Post # 1
So I’m a bit of a shy lass and I really don’t have the cash to throw either or these events myself (and I KNOW no one else will throw either for me) so chances are they just aint happening.
Anyone else forgoing these two pivitol parties? or perhaps doing an alternative? I feel like I’m missing out but at the same time I don’t want them…
Post # 3
I’m not doing them and I’m fine with it. It’s just not my style and IMO, not appropriate for our event (since our ceremony is private and we’re having a reception months later). I’ve been to so many that it really doesn’t feel like I’m missing out on much–except an afternoon of watching me unwrap presents and a night of watching me down shots–neither of which are all that important to me.
It’s okay not to have them–if you would like to have them, though, you can certainly *hint* with your BMs and I’m sure they’ll be more than happy to put one on for you.
Post # 4
If you want to do something because you feel like your missing out… what about a joint get together with everyone in the bridal party (groom, groomsmen, bride and bridesmaids)? You could all meet at a restaurant and go out after or have everyone over to your house for a party. If you go out make sure everyone knows it is a low-key night out to celebrate and they will be paying their own way.
Post # 5
We only decided to get married at the end of August, and our big day is October 16th (14 days, but who’s counting!). We wanted something fairly small, definitely ‘no frills’ so it never even crossed my mind to have either a bridal shower or bachelorette party. That being said, my co-workers surprised me with a nice dinner & night out this week. They enlisted my sister to get me to the location. It was a nice surprise, not expected and really not a big to-do.
I think if you feel like you might miss out on a something, grab a few of your ‘besties’ and have a quiet girls’ night in… or go out of for a nice dinner & a few drinks.
Post # 6
If you don’t mind me asking, are you having bridesmaids? Are there any other female family members involved in your wedding planning?
Post # 7
@Gemstone: I’m thinking my two roomies but since ive only got 18 guests i feel like bridesmaids would be a bit silly 😛
Post # 8
@MadameLady: It’s never silly to have bridesmaids! Even in an intimate ceremony. 🙂 I feel like your roomies would love to throw a party for you!
Post # 9
I suggest holding a low-key potluck with your roommates. That way you won’t have to be the center of attention the whole time if you’re shy, but it can feel like a warm celebration of your upcoming nuptials.
I don’t think I’ll be having a shower at all, since we’re not registering for gifts. A friend offered to throw me a bachelorette, but I’m not sure how that will work since my best friends are scattered across the country. Honestly my dream bachelorette party would be a weekend camping with my close friends, but I don’t know how practical that is. I’m not really a going-to-bars-and-getting-smashed kinda gal.
Post # 10
I did not go the traditional route on either of these things, we went to Vegas for a little trip with just a couple of friends, but no big bachelorette with all ladies, we hung out, gambled, had a few drinks and went camping in Zion National Park the next day. Def not a typical bachlorette by any means but that’s exactly how I wanted it.
As for the shower, I specifically did not want one. My bridesmaids decided to throw a brunch in my honor the day before my wedding just to do something special. It was lovely and I was able to have some time with some ladies without the awkwardness of gifts. There are ways to change it up and still have a bridal experience if that’s what you want.
Post # 11
Hi! I am having 25 guests, including my 4 bridesmaids :). If you want to add them, I’d say do it! I’m sure your roomies would be super excited!
Also, I did NOT have a shower, but I did have a bachelorette. If felt silly doing a shower since we were inviting so few guests and I truly did not want to invite people to the shower and not the wedding (tacky tacky).
As for the bachelorette, it really doesn’t need to cost a lot. You could just have your girlfriends meet you out at a restaurant or bar. For mine, my friends all meet up at a hotel that my friend got using her points, and then had some light apps, and then went around to some bars.
Post # 12
I’m not having a bridal shower or bachlorette night. Mostly because all the planning is long distance and family and friends don’t live nearby. But my sister, MOH, and my bridesmaid are doing a spa day and lunch the day before the wedding. Which I’m much happier with. 🙂 Don’t feel bad if you don’t want what is traditionally done. Find something you like and go with that.
Post # 13
I didn’t have either because I didn’t live close to any good friends. Oh well.
Post # 14
i think it is a BLAST to have these two parties..but if you dont like the idea; you certainly dont have to have them!!!! alott of times; like in my situation the bridesmaids and maid of honor pay for these two events. but since you are not sure if you will even have BM’s; what i would do is just have a little girls night out or something “only if you want” and just go out and have fun..maybe even dinner if your not the going out type of person..and everyone can pay for themselves.