grabby idea (in my situation at least). No regrets at all.
Post # 6
I don’t have a lot of female friends and our wedding is fairly small, so I knew that a shower would not work out. FI and I also own a house already, so we don’t need a lot of the traditional shower gifts.
Post # 7
Didn’t have one, didn’t want one and I have no regrets about it. I did go out to lunch with my bridesmaids just to catch up and spend some time with them, which was nice, but I’m always bored at showers and didn’t want to subject anyone to that lol.
Post # 8
No shower for me – I made it clear to anyone who hinted at one that I did not want anything remotely like a shower. No regrets and cannot imagine having any.
Post # 9
I had no home bridal shower. Our wedding was a destination so we didn’t have anyone throw us a shower. I would have loved to have a no gift party but even that didn’t happen. I was also quickly chided on the Bee when I posted about being slightly sad about not having anyone show interest in throwing a shower for me, so, be prepared for the ‘no one deserves a shower’ argument no doubtedly coming.
After I returned to work after the honeymoon, my supervisor coordinated a small shower, so I had to run and register for that. It was a cute barely anything party but a shower nonetheless.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Showers are icky; that’s my overall opinion. I can’t stand going to them, and I sure as hell would never expect one or ask for one.
That being said, if someone decided to throw one for me, I would try to be gracious about it; if the majority of my friends were broke or not into that sort of thing, I would talk to the would-be hostess and explain that I don’t want one. Otherwise I would graciously accept.
Sometimes a workplace shower is unavoidable. Smile, accept gifts, say thank you, write your thank you cards. Done.
Post # 11
I didn’t have one. After learning the history of showers (how it’s basically to give the dowry to the bride’s family if they cannot afford it) I wanted one even less.
As an aside, though, we ended up getting almost no cash at our wedding, but got all of our registry items. If I had a shower, I’m sure we would have gotten more money…. but honestly, we were living together for a year when we got engaged and didn’t really need any more stuff. The idea of a shower seems so oldschool and gift grabby.
Post # 12
lolot: That is exactly how I felt! Everyone in my family and group of friends is spread out so it felt like alot like “hey come fly back here to give me presents!” We did a killer Bachelorette party instead haha!
Post # 13
My bridesmaids are throwing me one, I just got their invitation in the mail. I love tea, everything British, and all things mint green. The invitation has a really cute saying about joining for a spot of tea at one of my bridesmaids houses. And the whole thing done in mint! I don’t care about the gift part I am just so touched they are going to so much trouble and know me so well to plan something so “me”.
But, if they hadn’t of taken the reigns and just sort of started planning it, I wouldn’t have been bothered if I didn’t have one!
Post # 14
MissLibra: That is awesome!! Sounds like a blast. I love the idea of a bridal shower “tea.” My bridesmaids, I knew, were trying to figure it out and had all these ideas but we all quite literally are scattered throughout both the east AND west coast. That is why I had to just intervene and say stop it lol. I think I’m more fine with not having one, too, because my bachelorette party was one of the best weekends of my life with everyone!!