Post # 1
I dont know if I want to have a bridal shower. I dont have very many friends…I would say maybe 10 girlfriends total…and then my mom and my FIs mom and some cousins, but I dont know if I feel comfortable having a bridal shower. I just feel like its going to be very awkward. Did anyone not have a bridal shower or wish they didnt have a bridal shower? My FI was like “Well, its extra gifts” but I just dont care that much.
Post # 3
I didnt know where to post this!
Post # 4
If you really don’t want one, you can tell your BMs (if they are throwing it), thank you so much but no thanks. Maybe you’d feel more comfortable with with a small, intimate luncheon or something? Showers don’t need to be 50 people. FMIL wanted to blow up the guest list for mine, but ultimately I’m having a small shower w/ just close friends and family. I’m a lot more excited about it now. Good luck!
Post # 5
I’m with you. I don’t really want the kind of shower I’ve been to. I don’t want to be the center of attention that way. I haven’t yet decided whether or not I’ll have one.
Post # 6
you can have a different bridal shower then, why not make it a tea party for girls only. We’re you girls just can talk and share some experiences and they can give you advices or some point of views.
Post # 7
i didn’t want a “traditional” bridal shower such as a kitchen or linens shower since we already have more than enough of that stuff, so i’m having a beau-tea (beauty… get it?) shower! first we’re having afternoon tea, then we’re having a local salon come in to do mini manicures for everyone! if people want to bring gifts (not necessary) i’ve actually registered at sephora since i’ll be doing my own makeup on the wedding day an could use a few new things.
if your BMs or your family really want to throw a shower, you could find an alternative theme that you’re really interested in and make it more of a girl’s night (at the ballet? at a hockey game? at a jazz club? perhaps try out hot yoga or belly dancing?) where you can spend a little quality time with the women in your life than a traditional shower that is more focused on you specifically!
but if you’re truely uncomfortable your friends and family will understand!
Post # 8
ten friends is more then i have here! after moving home i’ve become sad and friendless. and i’m also not into being center of attention- my shower is sunday and i’m dreading opening presents in front of 30 something people, that’s the same number that we’re having at our ceremony. i think i would miss it though if i didn’t have a shower. but if you don’t really care, than it’s not necessary.
Post # 9
I don’t know if i will have one either becuase I don’t have any friends either!!!!
Post # 10
welll bees just to let you know you have already made me feel more at ease with having a shower. I think I might miss it if I didnt have one. I guess even if its just 10-15 people it really doesnt matter right? Its supposed to be about celebrating me! And I saw on another post a really really cute shower idea that made me want to have one!!!
Post # 11
I’m not having one. I told my MOH not to bother throwing me one, because I really don’t think I would enjoy it. I always hate going to other people’s showers and I really don’t think I would enjoy having my own. I wouldn’t enjoy people staring at me while I open gifts. Also, none of my family members are local and they would not be able to attend. Do whatever you feel is best for you…if you really want one then you should have it, showers don’t have to be large. I’ve been to showers where there was 40 people and one where there was only 10.